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Safe word

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Girlfalldown    0

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This is inspired by a PM I just received and I am interested in knowing how many of you engage in such activities that require you to have a safe word and what your safe word might be???:ph34r:>:(:P



I thought everyone did! :)

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IanHarrop    42

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I'm sure there are several people on here that have not a CLUE as to what I am talking about...



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safeword

Safeword
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.
A safeword is a codeword or series of codewords that are sometimes used in BDSM to mean that a bottom or submissive is reaching a limit or for the Top/Dom to stop the sceneplay. Safewords are agreed upon before playing a scene by all participants. Many organized BDSM groups have standard safewords that all members agree to use to avoid confusion at organized play events.

This is generally used so that the bottom can scream "no, stop", etc. as much as s/he wants without really meaning it, and still have a way of indicating a serious desire that the scene stops. Accordingly, a safeword is usually a word that the person would not ordinarily say during sex, such as red, tree, anomaly, or even safeword.

Some partners have different gradations of safeword, such as yellow to mean "that hurts" or "stop doing that" without stopping the scene, and red to mean "let's stop the scene". In other circumstances the safeword may not be a "word" at all, but a signal like dropping a ball or similar, or making three clear and rhythmic grunts or vigorous motions in the case of a person who is gagged or bound. A common convention of tops putting a finger in the bottom's hand is used if the bottom has become non-verbal, such as may happen as they reach subspace. In this scenario the bottom squeezes a pre-determined number of times to indicate OK.

A common request from the top to the bottom, to check on their status, is to ask "What is your color?" In addition to red and yellow, green is a common safe word used to indicate, "I'm fine."

In the case of sexual role-play, some simply drop out of character to safeword, such as having the submissive address the dominant by his/her first name.

While many in the BDSM community consider safewords an essential part of safe play, there is a significant contingent that does not have any such term in their relationships or their play. Some of these people simply use the word Stop. Others rely on the top to monitor the condition of the bottom and stop if necessary, at their discretion. In such circumstances the bottom or submissive must have consented not to have control over the duration of the scene in advance.

Interestingly some of those who recommend safewords do not, themselves, use them though this is not often discussed in public. There is an undercurrent assumption that play without safewords is an "advanced" technique and should not be advocated in the hearing of novices. BDSM activity without a safeword is regarded by many as inadvisable and dangerous.

If used, the safeword should be respected unconditionally. After the bottom uses the safeword, the scene is over, inflicting pain or any physical forcing should be stopped and all restraints should be removed immediately. Ignoring safewords is considered dishonorable and a deeply immoral practice in the BDSM community. (The "yellow safeword" mentioned above is however not obligatory.)

Retrieved from "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safeword"
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skydiverbry    0

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OK I have used the "word" & so did my partner,but it never invoved any such deplorable acts as you speak of. No not me never me really, Iwould never have been enjoyed something like THAT! NEVER! Uh think i;ll go now bye.
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goose491    0

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...oblivious as usual.



Soon, very soon, you will not be able to play coy. :P

Boys are catching on that girls... are not oblivious. :P

"It starts here!" Says Molson Canadian... lol and they are talking about such things.



My Karma ran over my Dogma!!!

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Girlfalldown    0

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I think the next question should be:

Have you ever had to USE your safeword? :$



well? were waiting?!:)


I've never had to use mine but an ex of mine had to use his once. I think his safe word was something like "Oh fuck stop it I can't take it anymore!"

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Rebecca    0

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OKLAHOMA...........;):ph34r:



Ugh! That would remind me WAY too much of Steve Martin as Ruprecht the monkey boy prancing around banging pots and pans yelling, "Oklahoma Oklahoma Oklahoma!!"

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you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk?

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