Vallerina 2 #1 May 26, 2005 I've heard people complain that their sex life is in a rut. I guess what I don't understand is how an orgasm can get boring. Even if you eat gourmet every night, well, it's still gourmet food! How can something good become routine? Obviously, I've never been married for 20 years. I can understand having sex less (especially if you have kids), but I can't see it becoming boring. Please explain!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mr2mk1g 10 #2 May 26, 2005 Some people are crap in bed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #3 May 26, 2005 Usually when the sex is boring or there's just nothing there anymore, that's when it's time to pack up your bags and leave... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #4 May 26, 2005 QuoteSome people are crap in bed. But then it's always bad, right? I'm talking about when things were good and then go to boring. Not always boring.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lolie 0 #5 May 26, 2005 The opposite of boring isn't "good," it's "exciting." So when people complain they're having "boring" sex, they mean it's not exciting, not that it's necessarily bad... Take your example of gourmet food. If you had the same exact gourmet food every night for 20 years, that doesn't mean that it doesn't taste good after that long, it just means that you'd like to try something new. Something can be good, but still lacking the excitement that most of us are looking for. -Miranda you shall above all things be glad and young / For if you're young,whatever life you wear it will become you;and if you are glad / whatever's living will yourself become. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #6 May 26, 2005 QuoteSomething can be good, but still lacking the excitement that most of us are looking for. That makes sense. However, I hear people say that they try "new things" but it's still lacking excitement.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lolie 0 #7 May 26, 2005 QuoteHowever, I hear people say that they try "new things" but it's still lacking excitement. Yeah, but that happens in any part of life. Some people think golf is really exciting, and some don't. Even if you've never played golf before, that doesn't mean that your first time trying it will be exciting. Maybe the people that say that they've tried "new things" but still lack excitement should try other new things, until they find something that is exciting. Fuck it, I'm way too innocent to even pretend like I know what I'm talking about. -Miranda you shall above all things be glad and young / For if you're young,whatever life you wear it will become you;and if you are glad / whatever's living will yourself become. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #8 May 26, 2005 I've been through this myself, and I've only been married 5 years. You just kind of have to do something different every now and then. Dress up in something sexy to get the excitement going, or go to an unusual place. One time my wife and I were in a bad rut that I decided to take a long lunch break from work and meet her at a motel up the road. She brought lunch and herself. It almost felt like an affair... It was awesome though..."Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tbrown 26 #9 May 26, 2005 QuoteUsually when the sex is boring or there's just nothing there anymore, that's when it's time to pack up your bags and leave... Either that or it's time for a couple to talk about it and work at it. That's what it takes to make a relationship, or especially a marriage go. If you just pack up and leave when the going gets tough, or bland, you'll NEVER have along or meaningful relationship. A lot of people just don't get that relationships take work. And the work helps you grow inside as a person too. It's not guaranteed to work out all the time, nothing ever does. But nothing ever lasts without work, and plenty of it. Your humble servant.....Professor Gravity ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #10 May 26, 2005 Some people can't seperate lust from love... and some people who think they're in love are really just lusting for each other. It's complicated. What time does is remove all that fogginess and reveal what your relationship is truly all about. That's probably why so many people break up after being together for only a few years. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #11 May 26, 2005 QuoteYou just kind of have to do something different every now and then. Dress up in something sexy to get the excitement going Like this? Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #12 May 26, 2005 Dayum! Damn that Jan Davis! I just know she is cackling at me from up there... "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #13 May 26, 2005 If the sex is boring and you just aren't getting anything out of it with the partner you are with, there is a reason that is the case. Many many factors play into it, but normally when you are having problems in other areas of your relationship it is ultimately going to roll over into the bedroom. I see it as if things aren't great in the bedroom then it's sort of the last straw. I'm definitely going to sit down and try and work things out before it gets to that point, but if things aren't working out and they continually get worse, then why stay in the situation? Why not allow yourself to be with someone that you were better suited for or actually meant to be with? I'm not saying that relationships are always FUN FUN FUN and at the first sight of trouble, runaway, but when all methods of working things out are exhausted, it's time to make a change... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mr2mk1g 10 #14 May 26, 2005 QuoteBut then it's always bad, right? No - some people might be good enough to make it good in the begining but overall crap because they lack the skills to keep the fun going. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #15 May 26, 2005 How does sex get boring? *** Same sheep...different day! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #16 May 26, 2005 Quoteor go to an unusual place. What..............like the next pasture over? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
champu 1 #17 May 26, 2005 QuoteHow does sex get boring? Ten threads a day for four years? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #18 May 26, 2005 QuoteQuoteHow does sex get boring? Ten threads a day for four years? Very succinctly put! My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fireflytx 0 #19 May 26, 2005 I don't know how the hell it would get boring with the right person."Well behaved women rarely make history" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #20 May 26, 2005 QuoteQuoteHow does sex get boring? Ten threads a day for four years? HAHAHAHAHAHA!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #21 May 26, 2005 I want to know the answer to this question, too... I can't imagine it getting boring?!? but what do I know.Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Designer 0 #22 May 26, 2005 Boring not!After three straight weeks of wed. night sex with my lady friend it was time to take a wed. night off!Got very good weather for this 4 day Holiday weekend and decided it would be better to be rested other than cranky & tired!We are constantly trying to keep it fun,safe and exciting,Kinda like Skydiving.Most times you sense when sex becomes to regular to be exciting?A 2 week lapse will just remind each other how much they missed each other for 1 week.Hungry again(lol) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #23 May 26, 2005 QuoteI don't know how the hell it would get boring with the right person. That is certainly the key... BUT boring people get even MORE boring after the lust goes away.. BEST bet.. avoid boring people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Salsa_John 0 #25 May 26, 2005 things get boring when people are no longer interested in pleasing the other person... open minds, imagination, and a little kink help out a great deal... I won't elaborate further.... "You did what?!?!" MUFF #3722, TDSM #72, Orfun #26, Nachos Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
