girlygirl 0 #51 March 24, 2005 I love it. Thank you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #52 March 24, 2005 Married twice, divorced twice. First marriage ended due to him cheating. Second marriage ended due to the death of our child - some relationships can not survive death. I learned a lot about myself, relationships, and life. Would I get married again? Definitely - if the right one comes along.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyingferret 0 #53 March 24, 2005 agreed. I stay out of Speaker's Corner too...my doctor told me to -- All the flaming and trolls of wreck dot with a pretty GUI. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #54 March 24, 2005 I was married at 25, got divorced. Learned? Before 30, people get married because of a lot of emotional needs or a fantasy of their future life together. Around 35, the insecurities and needs are quieted, so many people don't "need" another person to have a complete life. I know quite a few 30+ people who have happy single lives. They aren't considering marriage because they find no value added. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #55 March 24, 2005 Quoteagreed. I stay out of Speaker's Corner too...my doctor told me to lol! I had to stop going into Speaker's Corner, too. I also stopped reading W/L debates, and all of the "should I be swooping at xx jumps" debates as well -A Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AirMail 0 #56 March 24, 2005 Married twice and divorced twice. First time at 18 divorced at 23. Married again at 26 and divorced at 60. Lessons learned. Treat them better because you get what you give (usually). P--- It's never too late to have a happy childhood. Postal Rodriguez, Muff 3342 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #57 March 24, 2005 DOn't get divorced without extensive cousiling 1st. Not all gets "shared" and worked out in a few sessions. We talked 18 months after our divorce and we both had the same questions:"I though YOU wanted to get divorced? no , you did...nope" We lived in separate States by then. We were Married at 19 and could have stayed to gether forever if she would have just spoke up rather than withdraw._______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #58 March 24, 2005 Married once for 10 years. I got two beautiful girls from the deal and a ton of baggage. being the perfect wife is not possible no matter who hard you try. Generally I've dated guys that i knew would never lead down that path and the one that I thought possibly I could let in was nothing but a total liar so I swore off men as companions and chose to be happy with me because I don't generally hurt myself. Now my best friend for the past 6 months and I are looking at our options. We know that NOTHING will ever get in the way of our friendship even a relationship so are being very careful. I know that I'm going to be like LizzardLarry in that someone is going to die if I ever do it again and it doesn't work out so make sure before things get that serious. Either you commit or you leave but no leaving after the commitment. I don't expect perfect either I expect willingness to work through ANYTHING and HONESTY above all else. I won't excuse cheating and expect him not to either, I won't take kindly to lies ever and expect the same from him, I want interaction and will gladly work to get it because.... The basis of a realtionship is communication, The basis of a good relationship is understanding. That said 99% of the guys I know just ran the other way because they can't handle brutal honesty. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl 0 #59 March 24, 2005 wow. people had a lot to say Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tink1717 2 #60 March 24, 2005 I'm a two time loser in the engagement dept. I have learned that after all is said and done, it's simply not worth it. Skydivers don't knock on Death's door. They ring the bell and runaway... It really pisses him off. -The World Famous Tink. (I never heard of you either!!) AA #2069 ASA#33 POPS#8808 Swooo 1717 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #61 March 24, 2005 QuoteThat said 99% of the guys I know just ran the other way because they can't handle brutal honesty. Most women can't either . But yeah, communication is hard. Half the time I don't know what I'm thinking... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aerohaga 0 #62 March 24, 2005 QuoteQuotehahaha....well to start off with it should be illeagle get married before you are 25. I agree 100% on this...Married 22...divorced 26 Me too-married at 17 divorced at 36 married again at 38-wtf am I thinking????For my part, I know nothing with any certainty, But the sight of the stars makes me dream. -Vincent Van Gogh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpingbean001 0 #63 March 24, 2005 I have been married for 5 years and divorced for 10. Decided I did not like the hurt that came from that and would make sure that the next one was worth the chance it may happen again. Dating someone now who may be worth that chance. Have to say that cause he might read this! Seriously, I am still very cautious and still require my space and time to think. I think caution and observation are important lessons to learn. When a person feels totally healed (or mostly anyway), then that person can decide if they are willing to take a chance on that kind of pain again. To make a person promise they will never hurt you is setting yourself up. Working on an open and honest relationship that is willing to work on 'bumps' is the best I can hope for....and is what I expect. Tammie Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crutch 0 #64 March 24, 2005 And who may that be? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpingbean001 0 #65 March 24, 2005 That did not take long! Punk! You are supposed to be talking to me...not looking to see what I write about you! Love You! Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crutch 0 #66 March 24, 2005 Now I know why it takes you so long to reply to me! Love you too! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mnealtx 0 #67 March 24, 2005 QuoteOh and one more thing...Divorce is expensive Yes, it is...but it's going to be SOOOO worth it!! Married at 21, divorcing at 39. Much the same as the other poster, it would've been nice if she'd just SAID she wanted something different... Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mouth 0 #68 March 24, 2005 QuoteQuoteThat said 99% of the guys I know just ran the other way because they can't handle brutal honesty. Most women can't either . But yeah, communication is hard. Half the time I don't know what I'm thinking... I honestly believe I can handle honestly in any form. What I can't handle is the withdrawl where I KNOW soemthing is wrong and you say nothing...that is a lie. I don't care if you say you hate what I'm wearing or how my hair looks I care if you love me inspite of all that. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites nanook 1 #69 March 24, 2005 Engaged once. . . then 9/11 happened and a lot of short notice dissappearing acts and long deployments that lasted a couple of years. She found out she couldn't handle it. So we broke it off. I transferred to the Left Coast(by some good luck on my part) for shore duty. Don't know what I learned yet, but I'm just hanging out having fun till I get out in 10 months._____________________________ "The trouble with quotes on the internet is that you can never know if they are genuine" - Abraham Lincoln Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gjhdiver 0 #70 March 24, 2005 Quote What have YOU learned from it all? No matter how beautiful, rich and intellegent a woman is, there's some guy somewhere who's tired of her shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Muenkel 0 #71 March 25, 2005 Engaged at 27. Fortunately I realized in time that it was more infatuation and physical. I would do it again. I like to think I'm a lot wiser now...but who knows? Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #72 March 25, 2005 I learned that my ex-wife is a NUT! I also learned that I can be a pretty tough person to love sometimes. I do what I do and nobody can change the basic me. Hopefully, I can find a chick someday that can actually put up with me. Divorced for 8 years Nothing long term since then. We'll see what happens......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jessica 0 #73 March 25, 2005 QuoteHopefully, I can find a chick someday that can actually put up with me. Should've made a move before I got taken! Ha!Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites antifnsocial 0 #74 March 25, 2005 People piss my off and fade away. A lot. Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites moodyskydiver 0 #75 March 25, 2005 Engaged at 17 and broke the engagement off at 18. We found out we had different views on what our future would be and mine definitely was not going to be a house wife.I wanted to go to college. Engaged again at 19 and broke it off at 20.Apparently some people think that giving someone an engagement ring/getting married gives them the right to be abusive.Screw that!goodbye Joe. I learned that I can do good and/or bad by myself.I don't necessarily need a man to be there with me.(bottom line: I was young and stupid).I also learned not to get in a big damn hurry about things like these because I'm young and have time to live and learn. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 3 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
mnealtx 0 #67 March 24, 2005 QuoteOh and one more thing...Divorce is expensive Yes, it is...but it's going to be SOOOO worth it!! Married at 21, divorcing at 39. Much the same as the other poster, it would've been nice if she'd just SAID she wanted something different... Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #68 March 24, 2005 QuoteQuoteThat said 99% of the guys I know just ran the other way because they can't handle brutal honesty. Most women can't either . But yeah, communication is hard. Half the time I don't know what I'm thinking... I honestly believe I can handle honestly in any form. What I can't handle is the withdrawl where I KNOW soemthing is wrong and you say nothing...that is a lie. I don't care if you say you hate what I'm wearing or how my hair looks I care if you love me inspite of all that. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nanook 1 #69 March 24, 2005 Engaged once. . . then 9/11 happened and a lot of short notice dissappearing acts and long deployments that lasted a couple of years. She found out she couldn't handle it. So we broke it off. I transferred to the Left Coast(by some good luck on my part) for shore duty. Don't know what I learned yet, but I'm just hanging out having fun till I get out in 10 months._____________________________ "The trouble with quotes on the internet is that you can never know if they are genuine" - Abraham Lincoln Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gjhdiver 0 #70 March 24, 2005 Quote What have YOU learned from it all? No matter how beautiful, rich and intellegent a woman is, there's some guy somewhere who's tired of her shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #71 March 25, 2005 Engaged at 27. Fortunately I realized in time that it was more infatuation and physical. I would do it again. I like to think I'm a lot wiser now...but who knows? Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #72 March 25, 2005 I learned that my ex-wife is a NUT! I also learned that I can be a pretty tough person to love sometimes. I do what I do and nobody can change the basic me. Hopefully, I can find a chick someday that can actually put up with me. Divorced for 8 years Nothing long term since then. We'll see what happens......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #73 March 25, 2005 QuoteHopefully, I can find a chick someday that can actually put up with me. Should've made a move before I got taken! Ha!Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #74 March 25, 2005 People piss my off and fade away. A lot. Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moodyskydiver 0 #75 March 25, 2005 Engaged at 17 and broke the engagement off at 18. We found out we had different views on what our future would be and mine definitely was not going to be a house wife.I wanted to go to college. Engaged again at 19 and broke it off at 20.Apparently some people think that giving someone an engagement ring/getting married gives them the right to be abusive.Screw that!goodbye Joe. I learned that I can do good and/or bad by myself.I don't necessarily need a man to be there with me.(bottom line: I was young and stupid).I also learned not to get in a big damn hurry about things like these because I'm young and have time to live and learn. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
