boinky 0 #1 April 26, 2005 QUESTION: Would it bother you if someone you knew read your personal mail? Would you consider it an invasion of privacy? STORY: You're friends with someone for a while and one of the first things that was ever said was that it [B]REALLY pisses you off when someone reads your e-mail, snail mail or any other private correspondence, without prior permission. It's not that you have anything to hide, persay. All they would have to do is ask a question point blank, and you would spill your guts. You hide nothing and are proud of your life and friends. It's just bothering things that belong to YOU that just aggravates the crap out of you. You leave your e-mail up while you have something to do and that someone reads your mail. You're clueless to this fact until later, when they ask a couple of questions that are [B]WAY too close to the truth to be coincidental questions.Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #2 April 26, 2005 Yeah...............that's shitty. Period. This "friend" should have had more respect for you than that. I say I don't need "friends" like that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #3 April 26, 2005 QuoteAll they would have to do is ask a question point blank There is no excuse for reading others mail. It's also rotten to be put in a position where one party has all the answers and you need to interogate them in order for them to give you information that should be given as a matter of course. tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IanHarrop 43 #4 April 26, 2005 I can forgive but I can never forget."Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops, that's where you'll find me" Dorothy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #5 April 26, 2005 QuoteIt's also rotten to be put in a position where one party has all the answers and you need to interogate them in order for them to give you information that should be given as a matter of course. Good point. Ask anyone and they'll tell you that I'm the first person to tell more about me and my life than I probably need to. But it was about something that wasn't actually THAT important and I never thought it was worth mentioning.Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydivingNurse 0 #6 April 26, 2005 Isn't reading someone else's mail a federal offense? I'd be pissed, I'd probably call them a few choice names and make disparaging comments about their ancestry, and then try to forgive them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #7 April 26, 2005 QuoteIsn't reading someone else's mail a federal offense? But is e-mail in that same category?Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #8 April 26, 2005 QuoteQuoteIsn't reading someone else's mail a federal offense? But is e-mail in that same category? ______________________ If not, e-mail should be. My wife, reading my e-mail, when I'm out of town is quite all-right. There may be something I have to respond to and she can do that for me. Someone else reading it? NO! I feel, it's an invasion of my privacy. Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Amazon 7 #9 April 26, 2005 If its a jealousy thing wanting to see what you are doing its a BAD sign and time for a new friend before it gets far worse. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #10 April 26, 2005 It wouldn't matter to me whether it was a jealousy issue or just a nosy issue. I have nothing to hide. I just don't like people touching my stuff without my permission. Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites yardhippie 0 #11 April 26, 2005 QuoteIt wouldn't matter to me whether it was a jealousy issue or just a nosy issue. I have nothing to hide. I just don't like people touching my stuff without my permission. AMEN. I have nothing to hide, and answer all questions honestly. (trust is something I value very highly). Now I may not answer, but thats a different story. anyway... Id be pissed if my "friend", S/O, etc. read my email w/o permission.Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Keith 0 #12 April 26, 2005 QuoteI just don't like people touching my stuff without my permission. Anybody who goes through my private anything without permission has issues. Issues I have no use for or a willingness to deal with. I'd confront them, then kick them to the curb.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ppgk 0 #13 April 26, 2005 It depends on who is reading it. My former roomate used to go through my mail and it drove me nuts. I don't share everything with all of my friends, so if I wanted them to know something I would have already told them. On the other hand, if my husband ever read my mail it would'nt bother me in the least because I already share everything with him and include him in all aspects of my life. After having a friend do it to me I just find it annoying,but I guess some people are just nosy and have to know everything. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Keith 0 #14 April 26, 2005 QuoteOn the other hand, if my husband ever read my mail it would'nt bother me in the least because I already share everything with him and include him in all aspects of my life. S.O.s are different. Why be in a committed relationship with someone you can't share everything with.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jenfly00 0 #15 April 26, 2005 QuoteQUESTION: Would it bother you if someone you knew read your personal mail? Would you consider it an invasion of privacy? STORY: You're friends with someone for a while and one of the first things that was ever said was that it [B]REALLY pisses you off when someone reads your e-mail, snail mail or any other private correspondence, without prior permission. It's not that you have anything to hide, persay. All they would have to do is ask a question point blank, and you would spill your guts. You hide nothing and are proud of your life and friends. It's just bothering things that belong to YOU that just aggravates the crap out of you. You leave your e-mail up while you have something to do and that someone reads your mail. You're clueless to this fact until later, when they ask a couple of questions that are [B]WAY too close to the truth to be coincidental questions. It would be cause for an immediate, serious and open discussion ...and a major red flag of warning about the realationship. Early in a relationship, they're gone. In a long(er) term commitment, I'm not saying it couldn't be worked out, but the odds would be against it. Jen----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ppgk 0 #16 April 26, 2005 I agree with you,but I do have some friends in committed relationships that keep everything seperate. They want their privacy and independence and would be just as upset over their s.o reading their mail as they would a random friend. They would consider it to be an invasion of privacy. It would be what I would want,but it seems to work for some. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #17 April 26, 2005 Once upon a time, it used to be a "committed relationship." Now it's in the ending stages. But it shouldn't matter. Privacy is privacy, no matter who you are or what it is...unless you have been invited to do it up front. They KNEW it bothers me to have my things "touched."Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Nightingale 0 #18 April 26, 2005 I have nothing to hide, and if my friends or SO asked me if they could read my mail, I'd probably let them. However, if they did it without asking me, it would imply that they thought that I did have something to hide, that I wasn't being straight with them, and that lack of trust would make me very angry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Snowwhite 0 #19 April 26, 2005 Let's see.. were you at work? Is it personal if it comes over the internet to your place of employment, and isn't supposed to be? There are a lot of maybes to this too. However, if I think someone is reading my mail, email or whatever without my permission, I would simply mention to them that I enjoy my privacy, and don't want it violated. I would let them know that if it is necessary for a second party to retrieve mail for me, I will give express permission to that party only. But thank you for showing an interest in my life...skydiveTaylorville.org freefallbeth@yahoo.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skysprite 0 #20 April 26, 2005 It really pisses me off when people read my mail, email, or go through my personal things without asking me. I think it's totally unacceptable. In a commited relationship things might be different, but I would had to have given prior permission etc.~skysprite Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #21 April 26, 2005 It's a breach of trust. Pure and simple. Personally, it's not something I'd stand for. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Girlfalldown 0 #22 April 26, 2005 Not cool unless otherwise talked about and ok'd. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites MarkM 0 #23 April 27, 2005 QuoteIt's a breach of trust. Pure and simple. Personally, it's not something I'd stand for. Ditto. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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Amazon 7 #9 April 26, 2005 If its a jealousy thing wanting to see what you are doing its a BAD sign and time for a new friend before it gets far worse. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #10 April 26, 2005 It wouldn't matter to me whether it was a jealousy issue or just a nosy issue. I have nothing to hide. I just don't like people touching my stuff without my permission. Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #11 April 26, 2005 QuoteIt wouldn't matter to me whether it was a jealousy issue or just a nosy issue. I have nothing to hide. I just don't like people touching my stuff without my permission. AMEN. I have nothing to hide, and answer all questions honestly. (trust is something I value very highly). Now I may not answer, but thats a different story. anyway... Id be pissed if my "friend", S/O, etc. read my email w/o permission.Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Keith 0 #12 April 26, 2005 QuoteI just don't like people touching my stuff without my permission. Anybody who goes through my private anything without permission has issues. Issues I have no use for or a willingness to deal with. I'd confront them, then kick them to the curb.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ppgk 0 #13 April 26, 2005 It depends on who is reading it. My former roomate used to go through my mail and it drove me nuts. I don't share everything with all of my friends, so if I wanted them to know something I would have already told them. On the other hand, if my husband ever read my mail it would'nt bother me in the least because I already share everything with him and include him in all aspects of my life. After having a friend do it to me I just find it annoying,but I guess some people are just nosy and have to know everything. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Keith 0 #14 April 26, 2005 QuoteOn the other hand, if my husband ever read my mail it would'nt bother me in the least because I already share everything with him and include him in all aspects of my life. S.O.s are different. Why be in a committed relationship with someone you can't share everything with.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenfly00 0 #15 April 26, 2005 QuoteQUESTION: Would it bother you if someone you knew read your personal mail? Would you consider it an invasion of privacy? STORY: You're friends with someone for a while and one of the first things that was ever said was that it [B]REALLY pisses you off when someone reads your e-mail, snail mail or any other private correspondence, without prior permission. It's not that you have anything to hide, persay. All they would have to do is ask a question point blank, and you would spill your guts. You hide nothing and are proud of your life and friends. It's just bothering things that belong to YOU that just aggravates the crap out of you. You leave your e-mail up while you have something to do and that someone reads your mail. You're clueless to this fact until later, when they ask a couple of questions that are [B]WAY too close to the truth to be coincidental questions. It would be cause for an immediate, serious and open discussion ...and a major red flag of warning about the realationship. Early in a relationship, they're gone. In a long(er) term commitment, I'm not saying it couldn't be worked out, but the odds would be against it. Jen----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ppgk 0 #16 April 26, 2005 I agree with you,but I do have some friends in committed relationships that keep everything seperate. They want their privacy and independence and would be just as upset over their s.o reading their mail as they would a random friend. They would consider it to be an invasion of privacy. It would be what I would want,but it seems to work for some. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #17 April 26, 2005 Once upon a time, it used to be a "committed relationship." Now it's in the ending stages. But it shouldn't matter. Privacy is privacy, no matter who you are or what it is...unless you have been invited to do it up front. They KNEW it bothers me to have my things "touched."Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #18 April 26, 2005 I have nothing to hide, and if my friends or SO asked me if they could read my mail, I'd probably let them. However, if they did it without asking me, it would imply that they thought that I did have something to hide, that I wasn't being straight with them, and that lack of trust would make me very angry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snowwhite 0 #19 April 26, 2005 Let's see.. were you at work? Is it personal if it comes over the internet to your place of employment, and isn't supposed to be? There are a lot of maybes to this too. However, if I think someone is reading my mail, email or whatever without my permission, I would simply mention to them that I enjoy my privacy, and don't want it violated. I would let them know that if it is necessary for a second party to retrieve mail for me, I will give express permission to that party only. But thank you for showing an interest in my life...skydiveTaylorville.org freefallbeth@yahoo.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skysprite 0 #20 April 26, 2005 It really pisses me off when people read my mail, email, or go through my personal things without asking me. I think it's totally unacceptable. In a commited relationship things might be different, but I would had to have given prior permission etc.~skysprite Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #21 April 26, 2005 It's a breach of trust. Pure and simple. Personally, it's not something I'd stand for. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #22 April 26, 2005 Not cool unless otherwise talked about and ok'd. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkM 0 #23 April 27, 2005 QuoteIt's a breach of trust. Pure and simple. Personally, it's not something I'd stand for. Ditto. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
