SuperKat 0 #1 August 5, 2005 I'm so bummed out. A buddy of mine got injured on Monday from doing a low turn, I lost a very good friend of mine last month, and now I lost a best friend from high school. He took his own life this past monday. That's the 3rd friend in 3 years that took their own life. I never kept in touch with any of them for a long time. I hope some of you get this as a message to never fail to keep in touch with a friend. You never know how you may or may positively impact that person from a phone call, e-mail or just from guzzling down some suds with 'em. I know you can't change the world but that's no excuse to not keep in touch. Here's what I wrote about him on my blog: I still can't believe that it's true. Tony, my best friend from high school, took his own life this past monday. I will be attending his wake today. A lot of friends will try to speculate why Tony did it or what was going through his mind to want to do such a thing. I, on the other hand want to remember the way he lived life. During our summer breaks from school, Tony and I used to get high or get drunk and break day just to watch the sunset every day for about 3 summers. We used to just talk about anything from family problems to stuff that made us tick. I used to be heavily into martial arts back then. I trained Tony how to do some moves. I choreographed a scheme with Tony to sike people out one day. We would practice our routine for weeks on end. Then, when we successfully complete the routine with our eyes practically closed we decided to test it out in public. First, we would cause a scene in the mall. He bumped into me and then I started shouting and we would get into our fight stance. Then, we swiftly executed all our choreographed martial arts moves. It was funny because we moved so fast and we put such emotion into it we actually looked like we wanted to kill eachother. The most funny part of it all. We did the moves so great we didn't even hit eachother. It was either I strike and he blocks or vice versa. For young teenagers, that was pretty damm good, if you ask me. We put about 20 moves altogether. It was great because people were calling the cops and everything. They were afraid to break us apart because so many fists and feet were flying around, someone would get knocked out. After our routine, we just shook hands and ran the hell out of there before the cops came. We really freaked people out. We then started to do our routine in fast food joints, beaches, and even in quiet neighborhoods. Well, one day, I fudged up and I kicked Tony so hard in the head, I cut him. Then, in a seperate incident, I got kicked in my solar plexus. Let's just say after a few times we both got sloppy and that was pretty much the end of it. So we just stuck to what we do best which was smokin' up and getting drunk. Tony was a great tennis player, he was an actor, swing dancer, he had a masters degree and he was a well to do guy. He was always considerate towards other people's feelings. Tony was a good guy. He was very respectable to parents when he greeted them. My mom hasn't seen him since 1985 but she remembers him very well. That made me smile. I'll miss you buddy. I'm sorry we never got back in contact with one another again. And I'm sorry for always putting off hanging out with you again a few years back. That's when work used to be so important to me. If I only knew back then what I know now.... Maybe you'd still be alive because I would have touched your life again and we would have been best buds again. I'll miss you bro. - This is from the NY Sun MAN JUMPS IN FRONT OF SUBWAY TRAIN A man jumped in front of a northbound subway car as it pulled into Union Square station early yesterday morning in an apparent suicide, police said. The man was identified as Antonio Lopez, 35, of Elmhurst, Queens, who worked as a computer specialist for New York City Transit, the authority that operates the subway. Lopez jumped from the platform onto the path of the oncoming N train at 5:34 a.m., police said. Service was disrupted for more than 90 minutes between Prince and 34th streets on the N line. In 2003, the last date for which statistics are available, 24 people committed suicide by "jumping or lying before a moving object," a category that includes subway trains, according to the city's Bureau of Vital Statistics. What's the most you ever lost in a coin toss, Friendo? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #2 August 5, 2005 MAJOR <<>> It's so hard to deal with a death of a loved one, especially when they take their own lives. Please realize what happened isn't your fault, and you know that there are tons of people around that are there for you. Try to think of the happy times, the story that you wrote is great, and it's those times that you have to focus on. Once again, I'm sorry for your loss. Hang in there, you have plenty of people who will be there for you. CReW Skies,"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sopheavy 0 #3 August 5, 2005 I'm sorry to hear about your losses. That's why I try to remind myself every day to live life to the fullest, be kind to everyone I meet no matter how bad they treat me because we never know when our last breath will be. I always make it a point to keep in touch with all of my friends. And even when I meet new people, I try to talk to them and encourage them because you never know what a simple smile or encouragement will do. I've known people who were ready to kill themselves or planning to and did not go through with it because someone intervened by listening to them or what not. Even a song on the radio can change people especially when they are very hurt and vulnerable. Everyday is a new day and we have got to make the best out of it. I'll be praying for you and your friend's family. Don't blame yourself EVER. Now all you can do is be an encouragement to your friends or family who need you.---------------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------------- If you want to see the rainbow, you gotta put up with the storm. God bless! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
namgrunt 0 #4 August 6, 2005 positive vibes sent your way sk remember you are responsible for only you stop beating yourself up over something you could not control ..59 YEARS,OVERWEIGHT,BALDIND,X-GRUNT LAST MIL. JUMP VIET-NAM(QUAN-TRI) www.dzmemories.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
