kelel01 1 #1 December 27, 2004 I've always wondered this . . . in order to be in love, does the other person have to reciprocate? Or can one person be in love with another who doesn't feel the same? It seems silly to say "I'm in love . . ." when you're still alone. Thoughts? Or is this too deep for the day-after-the-day-after Christmas? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #2 December 27, 2004 Isn't that the textbook definition of "unrequited love"?Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #3 December 27, 2004 Not something you have to wonder about. I love you back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #4 December 27, 2004 Yes, it is, but are the two mutually exclusive? And PhillyKev knew just what I wanted to hear, so this thread can die now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davedlg 0 #5 December 27, 2004 I think that a person can defiantly be in love without reciprocation. I have seen it happen over and over again with my friends. I think it's actually more common than two people being in love with each other. It will never end well Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #6 December 27, 2004 Well, since PK has now declared his everlasting love... I won't answer... Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #7 December 27, 2004 Oh, it's not everlasting . . . he doesn't believe in marriage. But I'll settle for "love of the week", as opposed to "love of his life". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 220 #8 December 27, 2004 QuoteNot something you have to wonder about. I love you back. Back Off Punk! The lady's MINE! Well, if it's ok with her that is!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #9 December 27, 2004 QuoteQuoteNot something you have to wonder about. I love you back. Back Off Punk! The lady's MINE! Well, if it's ok with her that is! Crawl back in your shell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #10 December 27, 2004 Hmmmm . . . you've given me much to consider here. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kris 0 #11 December 27, 2004 QuoteOh, it's not everlasting . . . he doesn't believe in marriage. But I'll settle for "love of the week", as opposed to "love of his life". Oh...good. In that case, how does the 2nd week of Feb work for you? I have that one free.Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tbrown 26 #12 December 27, 2004 I think being "in love" is an irrational biochemical reaction a person can feel about another person. It's probably linked to the urge & necessity to reproduce, every nerve and fiber says you want to make a baby with this one. It makes people go nuts, feel sick to their stomachs, fell like their skin is on fire. Not much else seems important anymore and it's easy to behave like a fool in front of a lot of shocked friends or family. That's not so far fetched if you consider how little any of us know about a new partner. The fun part is when it's reciprocated, the two get to know more about each other, and the biochem fireworks are still going off like the 4th of July. Some people learn how to keep it going for many years. By then you hopefully know each other well enough to find some deeper roots with each other as well. Your humble servant.....Professor Gravity ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #13 December 27, 2004 Quotedoes the other person have to reciprocate "In love" speaks of your state of mind, and not that of the other person. I've been in love with probably a half dozen women in my life. Probably roughly the same number have been in love with me. They have intersected twice. QuoteIt seems silly to say "I'm in love . . ." when you're still alone. No, it is not. Saying, "We're in love with each other" when you are alone is silly. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adamjenner 0 #14 December 27, 2004 no such thing Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #15 December 27, 2004 Does the second week of February happen to coincide with Valentine's Day? If so, you just might have yourself a deal. I think you've all made valid points, particularly tbrown with your biochemical remarks. And lawrocket hit on exactly what I was talking about. The only question I have for him is, how did you know that those four (or however many) women you weren't in love with were in love with you? That would be a wonderful thing to know-- that someone thought you were that amazing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Kris 0 #16 December 27, 2004 QuoteDoes the second week of February happen to coincide with Valentine's Day? If so, you just might have yourself a deal. As a matter of fact, it does. Wow, what a coincidence. Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #17 December 27, 2004 Love is so funny. There are so many different kinds, but romantic love seems to be the most tricky since the standard is to have only one at a time. I define being in love as putting someone before you. Being in love means you actually strive to be better because of that other person. It also means that you want to get to know as much as you can about them because they are one of the most interesting people you know. It's the feeling that you want to spend every minute with that person but don't need to. It's the feeling where everything is "better" if they are there. Love is the one thing where we can't always define it by the way neurons fire. If it was simply due to reproduction, then I'm sure I would've fallen in love with the men who ran 10 miles a day and made twice as much as me. They could provide!!! Quotehow did you know that those four (or however many) women you weren't in love with were in love with you? You ask!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #18 December 27, 2004 QuoteIt will never end well Are you saying that you don't believe it's possible that with time, patience and understanding that the love can be reciprocated? I like to believe anything is possible. Of course, I believe in Santa Claus, too!Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sheenster303 0 #19 December 27, 2004 Romantically speaking, do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them or are they the same? I always thought of them as two different things.I'm so funny I crack my head open! P.M.S. #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vertifly 0 #20 December 27, 2004 bikini's = love Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #21 December 27, 2004 There's such a difference. Being "in love" is the goofy/crazy side to love . . . loving someone is the sane side of it. That's what I think, anyway. Edited for clarity. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites PhillyKev 0 #22 December 27, 2004 Yeah...loving someone is a nice thing and unconditional. Being "in love" usually means you expect something from them, whether it's a return of affection, fidelity, or a specific amount of time spent with you. Loving someone is selfless. Being in love is selfish. At least that's my warped view of the matter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sheenster303 0 #23 December 27, 2004 I always said that I loved my ex-boyfriend, but I was never "in love" with him. Now I can't remember exactly why I said that. I don't remember how I felt at the time. Edited to add..... Yay I was selfless! I guess that might have been why or maybe the fact that I never had the goofy kind of love for him.I'm so funny I crack my head open! P.M.S. #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #24 December 27, 2004 QuoteBeing in love is selfish. Yup, and it's also jealous, which is why you can have hudnreds of friends and family and only one partner.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #25 December 27, 2004 Oooh, good reasoning. I think PK's answer might be a bit more jaded, if not somewhat correct. It's all about semantics, though. There are less harsh words that could be used than selfish. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 5 Next Page 1 of 5 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. 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Kris 0 #16 December 27, 2004 QuoteDoes the second week of February happen to coincide with Valentine's Day? If so, you just might have yourself a deal. As a matter of fact, it does. Wow, what a coincidence. Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #17 December 27, 2004 Love is so funny. There are so many different kinds, but romantic love seems to be the most tricky since the standard is to have only one at a time. I define being in love as putting someone before you. Being in love means you actually strive to be better because of that other person. It also means that you want to get to know as much as you can about them because they are one of the most interesting people you know. It's the feeling that you want to spend every minute with that person but don't need to. It's the feeling where everything is "better" if they are there. Love is the one thing where we can't always define it by the way neurons fire. If it was simply due to reproduction, then I'm sure I would've fallen in love with the men who ran 10 miles a day and made twice as much as me. They could provide!!! Quotehow did you know that those four (or however many) women you weren't in love with were in love with you? You ask!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #18 December 27, 2004 QuoteIt will never end well Are you saying that you don't believe it's possible that with time, patience and understanding that the love can be reciprocated? I like to believe anything is possible. Of course, I believe in Santa Claus, too!Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sheenster303 0 #19 December 27, 2004 Romantically speaking, do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them or are they the same? I always thought of them as two different things.I'm so funny I crack my head open! P.M.S. #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vertifly 0 #20 December 27, 2004 bikini's = love Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #21 December 27, 2004 There's such a difference. Being "in love" is the goofy/crazy side to love . . . loving someone is the sane side of it. That's what I think, anyway. Edited for clarity. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #22 December 27, 2004 Yeah...loving someone is a nice thing and unconditional. Being "in love" usually means you expect something from them, whether it's a return of affection, fidelity, or a specific amount of time spent with you. Loving someone is selfless. Being in love is selfish. At least that's my warped view of the matter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sheenster303 0 #23 December 27, 2004 I always said that I loved my ex-boyfriend, but I was never "in love" with him. Now I can't remember exactly why I said that. I don't remember how I felt at the time. Edited to add..... Yay I was selfless! I guess that might have been why or maybe the fact that I never had the goofy kind of love for him.I'm so funny I crack my head open! P.M.S. #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #24 December 27, 2004 QuoteBeing in love is selfish. Yup, and it's also jealous, which is why you can have hudnreds of friends and family and only one partner.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #25 December 27, 2004 Oooh, good reasoning. I think PK's answer might be a bit more jaded, if not somewhat correct. It's all about semantics, though. There are less harsh words that could be used than selfish. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
