windcatcher 0 #1 February 22, 2005 Again, I thrive on knowing these kinds of things, ever since I was young I crave to learn about ways to improve communication, conflict resolution, how to love, listen,etc. please keep joking/hijacking to a mimimum. Thank you So, what I want to hear in this post, is ways people make you feel loved, as in details needed. Meaning, things like: receiving care packages being told certain things being listened to lots of hugs and kisses extravagant gifts small, but meaningful gifts massages, physical touch someone serving you cards, poems, letters quality time together what?? What are things your family and friends do to you specifically, that when you find out about, it makes you feel genuinely loved? Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #2 February 22, 2005 To me, feeling loved is having someone around ANYTIME I need it.__________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #3 February 22, 2005 receiving care packages - I get those from people being told certain things - words ain't enough being listened to - my therapist doesn't love me lots of hugs and kisses - Okay, maybe there extravagant gifts - nope. Those are just gifts small, but meaningful gifts - same as above massages, physical touch - I can pay for a massage someone serving you - waiters serve me, too cards, poems, letters - pre-canned, many of them quality time together - I do that with clients These cannot make me feel loved. The only person who can make me feel loved is me. I'll put it this way - how many people commit suicide? They don't "feel" loved. A recent one (last week) showed an outpouring of love I could only dream of. That person didn't feel loved, which is a shame because he was. Feeling loved can only come from within. That's the shame of it. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kris 0 #4 February 22, 2005 QuoteThese cannot make me feel loved. The only person who can make me feel loved is me. Well said. Others can make us feel cared for. Others can express their love for us to us...but in the end, it's all up to the person.Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nacmacfeegle 0 #5 February 22, 2005 The dawg jumping all over me when I get home from work, and the wee boy using me as a bouncy castle. Both are unconditional. By the way Kris.... "Quantum materiae materietur marmota monax si marmota monax materiam possit materiari?" Si hoc legere scis, nimis eruditionis habes. -------------------- He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me. Thomas Jefferson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gordy 0 #6 February 22, 2005 I think we all have different triggers, that cause it, after all its just a feeling Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #7 February 22, 2005 QuoteThese cannot make me feel loved. The only person who can make me feel loved is me. QuoteFeeling loved can only come from within. God, you are amazing, Jerrry. I agree completely. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kris 0 #8 February 22, 2005 QuoteSi hoc legere scis, nimis eruditionis habes. Ipse valere opto et taetrum hunc deponere morbum.Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #9 February 22, 2005 I recieve (constantly) all the things you've mentioned. Not all at once of course, it's always surprises. The best part is, I've been married almost 9-yrs. She makes me laugh a lot and has all these little ways of keeping it 'new'. She's easy to give those things back to. (I'm not referring to 're-gifting'.) You know, what I mean. Brings a lot of truth to the old saying; 'Third time's a charm!' Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nacmacfeegle 0 #10 February 22, 2005 Penicillin.... Google makes me look smart.-------------------- He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me. Thomas Jefferson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Acensky 0 #11 February 22, 2005 To have someone there, no matter what. They are just a phone call away. To cheer you up after you have had 'one of those days'. plus all the you listed too. Thats nice to have. Heather p.s. you always come up with the nicest threads.Garbage bags do not make good parachutes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #12 February 22, 2005 knowing that she actually cares and would enjoy affection. I still search for affection, I always have, still waiting though. I get great hugs from my kids_______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #13 February 22, 2005 For me, it's the same as many here... Having someone who is there for you all the time, no matter what. Someone who wants to be there because they love you back just as much as you love them. If you are down... you can call. If you are up... they are there to share that with you. It's sweet. What a good feeling... knowing you are someone's special someone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Feeblemind 1 #14 February 22, 2005 Getting mauled by my dog when i come throught the door (doesn't matter if it has been 1 hour or 5 days, he doesn't own a watch). Also, being group hugged by my two kids when i come through the door (especially after a 72 shift, those huhs are awesome). Like the other fellar said "totally unconditional love" Blue Skys Fire Safety Tip: Don't fry bacon while naked Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #15 February 22, 2005 well, I don't believe love is a feeling. If love was a nothing but I feeling, everybody would fall in and out of love like crazy. To me, love is a choice you make. I feel loved by people initiating with me, and making an effort to keep a strong relationship. When there are those in my life who say they enjoy being with me, but don't make an effort to initiate spending time with me, that's when I start to question things...( oops, I started to write " I start to question thongs") edit to add: thank you acensky. Another way to put my question, "what sorts of things have you experienced, to know people genuinely love and care about you?" Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #16 February 22, 2005 I don't know, i forgot.I remember it didn't take much. Kidding. Just the happiness in a pm can make me feel loved. Like your PMs/replies. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #17 February 22, 2005 I hope that's the least I can make people feel Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zep 0 #18 February 22, 2005 In so many little ways I feel loved, It's when nothing feels like a chore It's being confortable with the silent pause It's finally finding the right partner It's having disiplined childern........... I'm still working on that one Gone fishing Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmanpilot 0 #19 February 22, 2005 Quotebut don't make an effort to initiate spending time with me IMO, needing someone to initiate spending time in order to feel loved, could in all probability fall short of recognizing when you are loved. Just a thought. BTW, never question thongs._________________________________________ -There's always free cheese in a mouse trap. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #20 February 22, 2005 First, it is within yourself, if you do not know how to be loved, you never will feel it, no amount of gifts, surprises, etc can do it. Once you know how to feel loved (this is the hard part), you don't need all the external stuff, you just KNOW. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #21 February 22, 2005 QuoteQuotebut don't make an effort to initiate spending time with me IMO, needing someone to initiate spending time in order to feel loved, could in all probability fall short of recognizing when you are loved. Just a thought. BTW, never question thongs. I ALWAYS question thongs. <-------I miss Frenchy well, it's not necessarily people just not initiating spending time with me that makes me question things sometimes. Actually, I think I am beginning to not take things personally as much as I used to, I think that has something to do with it. Just to say, the times I have felt the most loved in my life, is when my friends and family just want to be in my presencethat's how I feel loved a lot of times, after all, people want to be around those they like, right? Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #22 February 22, 2005 Just a simple 'I miss you' or 'I am thinking about you' gives that feeling of love. People get busy all the time....but just to stop and tell someone you were thinking about them or even hearing that can make ya smile. *J*** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #23 February 22, 2005 Everyone has a different interpretation when it comes to love. There is the kind unconditional love you receive from a parent, something similar but yet more from a grandparents, then the type you work at with a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife and friends. Then there is a child’s love that you just can't express how it makes you feel. It’s not just a feeling of being loved it is more. To be loved and feel loved is to give of yourself. TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
