bigway 4 #1 October 11, 2004 Ok, so i am wanting to know if other people have good relationships with non jumpers. I have always thought it would not make a difference to me but my partner tonight just said that she will probably never do a tandem let alone AFF. i do not know how i am with this as how could she possibly have any clue what i am really about when skydiving is in my soul. I just want to get an idea on if there are many out there with non jumping partners and everything stays good. .Karnage Krew Gear Store . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dixieskydiver 0 #2 October 11, 2004 Had a relationship with a jumper, worked pretty well. Hell at least they are easy to buy for Dixie HISPA #56 Facil Rodriguez "Scientific research has shown that 60% of the time, it works every time." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyingferret 0 #3 October 11, 2004 Wow, lots of positive choices there This has been disccused over and over and over, and you will get a variety of answers. Personally, I think it is just one aspect. There are a lot of cool people that don't jump, and a lot people that do that I could never date. The better question to be asking is not the difference, but how you both react to it. If your partner tries to change your habits or criticizes your joy, that is something to be concerned about. Or if you feel you will never be truly fulfilled without sharing that part of you, that is also a concern. In the end I think there are as many answers as there are people asking questions. You can see from some of my recent threads, I have seen some perks to hanging out with a jumper, but in the end I think it is more about amazing people who happen to jump.-- All the flaming and trolls of wreck dot with a pretty GUI. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #4 October 11, 2004 I am married to a 1-time-jumper and life is like a root canal surgery. THoughts of being legally divorced, float through my head every pay-day. Every week-end also._______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #5 October 11, 2004 I just ended a long-term relationship with a non-jumper (other than the 7 or 8 tandems she did with me). I always maintained that her jumping or not jumping wasn't important to me, but in the end I think it had a lot to do with the decline of the relationship. Basically, skydiving is the most fun I have. That means that everything else is less fun. Since she didn't jump, I was always having the most fun without her and less fun with her. Other things I like doing include fairly rigorous activities that she also didn't do, like snowboarding, wakeboarding, rockclimbing, downhill or single-track mountain bike riding, etc. So skydiving was just one thing (a very important thing) I did without her, but the combination of things made a situation in which her and I just didn't have enough fun together. There were several problems in the relationship, but that one probably had the biggest impact on the eventual failure of it. It's wierd to be doing something with someone you love, while at the same time wishing you were doing something else without them. I won't say that you shouldn't date a non-jumper, but if you do, you should ensure there are plenty of other activities you two can have fun doing *together*... and sex only counts as one activity. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #6 October 11, 2004 My wife made two tandems in the past, and that is pretty much all she'll do. She is not the high risk adventurer that I am. In a way, I'm glad she doesn't jump, because when I'm at the DZ, I'm not worrying about her safety in the air, etc. and I don't think we can afford to have both of us jumping regularly anyway. Besides, she spends about as much time at church as I do skydiving... All she asks is that I skydive within my limits and come home safely, but of course, she knows anything can happen. I have friends who have spouses that skydive too, and for some of them, it works well. Not everybody is going to have a great relatioship with a fellow jumper though... Blue Skies Billy"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyingferret 0 #7 October 11, 2004 None of my business at all, but it seems like perhaps the combination of everything is what was must fatal. The only reason I mention this, is that I know jumpers that diliberately jump together very little, because they don't want to mix their freedom too much.-- All the flaming and trolls of wreck dot with a pretty GUI. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
linny 1 #8 October 11, 2004 I voted for "never have a relationship"............ He'd have to be the most amazing person on earth to get me into that situation again... and he'd likely be a skydiver. But the funny thing about life is, you can never expect or predict what or whom will be in your future.... and I absolutely love that!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mgerra28 0 #9 October 11, 2004 well i met my wife at a boogie halloween party. Now we are married and she has 175 jumps. Made her first tandem while we were together just showed up with a friend. I must say i was a little drunk when i met her..lol but things do change. I have tried with loads of whuffos. Its cool at first they are very supporive even show up and watch you jump all day. then they get weird..cutaway now mate. Before you ride this malfunction in!!!!!!!!http://www.skydivethefarm.com don't sweat the small stuff, in fact don't sweat at all,, you get smelly!! ORFUN #2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #10 October 11, 2004 QuoteNone of my business at all, but it seems like perhaps the combination of everything is what was must fatal. Absolutely. I wasn't trying to say that the fact that she didn't skydive was the cause of the relationship's demise, but rather that we didn't do any of things that I consider really fun together. Skydiving just happens to be the funnest thing I did without her, and I imagine we'd still be together if she'd been into some of the other activities I consider really fun. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bigway 4 #11 October 11, 2004 I am hoping it is just a line twist about to come out and not a bag of shit. .Karnage Krew Gear Store . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyingferret 0 #12 October 11, 2004 Totally understand bro. Been there, done that. With AggieDave yelling cutaway the whole time. In the end everyone must make their own choice when ready. I will say, you are more likely to meet laidback people at a dz than a golf match :)-- All the flaming and trolls of wreck dot with a pretty GUI. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tink1717 2 #13 October 11, 2004 I too, voted for "Never have a relationship...", but for completely different reasons. I can't hang with whuffo's due to the fact that they can never truly understand what jumping is for me. That, and the petty jealousy that will arise over female tandem students. I can't hang with jumpers due to the fact that I am coming up on 18 years sober and can't stand the party scene at the DZ after the beer light comes on. It's just too boring to watch other people get drunk and party when you can't, or won't, partake. That cuts me out of the social scene at the DZ with near perfect precision. So, it's the ultimate zero sum game. The only winning move is not to play.Skydivers don't knock on Death's door. They ring the bell and runaway... It really pisses him off. -The World Famous Tink. (I never heard of you either!!) AA #2069 ASA#33 POPS#8808 Swooo 1717 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver30960 0 #14 October 11, 2004 Seems pretty evenly distributed when I voted, except for the "never date a jumper" category. There are no hard and fast rules. Bad news: you really can't even say: "FOR ME, these are the rules." It all comes down to how you and that particular person mesh, dude, and it changes every time you start sharing time with somebody new. I've been in super clingy relationships, and been in really independent ones as well. Right now, I'm in a relationship that is pretty balanced: we enjoy the time we spend together, but I really don't mind the fact that she doesn't come out to the DZ much and she appreciates getting me the hell out of the house once in a while. So for us, the fact that she doesn't jump is OK. Elvisio "not nearly this wise" Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #15 October 12, 2004 QuoteThe only thing is you have to deal with the DZ drama when it's over. Only if you actually GO TO THE DZ!!! Get back out here, boy-we miss seeing you aroundI am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl 0 #16 October 12, 2004 My ex was a jumper and my interest in it seemed to really turn him off. We broke up and I got into it but he keeps mentioning how he doesn't want me to get hurt. I think that's bull because he loves risk. Been fading off, losing contact & our friendship is basically over. I felt restricted and had to get away. I pursue the sport now on my own terms (3 more jumps til my A- yeah!!) and it'll be awhile before I have a serious relationship again. No matter what you're like and she's like, being supportive of what you both love should be there, 100%. It's who you are but it doesn't mean it's who she is. Let her be herself and love her for that as long as she doesn't try to restrict you or tell you what to do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #17 October 12, 2004 I think right now I'd prefer to date a non-skydiver....There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites chopchop 0 #18 October 12, 2004 It's working for Plaything and I.. but it's because she takes a healthy interest (and a lot of pictures) in skydiving, has become part of our dz family, and can't wait until she can jump. I can't wait either.. At least we'll get to play in the tunnel together at the end of the month.. chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites justchrisdsp 0 #19 October 12, 2004 i think the big key is to find someone that enjoys your passion, and i dont mean if your passion is skydiving they enjoy skydiving, what i mean is that they enjoy the fact that you have something you are that passoinate about. i personally had a relationship go haywire cause she didnt enjoy my passion for things, and not just skydiviing although that is the biggest passion i have, she just didnt enjoy the fact that i treated everything at 200%, i must agree that i did not acknowledge her as much as i should but only cause she didnt want anything to do with the stuff i loved, i would love to find someone in the skydiving world who shares my love for it, but if not i want to find someone in the world who understands that i have a passion for somehting the way that i do and will be able to show support for it, that doesnt mean that i want her to start jumping or come to the dz with me everyweekend if she's a whuffo, and it doesnt mean that i want her to try and make every load the way i do if she is a jumper, i just want her to understand that this is something i love and without it i would be incomplete. i did vote for date a skydiver by the way, just cause i think it would be awesome to find a skychick in this world that holds the same passion for jumping that i do. that and ive never seen an ugly skychick The only bad skydive is your last! chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RevJim 0 #20 October 12, 2004 QuoteI think right now I'd prefer to date a non-skydiver.... Yea, me too. My wife would never suspect that! "Where the hell have you been?" "Oh, just out screwing around on you with a volleyball player, dear." "Bullshit! You were at the DZ again, weren't you?!?" hehe It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites flyingferret 0 #21 October 12, 2004 Great words nicely put. That really does sum a lot of it up. I have had so many relationship fail because I am passionate (and about weird random things sometime). If it is worth thinking about then I am passionate about it, for at least long as it in my brain. A lot girls think this is intriguing initially, but then later they never really do appreciate your passion. You know that awesome look and feeling, where you know they get a kick out of seeing how you react to the world. That is the key, thanks for summarizing.-- All the flaming and trolls of wreck dot with a pretty GUI. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites justchrisdsp 0 #22 October 12, 2004 Quote That is the key, thanks for summarizing. no prob dude The only bad skydive is your last! chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites DrewEckhardt 0 #23 October 12, 2004 QuoteOk, so i am wanting to know if other people have good relationships with non jumpers. Yup. It couldn't be any better. What we share during the 158 hours I spend each week not skydiving is a lot more important than what I might have with someone in the 10 hours I jump each week. We want each other to be happy, for me that means jumping off things, for her it means running. We accept what the other does by themselves and understand where it comes from. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gaskydiver 0 #24 October 13, 2004 My partner and wife came 21 years before Skydiving. She was apprehensive about my first jump, but totally supported me doing it. Since that first tandem both my boys have made tandems and loved it. She was also totally fine with giving the boys tandem jumps. As long as we can afford my jumping she is fine with letting me pursue my pastime. I have asked her on numerous occasions if she wanted to make a tandem jump, but she just has absolutely no interest. She will however,accompany me at some skydiving events. Bottom line is, I love her and I don't see myself ever giving up skydiving, so I make it all work together. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Evelyn 0 #25 October 13, 2004 I had been married for 24 years before I started skydiving. Although my husband has no interest in skydiving himself he is very supportive of my skydiving. I think one of the reasons he's so support is because he has a hobby (golf) that he is equally passionate about. Most weekends he heads to his golf club, I head to the DZ, we meet up later and talk about our day (although I am very attentive listening to him talk about his birdies and eagles, my day is usually more exciting). We had a bit of tension in the beginning because he'd suggest doing something on the weekend and I'd say no can't do, I'll be skydiving, and he started to resent my skydiving. So I've learned to say yes if he wants to do something and this way he doesn't resent my skydiving. I think the bottom line is you just have to keep things in perspective, partner first, skydiving second. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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Vallerina 2 #17 October 12, 2004 I think right now I'd prefer to date a non-skydiver....There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chopchop 0 #18 October 12, 2004 It's working for Plaything and I.. but it's because she takes a healthy interest (and a lot of pictures) in skydiving, has become part of our dz family, and can't wait until she can jump. I can't wait either.. At least we'll get to play in the tunnel together at the end of the month.. chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justchrisdsp 0 #19 October 12, 2004 i think the big key is to find someone that enjoys your passion, and i dont mean if your passion is skydiving they enjoy skydiving, what i mean is that they enjoy the fact that you have something you are that passoinate about. i personally had a relationship go haywire cause she didnt enjoy my passion for things, and not just skydiviing although that is the biggest passion i have, she just didnt enjoy the fact that i treated everything at 200%, i must agree that i did not acknowledge her as much as i should but only cause she didnt want anything to do with the stuff i loved, i would love to find someone in the skydiving world who shares my love for it, but if not i want to find someone in the world who understands that i have a passion for somehting the way that i do and will be able to show support for it, that doesnt mean that i want her to start jumping or come to the dz with me everyweekend if she's a whuffo, and it doesnt mean that i want her to try and make every load the way i do if she is a jumper, i just want her to understand that this is something i love and without it i would be incomplete. i did vote for date a skydiver by the way, just cause i think it would be awesome to find a skychick in this world that holds the same passion for jumping that i do. that and ive never seen an ugly skychick The only bad skydive is your last! chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RevJim 0 #20 October 12, 2004 QuoteI think right now I'd prefer to date a non-skydiver.... Yea, me too. My wife would never suspect that! "Where the hell have you been?" "Oh, just out screwing around on you with a volleyball player, dear." "Bullshit! You were at the DZ again, weren't you?!?" hehe It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyingferret 0 #21 October 12, 2004 Great words nicely put. That really does sum a lot of it up. I have had so many relationship fail because I am passionate (and about weird random things sometime). If it is worth thinking about then I am passionate about it, for at least long as it in my brain. A lot girls think this is intriguing initially, but then later they never really do appreciate your passion. You know that awesome look and feeling, where you know they get a kick out of seeing how you react to the world. That is the key, thanks for summarizing.-- All the flaming and trolls of wreck dot with a pretty GUI. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justchrisdsp 0 #22 October 12, 2004 Quote That is the key, thanks for summarizing. no prob dude The only bad skydive is your last! chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DrewEckhardt 0 #23 October 12, 2004 QuoteOk, so i am wanting to know if other people have good relationships with non jumpers. Yup. It couldn't be any better. What we share during the 158 hours I spend each week not skydiving is a lot more important than what I might have with someone in the 10 hours I jump each week. We want each other to be happy, for me that means jumping off things, for her it means running. We accept what the other does by themselves and understand where it comes from. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gaskydiver 0 #24 October 13, 2004 My partner and wife came 21 years before Skydiving. She was apprehensive about my first jump, but totally supported me doing it. Since that first tandem both my boys have made tandems and loved it. She was also totally fine with giving the boys tandem jumps. As long as we can afford my jumping she is fine with letting me pursue my pastime. I have asked her on numerous occasions if she wanted to make a tandem jump, but she just has absolutely no interest. She will however,accompany me at some skydiving events. Bottom line is, I love her and I don't see myself ever giving up skydiving, so I make it all work together. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Evelyn 0 #25 October 13, 2004 I had been married for 24 years before I started skydiving. Although my husband has no interest in skydiving himself he is very supportive of my skydiving. I think one of the reasons he's so support is because he has a hobby (golf) that he is equally passionate about. Most weekends he heads to his golf club, I head to the DZ, we meet up later and talk about our day (although I am very attentive listening to him talk about his birdies and eagles, my day is usually more exciting). We had a bit of tension in the beginning because he'd suggest doing something on the weekend and I'd say no can't do, I'll be skydiving, and he started to resent my skydiving. So I've learned to say yes if he wants to do something and this way he doesn't resent my skydiving. I think the bottom line is you just have to keep things in perspective, partner first, skydiving second. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
