Muenkel 0 #26 March 29, 2005 Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #27 March 29, 2005 My husband and I did discuss this. He would be with someone else, and if he was the dead one would want me to find happiness with someone else. I would have a hard time being with someone else since in my head, I'd be constantly comparing him with Chad, so probably wouldn't do it. And I don't want him letting me go so easily as to find some other girl, but would understand if he did. This is hypothetical though, until actually in the situation, we can all only guess. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,544 #28 March 29, 2005 Quote I thought of my parents. They're coming up on 49 years of marriage. I cannot even fathom either one dating someone else. My mom and dad were married for 42 years; she died about 10 years ago. He's got a new girlfriend now (his second fairly serious girlfriend in about 5 years). I couldn't be happier for him. My aunt and uncle were married for over 50 when she died; my uncle married a neighbor (and nurse to my aunt) within a year or so. We're so happy he did -- he's far healthier and happier than he would have been alone, and so is she. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #29 March 29, 2005 Quote I thought of my parents. They're coming up on 49 years of marriage. I cannot even fathom either one dating someone else. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- My mom and dad were married for 42 years; she died about 10 years ago. He's got a new girlfriend now (his second fairly serious girlfriend in about 5 years). I couldn't be happier for him. My aunt and uncle were married for over 50 when she died; my uncle married a neighbor (and nurse to my aunt) within a year or so. We're so happy he did -- he's far healthier and happier than he would have been alone, and so is she. Don't get me wrong, if either of my parents fell in love again, I would be extremely happy. I just think it would be weird for me...that's all. That would be my problem to get over. Congrats to your Dad for finding love again.Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #30 March 29, 2005 I put don't know, because for me it would all depend on the time, surrounding circumstances,etc. Like, if I had a few young kids, I would definitely want them to grow up with a father figure and would have to find Frenchy another man. I think if I lost my spouse, there is a good chance I would want to live the rest of my life with someone, but I guess it would all really depend on what I felt at the time. Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #31 March 30, 2005 Yes, in time and once the grieving process had passed, I could. And, I'd want my S.O. to find someone as well.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #32 March 30, 2005 I'm fix'n to get married... I really don't know if I could ever get over the loss if it happened. God I hope I never find out.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lightningbugirl 0 #33 March 30, 2005 Quote I put don't know, because for me it would all depend on the time, surrounding circumstances,etc. Like, if I had a few young kids, I would definitely want them to grow up with a father figure and would have to find Frenchy another man. I think if I lost my spouse, there is a good chance I would want to live the rest of my life with someone, but I guess it would all really depend on what I felt at the time.got it bad for Frenchy don't you Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RevJim 0 #34 March 30, 2005 Quote I am not married, but was thinking about this. I honestly don't know how I would answer this. My first instinct would be to say No. Your first instinct would most likely be wrong. What the hell would I do with all these nails?It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #35 March 30, 2005 My ex-wife asked me if I would ever re-marry after her death. She asked if I would take the new woman out on our boat or give her my ex's golf clubs. What a silly question. My ex's clubs are right-handed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #36 March 30, 2005 yes yeah sure why notPlease feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #37 March 30, 2005 Quote I'm fix'n to get married... what's up with all the people in the south, always trying to fix things? Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #38 March 30, 2005 Well my wife and I have been together for 17 years and if she were to die I'm certain that I would be spouse less for quite awhile, but eventually I'd be in an emotional position to want a partner again. I'm still only 40(ish) if I live to be 80 that's a really long time to be aloneYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gordy 0 #39 March 30, 2005 It would take time, but yes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ncrowe 0 #40 March 30, 2005 Depends on the spouse, I might be hoping for it. "Don't Mess Around With the Guy in Shades- Oh No!!! " Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #41 March 30, 2005 We are gathered here this..........to unite this man................and this woman................... in the bonds of holy matrimony which is an honorable estate. Into this, these two now come to be joined. If anyone present can show just and legal cause why they may not be joined, let them speak now or forever hold their peace. Who gives this woman to this man? (MAN), will you have this woman as your lawful wedded wife, to live together in the estate of matrimony? Will you love her, honor her, comfort her, and keep her in sickness and in health; forsaking all others, be true to her as long as you both shall live? (I will). (WOMAN), will you have this man as your lawful wedded husband, to live together in the estate of matrimony? Will you love him, honor him, comfort him, and keep him in sickness and in health; forsaking all others, be true to him as long as you both shall live? (I will). --------------------------------------------------------------------------- THE RING BEHOLD the symbol of wedlock. The perfect circle of love, the unbroken union of this man and this woman united here today. May you both remain faithful to this symbol of true love. Please join hands and repeat after me (man first, while placing ring on proper fingers). I,................, take................as my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. I,..................., take...................as my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- For as much as..............and ................have consented together in wedlock, and have witnessed the same before this company of friends and family, and have given and pledged their promises to each other, and have declared the same by giving and receiving a ring, and by joining hands. By the authority vested in me by............................. I pronounce this couple to be husband and wife. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Seems pretty clear to me. 4 times it says "Not forever." My 1st rig never lasted forever - but I'm still skydiving! tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #42 March 30, 2005 Quote Being that you are still physically able to type I'm guessing that you are able to outrun her. She's short, it takes her two steps to my one. The good thing is if I ever had a girlfriend, I could hide her on the top shelf and my wife would never find herI am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #43 March 30, 2005 That's only one way of doing the ceremony. Some vows are not "till death do us part", or "for as long as we both shall live". Some are eternal, and state it as such. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #44 March 30, 2005 Quote That's only one way of doing the ceremony. Some vows are not "till death do us part", or "for as long as we both shall live". Some are eternal, and state it as such. Here in South Carolina I think that it's "'til I got to whup your sorry ass for drinking my last PBR"I am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #45 March 30, 2005 I think you gotta be careful about making promises that may clash with your ideology. Fortunately my beliefs in this respect are fairly benign, with the idea that you meet the same souls in each lifetime and continue for all eternity until you get your shit sorted out. Christianity could be very tricky if you have to spend eternity with all your previous wives and all their previous husbands, don't you think? Not really my idea of heaven, but that's just me. I don't want this moved to speakers and have someone tell me that we'll all be free to own whatever guns we think we need in heaven! tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #46 March 30, 2005 I was mostly just off on a tangent. There's one religion in particular where people are married for eternity, but you can only marry ONE person for eternity. Any subsequent marriages end with death, as they are done civilly, not in the holy, spiritual manner. I still say I would probably re-marry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #47 March 30, 2005 I think most people who think marrying for eternity is a good idea are probably around 20 years old. Till death do us part I can live with, if you pardon the pun. It allows the escape clause of murder or suicide. I can think of nothing worse than killing myself to get away from my spouse, only to find she's killed herself and is back by my side for all eternity. Our current lives offer only the garentee of death. Not even taxes are certain. I think it's a fair place to draw the line. tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #48 March 30, 2005 Quote I think most people who think marrying for eternity is a good idea are probably around 20 years old. Funny you should say that . . . In all likelihood, I'm not going to get married for eternity, but you never know . . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
