AggieDave 6 #1 November 18, 2004 There's a lot of different beliefs and practices out there, Morgan and I have been talking about it and came up with this: Changed Name--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #2 November 18, 2004 I've always had a particular distaste for hyphenated names....Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #3 November 18, 2004 Same here. Morgan is taking my name, actually, she's excited about it and I'm honored that she'll take my name. I just wanted a good excuse to post that link.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #4 November 18, 2004 QuoteI've always had a particular distaste for hyphenated names.... Me too. My ex-fiance from 10 years ago had a Polish last name that was long and difficult to spell, but she insisted on keeping it and adding my last name with a hyphen. So I cut-away. Now, my wife... also had a Polish last name, but couldn't stand it, so I married her. Okay, those are not the reasons I dumped/married these women, but it fits the thread! Billy"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #5 November 18, 2004 I took my husband's name when we got married and then took my maiden name back when we got divorced. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #6 November 18, 2004 That's funny... Think I'll start using that one... because I tend to get irritated when people ask me why I didn't change my last name... So from now on, I'm gonna say I decided to take on only his first name... Just call me "Richard". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #7 November 18, 2004 I think changing names is a bit old fashioned - especially if one or both of you has spent considerable time and effort "making a name" for themselves in a career, etc. I wouldn't change my name for someone - and I wouldn't expect them to change their name for me. tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nacmacfeegle 0 #8 November 18, 2004 "Morgan is taking my name, actually, she's excited about it and I'm honored that she'll take my name." I look forward to meeting AggieMorgan some day.-------------------- He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me. Thomas Jefferson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piisfish 140 #9 November 18, 2004 So now Morgan will be Dave ?? scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Merkur 1 #10 November 18, 2004 QuoteI wouldn't change my name for someone - and I wouldn't expect them to change their name for me. So, what last name would you then use for your kids?vSCR No.94 Don't dream your life - live your dream! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #11 November 18, 2004 QuoteSo, what last name would you then use for your kids? "Goddamnit." It makes since... Get overhere John, Goddamnit! --"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #12 November 18, 2004 ugh! Changing your name is such a pain in the ass. There are many days when I wished my husband took mine! Bills, creditors and even voting have been screwed up because of my name change... taken more than 2 years to clear it up too! JenArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #13 November 18, 2004 QuoteQuoteSo, what last name would you then use for your kids? "Goddamnit." It makes since... Get overhere John, Goddamnit! There for a while growing up, I thought my first name was "Damnit".... "Damnit Mike.... "Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kingbunky 3 #14 November 18, 2004 my ex took my last name when we married, and kept it even after we got divorced and after she remarried! she claimed, alternatly, that it would confuse the kids, or that it was too difficult. she finally (7 years or so later) went back to her maiden name. my present wife also took my last name after we married (it was odd having two mrs. langille's around that i caused) and it took her no time at all to get everything changed. i was not as concerned about my wife taking my name as i was my kids having mine."Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart." MB4252 TDS699 killing threads since 2001 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justaflygirl 0 #15 November 18, 2004 When I got married, I took my husbands last name with pride, and at the time was exicted about loosing my maiden name for reasons, that I have since overcome and wont elaborate into. I have been married for 7 years, and am still hapily married...however I since re-added my maiden name into mine, since my dad is someone I am very proud of and I am proud to carry both names. However it is not set in stone that the bride to be must take her future husbands last name, I have heard of, no name change at taking place as well as the groom taking his brides name. It would be interesting to do some research into it to see where all of the practices got thier start and why. BTW, congratulations to you an Morgan! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
golden-brown 0 #16 November 18, 2004 i changed my middle name to my maiden name, and took my husband's last name. so i can still have all the fun, minus the hyphen-erin golden brown!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #17 November 18, 2004 I never saw the point in changing names. I'd never change mine. I like my name! If the guy thinks that it's important to have the same name, then he can take mine!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lynxie 0 #18 November 18, 2004 QuoteSo, what last name would you then use for your kids? they can choose which name they want when they get old enough to do so. -- "If you can dream it, you can DO IT!" -- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #19 November 18, 2004 QuoteQuoteI wouldn't change my name for someone - and I wouldn't expect them to change their name for me. So, what last name would you then use for your kids? tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #20 November 18, 2004 QuoteSo, what last name would you then use for your kids? I've thought about this quite a bit... and the only solution that I could come up with is: if we have a boy, he gets Rich's last name and if we have a girl then she gets my last name. Rich agrees that is the best answer, though I think I've pretty much decided I don't want to have children anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyMan 7 #21 November 18, 2004 I've always wondered what would happen when two people with hyphenated names get married. Hyphenating names does not end the name debate - it only puts it off until the next generation. Be easy on your kids - make the choice for them. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #22 November 18, 2004 QuoteBe easy on your kids - make the choice for them. Heck no!!! I wish my parents would've give me the choice as to what my name should be!!!!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #23 November 18, 2004 My fiance has a daughter with a woman he never married. His daughter has HIS last name, something he insisted on and her mom agreed to. Now, whenever we get around to getting married, I'm pretty sure I WON'T take his name, even in some hyphenated combination form. I have some very real practical reasons for that which go beyond the obvious inconvenience of changing IDs and professional identification, but I also never fully liked the concept. Its dated. By taking first your father's name, then your husband's, its like "ownership" is being transferred from one to another. Sorry- no one "owns" me. (Since I have father issues too, I've seriously considered taking my mother's maiden name! But all that name changing is too complicated for me anyway! IDs, credit cards, passports, title to my home? Major PITA!) You very seldom hear of men changing their names after they get married. To me, it would be more symbolic if both the husband and wife changed their names to a combination of the two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #24 November 18, 2004 Sherrod and Lund wouldn't combine too well... I view it as an honor and a binding commitment for the man. She took my name, its an honor. Its also binding the man into the commitment of being a good husband and possibly a good father, due to the trust involved in taking the man's name. Sure, that's the overall point of the commitment of marriage, I view last names the same way through the marriage process.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
craichead 0 #25 November 18, 2004 I really liked my maiden name, too. It rolled off the tongue so nicely (once you knew how to pronounce it )! I was happy to take Andy's last name for several reasons. It's not really about about ownership or carrying on an antiquated tradition. It's symbolic of my starting and committing to a new life with him. And "Metcalfe" is a lot easier to spell and pronounce than "Vongkasemsiri"! _Pm__ "Scared of love, love and aeroplanes...falling out, I said takes no brains." -- Andy Partridge (XTC) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
