Saying how you feel: maturity, or desperation?

[Slappie 9]

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Leauges exist to some extent let's face it.
But love can be stronger than minor social status differences.

Why do they exist? It's because we let them. We as a society let them exist.

I fought social status bullshit when I was in college. I went to UT with a scholarship.. I didn't have money and I didn't fit in. BUT I was able to land some of the hottest richest babes in the school. Because I had confidence in myself. I didn't care that their daddies were super lawyers and pro-sports personalities. I just didn't care. Yea I got shot down alot more then I scored, but I kept shooting and scored alot. People are people.. strip away the money, the fame the clothes, cars and material and social barriers. Everyone is still human. It's these barriers we perseive that limit us from social interaction.

"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

[cocheese 0]

They exist because we WANT them to.
Cindy Crawford doesn't want some nasty homeless guy hitting on her.
And i don't want Cindy Crawford hitting on me... Wait ! I mean...

[plowdirt 0]

hypothetical answer. People are not always what we think they are. actually they never are. we label them in this case "out of your league"

and guess what in the long run they are just as foolish and shy and clumsy as any of us. and most of the time you think wow what was I thinking.
My thought. you have to meet a million to find the right one.

And there's always a chance. It's all about presentation. NOW go get um.

[CSpenceFLY 1]

Pursue...it's just another word for STALKING

[turtlespeed 226]

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Pursue...it's just another word for STALKING

Werd!



Awe Kel -
I'm not outta your league. If you wanna tell me how you feel - I can take the insult.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[Dougiefresh 0]

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Maturity. What if he's thinking the same thing ?

Life is too short not to tell those you like that you like them.

Plant the seed. Let him know.

Ditto. I was the situation once where I knew she was leaving -- out of my life, as it turned out, but still let her know how I felt about her. I would have really regretted holding that back, and dealing with the what-ifs. Goferit.

Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so. --Douglas Adams

[windcatcher 0]

well, I say communication is best, but if he's a friend, would things become ackward if those feelings were revealed and not reciprocated???

by the way, I agree with Slappie
No one is out of your league

Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...

[kelel01 1]

I swear I'm not a stalker.

That'll be all.

[MochaSkyChick 0]

I says go for it. What's the worst that could happen? They say "No" and you're a little disappointed.

Disappointment doesn't kill....it only maims.

PMS #62
Zarza R[red

[kelel01 1]

I didn't need that right leg anyway.

You're all correct, of course, although it has now dawned on me that he might actually read this . . . in which case I'll need a mustache, a wig, and a new identity.

[IanHarrop 42]

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I swear I'm not a stalker.

This is a common claim made by most stalkers!

"Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops, that's where you'll find me" Dorothy

[unformed 0]

No one is out of your league unless you let them be out of your league. If you're worried about being too blunt, fuck, just go and ask him to come with you to the club, or buy him a drink. It's subtle, obviously not desperate, but you're making your point. Then let it go from there.

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[RfukfreeflyingW 0]

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I didn't need that right leg anyway.

You're all correct, of course, although it has now dawned on me that he might actually read this . . . in which case I'll need a mustache, a wig, and a new identity.

u may have less of a chance with that mustasche. I'm just saying I wouldnt be turned on by it... but thats just one man's opinion

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-God, you are the perfect amount of dumb...

[kelel01 1]

LMAO. I'm literally laughing so hard that I'm crying.

[billvon 3,070]

>Would this be viewed as an act of maturity, or just plain old desperation?

Neither one. If you want to do it, then do it. At best it's an act of honesty.

[gmanpilot 0]

It has been shown that most people (rock stars and rich dudes excluded) end up with someone "in their league". Water seeks it's own level. As much as I would like to get a date with Salma Hayek or Penelope Cruz, it aint gonna happen.

I will say this though, I have had relationships with some smokin hot girls who were, at first glance, out of my league. It only happened because we were friends first and things kind of evolved naturally. Don't press the issue...just be friends and go with the flow.

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-There's always free cheese in a mouse trap.

[turtlespeed 226]

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I didn't need that right leg anyway.

You're all correct, of course, although it has now dawned on me that he might actually read this . . . in which case I'll need a mustache, a wig, and a new identity.

Am I the only one here getting the "Nine 1/2 Weeks" image going on?

[Homer]Hmmmm mustache[/Homer]

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[GeordieSkydiver 0]

What Slappie said, each post, but without the venom.

Everyone is equal in my book.

Lets face it, our shit all stinks.

Edited to add, I say go for it, if they turn you down, its their loss.

Lee _______________________________

In a world full of people, only some want to fly, is that not crazy?
http://www.ukskydiver.co.uk

[Thanatos340 1]

I am going to throw in my two cents worth and agree with what most others have already said.

Lay it on the line. Get it out in the open.
Sometimes Men (and some women for that matter)cannot see something that you think is blatantly obvious. If you have an Interest beyond your current friendship, Make sure they know that., Anything else would be dishonest.

And after you open your Heart to them and if then they reject you or use that horrible "I only want to be Friends" line on you, Kick em in the Nuts and walk away.
Either way you will feel better afterwards!!

[pyke 0]

Dang it, Kel - had I known there was this much drama around you I would have queried you about it on Sunday!

Here's my .02:
Be honest to yourself more than anyone. Look at how you feel/act around this person, and whether or not you're 'signalling' to that person you like them. How does he respond back to you? Have you found yourselves alone (at the dropzone) together talking...what was the conversation like, friendly, flirty, ??
Do you consider this person a friend outside of the dropzone? If so, then you should be able to approach them openly, honestly & not suffer the rejection of a 'no thanks' right away. If he is a "decent" person - and isn't interested, he could/should/may just thank you for your honesty, hug you, and tell you that he prefers to be friends. If he doesn't do that - he could wrap you in his arms, lay you back, and plant a wet one right on your lips!!


What do you lose?
[nb: all references to 'he', 'they' & 'them' can be replaced by 'Tom Hayden' at your discretion!]

Kahurangi e Mahearangi,
Kiwi, RB #926, AFF-I, FAA Snr. Rigger, RN/BSN/Paramedic

[metalslug 36]

gmanpilot has said it best.

There is definitely such a thing as "out of my league". There are many women above my league,
and I will never chase until I think I can actualy catch.
In nature, if you sit quiet and still; you will see, hear and get close to beautiful creatures that begin to trust you, but too much movement and noise often scares them off. Sometimes a social circle can be like that.

As far as "maturity or desperation" goes, the opinion of the person you're going to encounter is the one that matters here, and it can vary. The good news is that guys are a lot more easy-going, even if he's not interested you'll still have made his day.
The real question here is perhaps how you might feel if he politely rejects you.
For me, I know I dont have even half the courage that Slappie has.

[Slappie 9]

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What Slappie said, each post, but without the venom.

wow, there is venom in my posts? I never knew. That's cool people can pickup on my vibes.

"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

[missg8tordivr 0]

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wow, there is venom in my posts? I never knew. [Angelic] That's cool people can pickup on my vibes.

I didn't take it that way. Just thought you felt strongly about the subject and you were being passionate. It happens to us all!

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F LORIDA!

[GeordieSkydiver 0]

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wow, there is venom in my posts? I never knew. [Angelic] That's cool people can pickup on my vibes.

I didn't take it that way. Just thought you felt strongly about the subject and you were being passionate. It happens to us all!

There's mild venom and nasty venom.

You choose.

Lee _______________________________

In a world full of people, only some want to fly, is that not crazy?
http://www.ukskydiver.co.uk

[Zep 0]

I vote Slappie gets DZ com man of the year award for his great answers

Gone fishing