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kelel01

Saying how you feel: maturity, or desperation?

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Hypothetical situation:

You like someone you have no chance with (not taken, just out of your league), but you really want to tell them how you feel, just to get it out in the open. Would this be viewed as an act of maturity, or just plain old desperation?

Thoughts?

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Hypothetical situation:

You like someone you have no chance with (not taken, just out of your league), but you really want to tell them how you feel, just to get it out in the open. Would this be viewed as an act of maturity, or just plain old desperation?

Thoughts?



No one is out of anyones league! WTF you got with this "out of your league" shit? People are people. If they place themselves on a pedastal and think they're better then others.. "Fuck them"

Now on to the question... I would feel it's a mature way to respond to a situation. You like someone, you know they're not in a relationship. Let them know.


*waits for his pm* :)



"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

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(not taken, just out of your league)




I don’t get this. I am no Brad Pitt. But I don’t think there is any one that I would think is out of my league.
First I would be worried why you or this hypothetical person feels that way.

Chemistry now that’s different. You can sometimes feel if he/she is in too you. Trust your feelings.
If you think there is something there pursue it.
and good luck
I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

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No one is out of anyones league! WTF you got with this "out of your league" shit? People are people. If they place themselves on a pedastal and think they're better then others.. "Fuck them"

Now on to the question... I would feel it's a mature way to respond to a situation. You like someone, you know they're not in a relationship. Let them know.



I totally agree with Slappie. Just let the guy know. If he doesn't like it or he isn't responsive, fuck him. There are a million other guys out there waiting. That's my philosophy anyway.

The Original Cabana Boy!

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I think I have some insight on this situation, yes? ( and NO, Lee, its not Tom.. :P)
I think you should keep it on a friend level while keeping your eyes peeled for mutual admiration. He is not out of your league... but there are ways to test the waters before diving in.

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Good insights. It helps to have someone who has knowledge of the hypothetical situation. :P;):D



Kel you're not being honest in this thread. This question is about you and some dude you find hot, but think he's out of your league. First off if you're asking for advice, be honest with the people you're asking. Secondly.. WTF is your league? Seriously, if you feel this guy is out of your league... You need somemore self esteem. NO ONE is out of my league. I don't care what IRS bracket, if she's on the cover of some magazine. If you have confidence in yourself, no one is out of your league.. People all have to put their pants on one leg at a time. People are people. There shouldn't be leagues.

I view this as a "class" situation. God this pisses me off when people view others as being "better then themselves" grab your panties and pull them up. Then go talk to the dude.



"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

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Good insights. It helps to have someone who has knowledge of the hypothetical situation. :P;):D



Oh please we all know all of your hypothetical situations are real. Nobody will guess.. cause even though I know, I can think of several other qualifying candidates. And I'm not even including Spence! B|
We all love Spence, everyone knows that!

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Well, I was mostly joking about the "hypothetical" part, because I figured it would be pretty obvious. :D Although in the past, I have posted some truly hypothetical (honestly, I swear) situations that I just wondered about, so I can see why it would seem I was lying.

As far as leagues go, though, I'm gonna have to disagree. I think there are definitely people who are unattainable to others. It probably has more to do with the attitude of the "unattainable" person than the person pursuing them, but it's still a very real thing that factors in.

But whatever . . . it's not a big deal.

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It probably has more to do with the attitude of the "unattainable" person than the person pursuing them, but it's still a very real thing that factors in.



Then Kel, you have to move on. People who view themselves this way are pretty worthless. Like the "skygod" syndrome... they think their way better then anyone else and refuse to jump with anyone who's not in their "league"

WTF get over yourself. These types of people tend to pigeon hole themselves and miss out on some of the best things in life.. That's relationships and friendships with others.

I really really hate (yes hate) people with these types of attitudes and personalities. They suck the life out of everything around them.



"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

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No, everone is "attainable" some are just harder to get then others. The Idea of being unattainable is all in the persuers (as u like to put it) head. Most people just give up without putting in ALL of the effort for some people. everyone assumes that if u don't "get" the person the first time u try, it's over. but the fact is, alot of people know someone for years before anything happens between them.
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I'm such a meanie sometimes. :| I just get fired up when people feel they're not as good as another person.

I respect other people for who they are, and what they've done. But, I would never feel I couldn't strike up a conversation or express my feelings about them.

People will always know where they stand with me.



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Maturity. What if he's thinking the same thing ?
Life is too short not to tell those you like that you like them.
Plant the seed. Let him know.
:)Leauges exist to some extent let's face it.
But love can be stronger than minor social status differences.
You're a skydiver... What are you afraid of ?
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