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Singles...intentional about relationships w/ the opposite sex?

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Lemme help you out val. Bill wants to fuck you raw until you beg for mercy. Did that help?B|


But why does he want me to beg? Doesn't he respect me? Or does he think that I'm so powerful that he wants to make me beg? I think he wants me to beg because he likes to be asked questions. Does that mean I'm not asking him enough stuff? ;):P

This is fun! I'm going to start overanalyzing stuff!
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But why does he want me to beg? Doesn't he respect me? Or does he think that I'm so powerful that he wants to make me beg? I think he wants me to beg because he likes to be asked questions. Does that mean I'm not asking him enough stuff?

This is fun! I'm going to start overanalyzing stuff!



Umm....you're trying to understand the guy that once posted a link to a guy that enjoys pooping barbie heads...need i say more? :D

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Me - I just enjoy having as many friends as I can.



Did you actually get any freinds yet?



Almost.

Really - I thought I had - but - no - wait - yeah last night someone told me that they would always be my friend.

Did you know that dogs talk.
I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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Did you know that dogs talk.



Of course i knew that. Son of Sam told me.



Sam's cool - but his son is a real prick!
I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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Umm....you're trying to understand the guy that once posted a link to a guy that enjoys pooping barbie heads...need i say more?



You could say why you remember that. :D
Besides, if I didn't act as a source of information, people would wander around ignorant of all life has to offer. I'm kind of a cultural resource.

Val knows that I desire her because she is wicked smart (she agrees with me on almost everything). Obviously that makes her perfect.

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See I have a thing for Val too, and it's because we NEVER see eye to eye on any subject. It's really a strange attraction.



"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

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See I have a thing for Val too, and it's because we NEVER see eye to eye on any subject. It's really a strange attraction.



No, it's because you are short.
I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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See I have a thing for Val too, and it's because we NEVER see eye to eye on any subject. It's really a strange attraction.


Well, I do like to role play as devil's advocate! :D

And, Bill, what can I say....we're right and everyone else is wrong! :P
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If you are single and friends with the opposite sex, yet attracted to them, are you intentional about the relationship? Meaning...are you looking for it to become more?



I assume you mean by being "single" that you aren't in some relationship? Boys and girls differ wildly in this respect. Girls can afford to be oblivious to what this does to a guy. For guys, it depends on how much self control they have.

From a skydiver perspective, if you put bait in the water, expect something to hit at it.

If you want to become closer friends with a guy, the ones worthy of it will respect you when you push them back if (when) they make a move.

No matter how good she looks, someone, somewhere is
sick of her shit!

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Don't leave it unspoken. Make it clear you have no intention to have a sexual relationship with the guy. Ever.


but see that's the thing, I love getting closer to my friends, girl OR guy. I'm totally oblivious sometimes if a guy likes me...but if I think the guy is really cool and I enjoy hanging out w/ him, am I just leading him on?



Since you can't read the other person's mind, and they can't read yours, it's a smart thing to say "I'm not giving you the wrong idea, am I? I really enjoy your company and conversation and I don't want you to think I'm coming on to you"

From your posts it is seeming like you enjoy the sexual tension of your relationships with your male friends, and don't really want it to go away.

It is really flattering in many circumstances to have an attractive person make a pass at you. But if you see it coming, and you put the person in the position of having you reject their advance when you could have waved them off before they embarrassed themself, that's just cruel.

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My advice to you would be don't ever take anyones advice when it comes to friends or relationships. If you have a question about where things stand then nobody will be able to answer that excrpt for one person. Sit down with that person one on one and find out. Any ideas from an outside source will only cause you to jump to conclusions, and make assumptions. You know the whole ass u me thing. That can only confuse and complicate things. You may end up screwwing up a good friendship if you don't talk.

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From your posts it is seeming like you enjoy the sexual tension of your relationships with your male friends, and don't really want it to go away

wow, I don't know where you get that impression from. Honestly, I find it easy to stay friends w/ someone even if attraction exists between the 2 of us--I actually have self-control; just because I'm a girl and he's a guy,doesn't mean we have to have sex.:S Sometimes friendships with guys can actually go deeper and not involve sex:o
Does that idea surprise you?

Here's one for, as a guy: are YOU intentional... just because your female friend is attractive, does that mean you have to eventually get her to sleep with you?


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just because I'm a girl and he's a guy,doesn't mean we have to have sex


...uh...yes you do never mind!:|

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

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just because I'm a girl and he's a guy,doesn't mean we have to have sex

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...uh...yes you do never mind!


Frenchy!!!
Surely someone agrees w. me?!?! [:/]

edit to add: I can actually have relationships,( not dating ones) with males, without expecting it to become more than that. I am sure some guys can attest to this; there is nothing wrong with being friends with someone you find attraction, and never acting on that attraction if you know that person isn't right for you.
oh,forgot to add also: I happen to know some of my guy friends who actually care to know me and AREN'T trying to have sex with me:P


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there is nothing wrong with being friends with someone you find attraction, and never acting on that attraction


That was funny:D
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I am sure some guys can attest to this


That was funny too!:D

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

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Women don't have guy friends, they have guys who want to get in their pants.


I completely disagree!!! :|
In the past, I've had friends I wasn't attracted to; I'm sure they weren't attracted to me either. Right?:S



If a woman, even if they aren't a beauty queen said... "Hey want to go fuck?" I doubt there's many men who would say no.

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Women don't have guy friends, they have guys who want to get in their pants.


I completely disagree!!! :|
In the past, I've had friends I wasn't attracted to; I'm sure they weren't attracted to me either. Right?:S



So it means that your friends have better self control than most others - what you are asking iscontradictory to its self.

1) You have attraction for a male friend
2) He may or may not have attraction to you.

either way - attraction means an animalistic desire to fuck like bunnies in heat.

so - go with that in mind.
I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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