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Luv2Fall 0
Chris..........sorry man.............you now know who your REAL friends are. The same thing happen to me about eight years ago. With time, you'll be better with this situation although you certainly won't forget it. My very best to you, Chris.
BASE813 0
QuoteBASE...that was very very well said, and is it to a "T"
I think some people have it confused what being a good friend really is. Its not being the drinking buddy, but being the person there when things are ugly, not just when all is ok.
I thank god for the good friends i have, the ones that when the cards were down stood by me and didnt run.
People say they have "lots of friends" - but in the end, do they really?
"good" friends are actually quite hard to come by, when you realise who they are keep them, some people in life aint that lucky to have even one......................
be cool people............ and quick recovery to those out...............
Recovery is fucking boring!
TheAnvil 0
Dude, when I was all-fucked-up from my car wreck a few years ago I had a slight change in my social circle too.
Sorry to hear that...
Life will get better.
Sorry to hear that...
Life will get better.
Vinny the Anvil
Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL
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Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL
JACKASS POWER!!!!!!
Au contraire Chris.
I've two close calls in my life.
The first invovled a lot of flames and charred flesh.
I had cards and support from people I didn't even consider to be acquaintances.
The other time, low turn and kinda dumb, but I still had a lot of visits from pals. If only to give them the chance to regail me with their tales of derring do and to point out at the skyvan climbing near the hospital.
Some people do have an aversion to hospitals, but I'm prepared to wager a beer or three that if you pitched up at the DZ, you might have more friends say hi than you might imagine.
I've two close calls in my life.
The first invovled a lot of flames and charred flesh.
I had cards and support from people I didn't even consider to be acquaintances.
The other time, low turn and kinda dumb, but I still had a lot of visits from pals. If only to give them the chance to regail me with their tales of derring do and to point out at the skyvan climbing near the hospital.
Some people do have an aversion to hospitals, but I'm prepared to wager a beer or three that if you pitched up at the DZ, you might have more friends say hi than you might imagine.
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He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me. Thomas Jefferson
He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me. Thomas Jefferson
I'm your friend BIG hugs to you
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jceman 1
Chris,
Sometimes life wakes you up to truths like a slap in the face with an ice-cold dishrag, this is one of those times. As you get through your rough patches, you will have the benefit of knowing who you can count on, but I think that isn't what you should take from this.
If you use this experience to evaluate how you are a friend to others, it may help you to be a better, truer friend to those who matter to you in your heart.
I found out who I could count on when I broke myself and was very fortunate to find that I have some very true friends: the eight people who had ridden to Quincy with us in the RV had to find their own ways back to FL among other minor difficulties. One of them told Lynn to let her know when I was released to come home, when that day came, he flew back to St. Louis and helped her drive us home. He refused to be paid for this none-too-cheap airfare. We don't see one another often, but we both regard him highly and value him. Another made a ninety minute drive to our place the day after we got home to replace my modem which had died while we were gone and carried my computer and stand downstairs and set it up by my chair so I could remain in the living room and be connected; again, there was no paying him
I didn't write about these friends to brag about how great my friends are, rather to give examples of how to be a great friend. I have tried to learn from their examples.
Cherish those who you value as friends; good friendships age like fine wine -- you may go a long time without seeing or talking to each other, but you always pick up where you left off.
Damn, I'm starting to ramble here and haven't really pulled things together as I'd like; but just remember to learn from this and use it to better yourself. No experience is wasted unless you let it be, so make the best of it.
Faster horses, younger women, older whiskey, more money.
Why do they call it "Tourist Season" if we can't shoot them?
Sometimes life wakes you up to truths like a slap in the face with an ice-cold dishrag, this is one of those times. As you get through your rough patches, you will have the benefit of knowing who you can count on, but I think that isn't what you should take from this.
If you use this experience to evaluate how you are a friend to others, it may help you to be a better, truer friend to those who matter to you in your heart.
I found out who I could count on when I broke myself and was very fortunate to find that I have some very true friends: the eight people who had ridden to Quincy with us in the RV had to find their own ways back to FL among other minor difficulties. One of them told Lynn to let her know when I was released to come home, when that day came, he flew back to St. Louis and helped her drive us home. He refused to be paid for this none-too-cheap airfare. We don't see one another often, but we both regard him highly and value him. Another made a ninety minute drive to our place the day after we got home to replace my modem which had died while we were gone and carried my computer and stand downstairs and set it up by my chair so I could remain in the living room and be connected; again, there was no paying him
I didn't write about these friends to brag about how great my friends are, rather to give examples of how to be a great friend. I have tried to learn from their examples.
Cherish those who you value as friends; good friendships age like fine wine -- you may go a long time without seeing or talking to each other, but you always pick up where you left off.
Damn, I'm starting to ramble here and haven't really pulled things together as I'd like; but just remember to learn from this and use it to better yourself. No experience is wasted unless you let it be, so make the best of it.
Faster horses, younger women, older whiskey, more money.
Why do they call it "Tourist Season" if we can't shoot them?
mailin 0
Only because I know abit about this... I'll be devils advocate...
Give your friends the benefit of the doubt. It could be you are expecting too much from them. I lost my rights to drive for 6 months and got a bit upset when friends wouldn't be willing to drive me to the store or just 'out of the house' on weekends. I had to take a step back and realize that they had lives too and I was expecting too much from them. Sure they did that often for me, but every weekend was expecting a bit much.
I didn't lose my friends per-say, but I did gain a new appreciation that friend ship can be a two way street. I know its hard when the chips are down, but its important to look at it from their point of view too. Don't try to push them away.
Best of luck,
Jen
Give your friends the benefit of the doubt. It could be you are expecting too much from them. I lost my rights to drive for 6 months and got a bit upset when friends wouldn't be willing to drive me to the store or just 'out of the house' on weekends. I had to take a step back and realize that they had lives too and I was expecting too much from them. Sure they did that often for me, but every weekend was expecting a bit much.
I didn't lose my friends per-say, but I did gain a new appreciation that friend ship can be a two way street. I know its hard when the chips are down, but its important to look at it from their point of view too. Don't try to push them away.
Best of luck,
Jen
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BASE813 0
QuoteAu contraire Chris.
I've two close calls in my life.
The first invovled a lot of flames and charred flesh.
I had cards and support from people I didn't even consider to be acquaintances.
The other time, low turn and kinda dumb, but I still had a lot of visits from pals. If only to give them the chance to regail me with their tales of derring do and to point out at the skyvan climbing near the hospital.
Some people do have an aversion to hospitals, but I'm prepared to wager a beer or three that if you pitched up at the DZ, you might have more friends say hi than you might imagine.
trouble is what i found is in the couple of weeks everyone wants to see you and speak to you, but after that it dies down.............. several months later the same people are no where to be seen.............. and your left going through each day with the same old shit..............
bozo 0
QuoteI'm not referring to .commers, but pose this question to you folks because so many have suffered injuries.
In real life, I've had quite a few friends just simply disappear from my life since my injury a year ago.
I guess it shows who your real friends are.
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I havent found this to be the case at all. The close group of friends I had when I crushed my spine in 96 are still here with me thru this darn hip replacement.
I hear from them every day.
Yes....they are all skydivers.
I have been jumping for the greatest part of my adult life ..and those "friends" that were just people I knew, have been long gone ,for decades
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A true friend is the guy or girl that will crawl into a burning house because you may be in there.
If you have one of these.....or ,like myself, are blessed with half a dozen....count yourself lucky, most people never will.
bozo
bozo
Pain is fleeting. Glory lasts forever. Chicks dig scars.
Sometimes, Chris, it's not them who have changed, but you. This is from experience...
You've just been through an extremely traumatic event, and you are still suffering the consequences. THink about what you thought to be important a couple of years ago, and compare it to what you think is important now. There are big differences, man.
Your priorities are different now. The same is probably not true for your friends. Maybe they seem shallow to you because you have a greater understanding and appreciation for what you all once took for granted. They took for granted that you'd always be there with them, doing what you always did. Now, they probably have a hard time even handling what you are now.
When I had my big change at age 20, my friends (not friends anymore) did not understand. I couldn't hold that against them. They couldn't possibly understand. It wasn't their fault.
It may be easier if you try to understand where they are coming from. Where they are coming from is where you came from, too. The difference is they are still there, and you are not...
Maybe you'll never be back there, Chris. There's a good chance you may not want to, for you understand things far better now. It's sad, but it's the way. And in another couple of years, you will look back on these days, and you will understand.. I know it.
My wife is hotter than your wife.
You've just been through an extremely traumatic event, and you are still suffering the consequences. THink about what you thought to be important a couple of years ago, and compare it to what you think is important now. There are big differences, man.
Your priorities are different now. The same is probably not true for your friends. Maybe they seem shallow to you because you have a greater understanding and appreciation for what you all once took for granted. They took for granted that you'd always be there with them, doing what you always did. Now, they probably have a hard time even handling what you are now.
When I had my big change at age 20, my friends (not friends anymore) did not understand. I couldn't hold that against them. They couldn't possibly understand. It wasn't their fault.
It may be easier if you try to understand where they are coming from. Where they are coming from is where you came from, too. The difference is they are still there, and you are not...
Maybe you'll never be back there, Chris. There's a good chance you may not want to, for you understand things far better now. It's sad, but it's the way. And in another couple of years, you will look back on these days, and you will understand.. I know it.
My wife is hotter than your wife.
Brian425 0
Sorry about your injury and the loss of your "friends".
On the positive side, cherish your real friends. These are the people who will be with you forever. I have 2 good friends. We have been through good, bad and ugly together. And we are still willing to do it today. Friendships last 25 years for a reason. I hope to get another 50.
Enjoy what you have. One or two good friends is all you need. More than that and it is difficult to be a good friend to them in return.
See Ya and happy Friday.
B
The only time you should look down on someone is when you are offering them your hand.
On the positive side, cherish your real friends. These are the people who will be with you forever. I have 2 good friends. We have been through good, bad and ugly together. And we are still willing to do it today. Friendships last 25 years for a reason. I hope to get another 50.
Enjoy what you have. One or two good friends is all you need. More than that and it is difficult to be a good friend to them in return.
See Ya and happy Friday.
B
The only time you should look down on someone is when you are offering them your hand.
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