The Marriage poll

[Darius11 12]

So are you married? Are you happily married?


The reason for this post is my own confusion.
No I am not marring any one and have no planes too either (for now). But there is part of me that really wants to believe that it is still possible to be married have kids and be happy. Unfortunately there seems to be more and more evidence that the only way to be happy is to remain single.


So do you think it is possible to be married and happy?
What do you feel is more common, To be happily married or unhappily married?

You see I believe that most people are happy and in love when they get married. So why do we have such a high divorce rate?

Wow that’s a lot of questions. Comment on what you wish.


Edit: Single and would like to some day have someone but will not settle.(this is me)

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[WrongWay 0]

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No I am not marring any one and have no planes too either (for now).

You need planes to marry somebody? I knew people in this sport were picky but damn....

Ok, sorry, back to the serious post. And no, I'm not married.

Wrong Way
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[IanHarrop 42]

None of these options really fit me. Was married for 16 years - now happy I'm not married anymore, will never marry again, will never live with someone again, happy being a single parent to my 16 year old son.

Now don't get me wrong, I still like women and my girl friend is a marvelous person. I'm just not going down that road ever again. They say never say never, but this one I can say for sure.

Now for those that are considering going there, go have fun and I hope it works out for you.

But marriage is like a skydive, you get in expecting that everything will be fine but knowing you could have a mal. Just know that you might have to cut away and that you will live through it.

"Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops, that's where you'll find me" Dorothy

[Darius11 12]

Whats up Jason.

I meant that I am not with any one that I would consider a long-term relationship or marriage with.

There happy now.

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[meltdown 0]

I think that for a lot of people marriage seems like a good idea at the time, but after a few years they lose interest and drift apart, or just stop working at it.
Also, I think people get married thinking the spouse will change over time and become more to their liking. This rarely seems to happen. Then there is the compromise factor. A successful marriage always includes some compromises from both parties. People aren't always willing to make those concessions which results in problems. You must also be willing to give up some freedom if you choose to have kids. It can be a tough balancing act, but well worth the effort in my opinion.

[Buried 0]

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Unfortunately there seems to be more and more evidence that the only way to be happy is to remain single.

each to their own. It really depends on the personality of the person too. A large amount of skydivers have an independant personality and not need that special someone to feel 'complete'

Isingle here and have no plans for marriage atm. I'm too young and have to get the rest of my live into line. Speak to me around 30

Where is my fizzy-lifting drink?

[JohnMitchell 16]

Okay, I've been married 21+ years to a skydiver, 4 kids, still quite happy about it. She's a very exceptional woman and very easy to be married to. I think that if you like being married and are determined to work at it, you'll be very successful. It also helps that she's really pretty.

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[gmanpilot 0]

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So why do we have such a high divorce rate?

I doubt anyone knows the answer to that. After one marriage and subsequent divorce, I think that in todays world marriage should be the exception rather than the rule.

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[Beeron 0]

I was married for a whopping 6 months once and you can bet yer ass that I'll never put myself through that crap again. (Sorry to rant...touchy subject)

B~

[narcimund 0]

Married and happy but a vote of the peepul has imposed an involuntary divorce on us. Ironic, isn't it?

First Class Citizen Twice Over

[kelel01 1]

Just to clarify WrongWay's joke:

plane = something we jump out of
planes = multiple somethings we jump out of

plan = a plan to do something (excellent circular reference I made there)
plans = multiple plans to do something (and again)

And you know I'm not married, so I'm no use to this thread or poll.

[mnealtx 0]

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... so I'm no use to this thread or poll.

Sure ya are.... you're acuting the obtuse for us! That, or comic relief, one....

Mike
I love you, Shannon and Jim.
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[namdrib 0]

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Just to clarify WrongWay's joke:

plane = something we jump out of
planes = multiple somethings we jump out of

plan = a plan to do something (excellent circular reference I made there)
plans = multiple plans to do something (and again)

And you know I'm not married, so I'm no use to this thread or poll.

Just to clarify kelel01's clarification!

plan= having an intent to do something
plans= having an intent to do multiple things

And as for the last sentence, I don't know what the hell you were saying! (*and you know I'm not married, so I'm no use to this poll or thread) Phew, that one had 9th grade English Class written all over it.

***** For those of you that wish to flog me at this point, it was merely a freakin' joke, relax!!!

Unknowing attempting to take out all 4 wheeled vehicles remotely close to the landing area!

[Darius11 12]

Thank you for the clarification.
I know my English writing skills suck.




Jason you suck dude

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[airtwardo 7]

I'm no expert...but I did stay at a...

I was single into my 40's, a lot longer than I thought
I would be.
I had every type of SO imaginable which gave me a
pretty good idea about the market place.

I found someone I respect, and our strengths and
weaknesses mesh together to make each of us a
better person.
Someone I found myself 'missing' when we were
apart. I was old enough and secure enough,
that I didn't NEED anyone...but found someone
I WANTED!
There is a difference...

I think the key to being 'happy' with someone else
is that first you REALLY have to be happy with
yourself.
How can you hope to make someone else happy
if you can't do it to the person you know best...
~YOU!?

#1 rule is NO LIES!
If you lie to her / him...you're not letting them
in on the REAL you...if you feel you need to do
that for whatever reason...
You are misrepresenting who you are because you
don't think 'they' can handle the truth...
You're not with the right person, and it can't
succeed.

If there is mutual trust, ANYTHING else can be
worked out.

No one out there is 'perfect' in the 'made for TV movie'
sense.
It's a compromise, and I think it takes some maturity to realize that and deal with it. As with anything in life there
are both good and bad times.

Overall having someone I truly care about..and that
cares about me, makes life in general more tolerable.

When you find someone that has the same general
interests & goals as you do...it'll make the journey
more interesting and much easier!

Two heads really are better than one!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[Darius11 12]

Oh oh you just corrected the top grammar police on here.

Run and hide just run and hide.

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[kelel01 1]

LMAO. Thanks for the clarification of my clarification. And to me, my last sentence made sense . . . well, at least 50% of it. I could answer the poll, but I cannot answer the questions contained in his post, as I am not married.

[linny 1]

ewww marriage.
No thanks.

[kelel01 1]

By the way, I was speaking colloquially. I know not to start a sentence with "and".

[namdrib 0]

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By the way, I was speaking colloquially. I know not to start a sentence with "and".

Dammit, she got me!!!! Like everyone knows, I am as far from perfect as they come!

By the way, not only do I not know what the hell "Colloquially" means, I don't even know how to pronounce the damn word. BRAVO!!!!

Unknowing attempting to take out all 4 wheeled vehicles remotely close to the landing area!

[kelel01 1]

Yeah, that'll teach ya'. And watch out for those golf carts.

[Darius11 12]

Colloquially

col·lo·qui·al---Characteristic of or appropriate to the spoken language or to writing that seeks the effect of speech; informal.
Relating to conversation; conversational.

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[mouth 0]

Very well said....

I might add that your perfect mate needs to be someone who is also your best friend....someone on the "inner circle"

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Hot Mama
At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit.

[namdrib 0]

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Colloquially

col·lo·qui·al---Characteristic of or appropriate to the spoken language or to writing that seeks the effect of speech; informal.
Relating to conversation; conversational.

Guess I could have gotten off of my lazy ass and "Google-ed" that one! Yeah, thats right, I said "Google-ed"!!! What of it?

Unknowing attempting to take out all 4 wheeled vehicles remotely close to the landing area!

[OrangeJumper 0]

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I was married for a whopping 6 months once and you can bet yer ass that I'll never put myself through that crap again. (Sorry to rant...touchy subject)

B~

I SECOND THAT MOTION! I was married at a young age, it only lasted for three years. Honestly, I can't ever see myself doing it again, EVER!

The Original Cabana Boy!