RoysPlayThing 0 #1 September 17, 2004 Am I the only one that still has issues after 5 years with an ex husband or ex wife?? This man is the devil.. So bitter that I left his abuse even after all this time, that he is childish enough to even hurt me with our children. WTF is up with some people??... He still gets to me on the damn phone when he puts on his acts and controls my life! Am I the only unfortunate one out there that is going through this? What hurts me most is he is hurting our children more than anything. MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!! Sorry... I really had to vent this one. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 220 #2 September 17, 2004 Quote MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!! Sorry... I really had to vent this one. Yep - they do. Sorry to hear that Lany - best hopes and wishes to you.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #3 September 17, 2004 MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!! *** Never forget: YOU'RE HAPPIER THAN HE IS!!! Don't let it drag you down... "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #4 September 17, 2004 QuoteAm I the only one that still has issues after 5 years with an ex husband or ex wife?? This man is the devil.. So bitter that I left his abuse even after all this time, that he is childish enough to even hurt me with our children. WTF is up with some people??... He still gets to me on the damn phone when he puts on his acts and controls my life! Am I the only unfortunate one out there that is going through this? What hurts me most is he is hurting our children more than anything. MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!! Sorry... I really had to vent this one. ''... Sorry to hear it...unfortunately I've seen it around here too. I feel bad for all that are caught in the middle. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fast 0 #5 September 17, 2004 I have been lucky enough to not even run into any of my EXs Which is probally a good thing!~D Where troubles melt like lemon drops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me. Swooping is taking one last poke at the bear before escaping it's cave - davelepka Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #6 September 17, 2004 QuoteHe still gets to me on the damn phone Learn this phrase, "I understand that this is important, but I really don't have the time right now. Perhaps we can discuss it later." ...and it is never a good time to discuss it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #7 September 17, 2004 Thank you turtlespeed... And Nick.. yeah, I know its mind over matter.. but even though I tried really hard for him not to upset me, it threw me into a seizure last night... so If he controls me to such a strong point of stress.. what can I do about it? _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #8 September 17, 2004 so If he controls me to such a strong point of stress.. what can I do about it?*** Get him a Dropzone.com account. We'll take care of him... "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #9 September 17, 2004 Quoteso If he controls me to such a strong point of stress.. what can I do about it?*** Get him a Dropzone.com account. We'll take care of him... Awe!! I love you guys! _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
D22369 0 #10 September 17, 2004 He still gets to me on the damn phone when he puts on his acts and controls my life*** hang up on him when he starts his shit..., communication via telephone is totally voluntary. Just tell him your too busy for his childish shit, then "click"...... do it everytime, he will eventually figure it out.... RoyThey say I suffer from insanity.... But I actually enjoy it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #11 September 17, 2004 I gotta agree. to some extent you are letting him cause this shit. I know there are kids involved so you HAVE to put up with some of it. but people treat us the way we conditioned them to treat us. ( did that read correctly?) when you were involved with, um let's call him dickhead. when you and dickhead were involved, somehow he convinced you to let him treat you progressively worse until you had enough. ( i am assuming if he lives up to his name that his name was the same when you were married...DICKHEAD that is.) but now that you are not involved you dont have to deal with dickhead's crap anymore. now you have to condition him to deal with you on YOUR level. hang up when he lives up to his name. he will learn . (my guess is he's still playing his games b/c he still wants you back)My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #12 September 17, 2004 QuoteI gotta agree. to some extent you are letting him cause this shit. I know there are kids involved so you HAVE to put up with some of it. but people treat us the way we conditioned them to treat us. ( did that read correctly?) when you were involved with, um let's call him dickhead. when you and dickhead were involved, somehow he convinced you to let him treat you progressively worse until you had enough. ( i am assuming if he lives up to his name that his name was the same when you were married...DICKHEAD that is.) but now that you are not involved you dont have to deal with dickhead's crap anymore. now you have to condition him to deal with you on YOUR level. hang up when he lives up to his name. he will learn . Thank you for your advise... it is true.. you said it pretty well. I did very well on the phone... but then once I hung up (finally) I broke down. I really Love the good name you gave him! Quote(my guess is he's still playing his games b/c he still wants you back) Yes... This is what I think, because I feel if he would just go on with his life, He would be happy enough to not try to continue to hurt me. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #13 September 17, 2004 remember the deodorant commercail? "never let 'em see you sweat" dont let him know he's getting to you and you'll drive him jsut aas crazy as he's trying to drive you! (I've had some experiences,too)My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #14 September 17, 2004 Thank you J.T. .. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #15 September 17, 2004 SHHHHHH! they'll hear youMy photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #16 September 17, 2004 Don't worry, no one will believe her Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #17 September 17, 2004 QuoteSHHHHHH! they'll hear you *appreciations for JT from now on going through pm's* _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
miked10270 0 #18 September 17, 2004 Ahhh...Communications issues with an ex can seem so complicated... But there is a simple solution. For example: "Honey, I'm a bit busy just now. How about you DIE... BASTARD... and get in touch through my Ouija Board?" Then (important!!) DO NOT HANG UP What you do is place the phone face down on a handy cushion and go away to the kitchen. Have a cigarette (if you smoke). Make a coffee. Hell, make a 7 course cordon-bleu meal... Anything, secure in the knowledge that he is telling the cushion / carpet / table all his pish. Of course, he'll call again (and again),... And you'll say (and repeat as necessary)...: "Honey, I'm a bit busy just now. How about you DIE... BASTARD... and get in touch through my Ouija Board?" once again leaving him to talk to the carpet / cushion / table. Note to add: This is actually a form of I.Q. test. You take a peak I.Q of 200, and divide by the number of times your Ex calls to find his I.Q. E.G. Calls once and takes the hint is I.Q of 200/1 = smart ex. Calls 8 times is I.Q 200/8=25 - Roadside Melon Seller. Mike. Taking the piss out of the FrenchAmericans since before it was fashionable. Prenait la pisse hors du FrançaisCanadiens méridionaux puisqu'avant lui à la mode. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #19 September 17, 2004 LOL. I think philly Kev is correct, but its still jsut a rumor, I am not one to be of any help.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #20 September 17, 2004 lol instead of smoking a cig, you can jsut have sex while he listens!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #21 September 17, 2004 Holy crap!! You got any more awesome irritating idea's give me a PM ... that goes for anybody that has tricks up there sleeve. ... You guys have all the ideas! _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #22 September 17, 2004 I tried your method. It resulted in a IQ in the decimals due to the number of calls, followed by her calling the police and making up shit about me since it pissed her off. psychos suck. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #23 September 17, 2004 Quotelol instead of smoking a cig, you can jsut have sex while he listens! Of course I like this idea a bunch! _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #24 September 17, 2004 after he hears that, you can attack his man hood. he'll stop!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trey922 0 #25 September 17, 2004 jtval has excellent advise! I've actually had to use that tactic when I left my wife 2 years ago. She would call up hysterical non stop for the first week. After just a few times I got fed up with it, tried to tell her to calm down if she wanted to talk about things, which she wouldn't, then I just hung up the phone. When she called right back I just let it go over to voice mail. (thank god for caller id and voice mail) After about a week she caught on and calmed down. She did have a few relapses over the next couple of weeks, but I just went back to step 1. and let voice mail do the rest. Fortunately I've got the new version of voice mail that lets you hit '3' and delete the message without having to listen to the whole thing! Fortunately since then we've still managed to stay friends, after some of the divorce horror stories I've heard, kinda' makes me feel lucky. Hope everything works out for you! -Trey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
