Is it bad to be a rebound of a person that just came out of a long term relationship?????

[akurtom 0]

i wouldnt personally but would y'all

Blue Skies

[skycat 0]

As long as you know you are the rebound and it's all about the nookie and you are ok with that then it's perfectly fine.

Fly it like you stole it!

[akurtom 0]

what if you really like that person, and it's not about sex, even though that might be great?

Blue Skies

[Remster 30]

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it's all about the nookie

The way the threads have been going today, why am I not surprised?

Remster

[bob.dino 1]

Exactly.

You're there for the sex and so the other person can feel nice and attractive and sexy and all that. As long as you're aware of and cool with that, no worries .

[sunshine 2]

I'll be there for karen when she smartens up and leaves remi.

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[skycat 0]

Then don't do it, wait till they have had time to heal, which if it was sometihng like a marriage it could be a year before they are ready to really try again.

Fly it like you stole it!

[JUDYJ 0]

To many variables here...

I hazard to state but the sex would be the only true goal to even think of when the word "rebound" is brought up.

Why do you ask anyway??

JJ

IF you are going to be Stupid - you better be tough!

[gmanpilot 0]

Rebound nookie is really, really fun. Just beware that nothing is as it seems during that time.

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[ryoder 1,590]

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As long as you know you are the rebound and it's all about the nookie and you are ok with that then it's perfectly fine.

Thanks for the best laugh I've have all day!I'm still trying to grasp the idea this response came from a girl, and not a guy.

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[flyangel2 2]

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As long as you know you are the rebound and it's all about the nookie and you are ok with that then it's perfectly fine.

Well said. And he makes breakfast in the morning before you kick him out!

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[dzdiva 7]

If both people are honest and open about what it is they want out of it, I suppose it's okay. My opinion is that the rebound girl/guy will be hurt in the long run. I know I wouldn't want to be with a person that still has strong feelings for another. I'd rather be alone than their second option.

"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..."

[RedassSkychic 0]

I voted yes, because in general i think its a bad idea if you want anything meaningful. However, I started dating AggieDave the day after I broke up with my ex, and things seem to be going good so far we took it as slow as possible for awhile. Each relationship is unique.

[bisqit999 0]

my current girlriend broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years about 3 months before i met her. We are now the most happiest couple....i'm always hesitant at first but ya just never know...

[Beverly 1]

It all depends what you want out of the relationship.
If you are in love with the person then BAD idea, although you get to spend good time with them, which can lead to good memories. But it can turn nasty if you put any perssure on them - They will run.

If you are just in it for the shag, then great, a friend in need.......
As long as you both know the no strings attached, or have some basic rules.

I think true friendship is under-rated

Twitter: @Dreamskygirlsa

[Frenchy68 0]

How do you know you're a rebound?
If you hook up, hypothetically, with a girl who's just out of, say, a 5 year relationship, and you end up, say, marrying her, and you remain married for, say, 10 years +, are you, say, a rebound?
I'm so, say, confused...

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

[bkoch 0]

I'm the rebound guy right now...

Here is what that looked like - girlfriend was in a three year relationship. Dropped the other guy, dated me for a month, dropped me for a month to "get her head together" and then we started again 6 weeks ago...Up and down. The highs are very high and lows very low. It is like driving to fly in the jet wash left behind another airplane. Very bumpy, but hopefully getting a little better...

B

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[Tink1717 2]

It sucks SO BAD to be the rebound guy. The rebound guy has NO CHANCE WHATSOEVER to be anything but the emotional tampon of the reboundee. Guys, if you know she's on the rebound RUN!!!!!!!

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[soulshine 0]

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emotional tampon of the reboundee

Wow! Great use of mental imagery there! Ya really got your point across.

My opinion: Rebound relationship = Fun fling to prove that you are still sexy and desirable, however it has little to no potential for a long term, meaningful realtionship. Relationships take alot of work and problems are bound to occur. If you go into a relationship with unhealed wounds from a previous relationship you're only asking for trouble.

Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity!
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[Beverly 1]

Woah! Hold a minute, it works the other way around too, what if every chick you have ever come across say that are are on the rebound and never got involved with you on a long term or short term basis.

Just consider yourself used for a good cause. Sort of like a charity donation of your time and body

People have needs you know.....

I think true friendship is under-rated

Twitter: @Dreamskygirlsa

[akurtom 0]

Me personally, i feel that if you are rthe rebound and you know it, and you know that he/she is still talkin/sleeping with her ex....or even thinking aobut him, its unhealthy....plain and simple

Blue Skies

[Bouda 0]

all depends on the person and the reasoning behind it
did said person have a emotional bond with you before the breakup?

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[Frenchy68 0]

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emotional tampon of the reboundee
Wow! Great use of mental imagery there! Ya really got your point across

Didn't we recently discuss using one of these on your avatar's forehead?

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

[antifnsocial 0]

Some people don't rebound. Some people are healthier than that. They just love.
Just don't f-it-up accidentally when it could be real. Real things can seem so good they seem unlikely. Don't overthink shit like that.

Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean.

[Frenchy68 0]

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Some people don't rebound. Some people are healthier than that. They just love. What if you reject someone who you think is rebounding and they really like and connect with you?
Just don't f-it-up accidentally when it could be real. Real things can seem so good they seem unlikely. Don't overthink shit like that

Couldn't agree more with everything she said...
I wonder how many times people have missed amazing relationships and moments by overthinking that kind of stuff...

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."