Shotgun 1 #51 June 17, 2005 I voted "No" because that was the closest answer to how I feel, but that's not entirely true... The past does matter to a certain extent, but not really the "Ho/Dog" aspect of it... There are way too many things to list that might contribute to someone's past making me not want to be involved with them, but what it mostly comes down to is whether it makes me perceive them as being an immoral or untrustworthy person (according to _my_ perception of what is "moral".) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #52 June 17, 2005 QuoteI have two friends back in NY who did do exactly that. When we would go out you could see they would get more attention. There was one occasion where a chick left the sec. she noticed the ring. wait, she left him alone when she noticed the ring? That would mean he DIDN'T get more attention, right?? i'm confused. Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #53 June 17, 2005 QuoteI was responding to Kele's encouragement to start a poll asking how many partners people have had. A 45 year old with 30 partners isn't ridiculous, but an 18 year old with 30 partners... well, I'd raise an eyebrow at that one. Then I'd ask for her phone number! I know a guy that's 28 and had been with 26 women... He's married now... I'd be interested in a poll... so... can I count myself as a partner? Or No?Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #54 June 17, 2005 He got more attention for the most part but there was one occasion where a chick walked away.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Designer 0 #55 June 17, 2005 Only if they screwd everything that walks(lol) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #56 June 17, 2005 QuoteSure it is! Many young people make many mistakes. So some guy you are dating says to you: "Oh no! Opps, I made a mistake, I slept with someone else." While he's dating you. IMO, if he had good morals he won't have make the "mistake" in the first place. Mistakes to me are: Forgetting to put the toilet seat down Forgetting to turn on the coffee in the morning Adding instead of subtracting in the checking account Wearing those Marsha Brady shirts Wearing hot pants Morals are beliefs that you live by.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #57 June 17, 2005 People's morals change throughout their lives as well. Some people start out religious and don't end up that way, and vice versa. (Just used religion as an example, because morals often are tied to it.) I'm not gonna hold someone accountable for something they did 10, 20, 30 years ago, but I will for something they did yesterday. The past is the past, but the more recent past can be a better indicator than ALL MISTAKES ever made. Have you never done something that you regret? Or even not that you regret, but that you wouldn't do now? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #58 June 17, 2005 QuoteI am reluctant to judge an adult for bad judgment as a child. I would be more concerned for judgment (or lack or) displayed as an adult. IMO this is how I've broken it down. Child=under the age of 13 I didn't think we were talking about actions of a child when it comes to deciding about having a relationship with them. I was thinking more along the lines that Darius was asking the question of past actions of adults.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #59 June 17, 2005 QuoteThe past is the past, but the more recent past can be a better indicator than ALL MISTAKES ever made. I'm thinking we are on the same page on this, since this is what I wrote on my first post to this thread. QuoteI'd look very careful at the person and see if they repeat the type of behavior that I wasn't comfortable with. QuoteHave you never done something that you regret? Or even not that you regret, but that you wouldn't do now? I think we all have done something that we regret or would never do again. I'm not saying I'm "holy" and have done no wrong. I'm thinking more along the lines of a situation like this: I find out the person I'm thinking about having a relationship with had a drug problem in the past. For me that's not a problem, but then I find out that the said person is now starting to hang out with a group of people that tend to party and do drugs. Will I have an issue with that? You can bet that I'm going to hang on and not rush into the relationship till I know for a fact that the person isn't doing drugs again.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #60 June 17, 2005 Ok, yeah, so we're saying the same thing . . . just in different words. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jeiber 0 #61 June 17, 2005 QuoteI'd be interested in a poll... so... can I count myself as a partner? Or No? I'm just trying to figure out a way to equally measure everyone's 'promiscuity'. I think I'm going to go with: number of years having sex / number of partners Hmmm, now what can we call this? Kelly suggested 'hump loading'! I'll probably start the poll Monday when I get to work. JeffShhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
