Vallerina 2 #1 August 25, 2004 We're just a bunch of relationship non-experts, so I finally decided to seek out some experts on this subject. Here you go: Quote Is It OK To Date a Non-Skydiver? Q: I have always told myself I would never date a non-skydiver, but lately I've been wondering if it's all right. There's a guy at school who is a wonderful person and honestly one of the sweetest guys I've ever met. He has high standards like I do and accepts what I believe, but I don't think he's a skydiver. Still, I can't help but like him—he's such a great person! I've been thinking about this a lot and have asked jumping friends for advice, but I'm still not sure what's right. Dropzone.com says we aren't to be drawn to whuffos (The Bonfire), which I've been taught is a reason not to marry a non-skydiver. But Dropzone.com isn't very clear about dating. These feelings just won't go away, and I don't know what to do. A: My advice is, stay where you are. You feel uncomfortable now, but not nearly as uncomfortable as you would if you fell in love with someone who didn't share your beliefs. Then you'd feel like you were being pulled in two directions—one part pulled toward the dropzone, another part pulled toward a person you can't seem to live without. You're right that Dropzone.com isn't clear on dating non-skydivers. Besides, "dating" means different things to different people in different situations. Sometimes there's no emotion involved—it's just a friendly way to go to the bar or to a movie. However, I think most people will admit that in the back of their minds, they think about the possibility of getting romantically involved with the people they date. That's why it's simpler and much less heart-breaking to avoid dating people who aren't skydivers. It's so easy to fall in love, even when you aren't intending to! Once you're seriously involved, it's terribly painful and confusing to both parties for the skydiver to make a choice between skydiving and this powerful feeling of love. I'd advise you to stick to dating those who share your beliefs. That certainly doesn't mean you can't befriend this wonderful guy! In fact, I hope you invite him to go make a tandem or AFF jump with you. Talk to him about your skydiving. Ask him if he's interested in learning about skydiving. You could help this great guy become a follower of skydiving. So, you heard it from the experts! Stick with skydivers! Here's the source...scroll down a little bit for the question : http://www.christianitytoday.com/cl/9c5/9c5062.htmlThere's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stevebabin 0 #2 August 25, 2004 It seems to me like it might be better to date a very independant whuffo. If a "dating" relationship ends, it could be uncomfortable for both parties at the DZ. If I was single, I would not date other skydivers..."Science, logic and reason will fly you to the moon. Religion will fly you into buildings." "Because figuring things out is always better than making shit up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #3 August 25, 2004 hehehe... thats funny val.. very creative! Is that site for real?? I love the "is cybersex wrong" question... dude.. dont go on a church website and ask that!! Go on a porn site and ask it! Particularly if you like cybersex... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adamjenner 0 #4 August 25, 2004 i think the "i kissed my youth director" one is funny.."i'm 14 and he's 28 and married and we're in love, do i need help?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #5 August 25, 2004 Quote Is that site for real?? Yes...it is.... Quote I love the "is cybersex wrong" question I know! Now, I'm not sure how to spend my time at work anymore! There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #6 August 25, 2004 How about this one..... I've Kissed My AFF Instructor Q: I'm 14 years old, and in the last two months I've done something very wrong with my AFF Instructor. We've gotten majorly close, and I have kissed him four or five times. Once a week, we go somewhere together alone, like shopping or just riding around for the evening. We both know this is wrong, and each time say we aren't going to do it anymore. He is 28, married and has three kids. His wife is a whore, his kids are brats from hell and I dont care if I hurt them. But I also love him, and he's told me he loves me too. We need help bad. Sounds like a skydiver to me... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adamjenner 0 #7 August 25, 2004 hahaha "i'm 14 and was at a local dropzone doing tequila body shots and made out with a 28 year old AFF instructor. am i going to hell?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
malboy 0 #8 August 25, 2004 definately... teach em to pack! www.ewancowie.com www.facebook.com/ewancowiephotography Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #9 August 25, 2004 Quote definately... teach em to pack! I'd rather teach the cybersex kid how to pack.. then they can write in with questions like.. "Is Psycho-Packing Wrong?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #10 August 25, 2004 In a word - NO. I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #11 August 25, 2004 And the moral of the story is.... "If you can't find one.....make one." Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ManBird 0 #12 August 25, 2004 Quote It seems to me like it might be better to date a very independant whuffo. If a "dating" relationship ends, it could be uncomfortable for both parties at the DZ. If I was single, I would not date other skydivers...Totes. I always dated girls with whom I had some sort of mutual interest. Relationships were short (weeks) and some politics/awkwardness would follow. Now, my girlfriend of three years has nothing in common with me. Opposites truly do attract. Besides, if she jumped, all my friends would like her more than they like me. Hell, every weekend they ask why she isn't at the DZ, and she's never made a jump in her life."¯"`-._.-¯) ManBird (¯-._.-´"¯" Click Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #13 August 25, 2004 HAHAHAHAHAHA! That one was funny!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tricky 0 #14 August 25, 2004 Just a side note: I've been pushing my friends to make a tandem jump and most of them plan on it but claim they don't have the money at the moment. How guilty would you feel if you introduced someone you cared about immenesly into this sport and then by chance they get seriously injured. Would you feel guilty? I know I would feel at least some small amount of guilt (if not a lot). Just a thought. However, I have also promised myself that I would not date anyone from my home dropzone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #15 August 25, 2004 In a word - NO. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ManBird 0 #16 August 25, 2004 Another one... didn't bother with the answer: Quote Q: Lately I've met a lot of really interesting jumper chicks, but some of the things I've learned about them are disturbing. For instance, they might have come from Wright Brothers Skydiving or be experienced in CReW. I realize not everyone has the jump numbers to start flying a wingsuit or the balls to get into BASE, but how can I know which disciplines to accept and which ones could potentially damage my image? My expectations for a mate are high, and I don't want to hook up with someone who will constantly suck on jumps around me or my friends. I've also met some jumper chicks who seem to have gotten their lives back on the right track after a few years of RW and standard accuracy. Will these problems tarnish a relationship that would seemingly be perfect otherwise?"¯"`-._.-¯) ManBird (¯-._.-´"¯" Click Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #17 August 25, 2004 hahahaaa.. the funny part is that it sounds to me like a perfectly valid question! Does that mean theres something wrong with me!!??? I guess I shouldnt have kissed my AFF Instructor or psycho packed my parachute... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
