Have you ever lost the perfect situation?

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I'm pretty sure there's a ding letter template that they've all been using! "Thank you for your interest in our company...." blah blah blah blah.

Don't forget the "we've decided on a candidate that better fits the job description. We wish you luck in your future endeavors...."

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I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug!

[AirMail 0]

Val, remember that life is full of ups and downs. Just try to make sure that all of your ups and downs include ins and outs too.

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It's never too late to have a happy childhood.
Postal Rodriguez, Muff 3342

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looking back on my life so far, i reallized that there have been no "perfect" situations in my life. there have been incredible periods so far! there have been times when nothing goes even remotely the way i would prefer. i have just emrged from one of the bad times and i am looking at all the doors that are now open, as was stated earlier here.

when i'm in a bad time, it usually starts to get better only when I descide it's time to! and i rely on myself and only the very closest of friends for a shoulder! they are the friends that will help you move, or come get you out of jail, or just listen sometimes with-out making a point.

do a little, or a lot, of soul searching and you will be able to identify the things or people that lift you to your good place. once you know what these are, then you know where you need to be!

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~~~~Green grass and high clouds forever~~~~
no matter where you go, there you are!

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Just try to make sure that all of your ups and downs include ins and outs too

damn airmail, that is a pretty good saying... i'm gona have to use that now....



val,

i feel ya... when i had to move from colorado in 2002 it sucked i had just made some incredily cool friends, work was great and i was getting to be where i wanted in life... then along comes utah... not as cool here, friends took a while but i'm getting back to wherei want to be.... it takes work but if you want it you can make it happen...... it isn't going to just fallin your lap... well okay it might but very rarely................. if ya ever need cheeringup fel free to call me.... i'll ttell ya the duck joke... it alwys makes me smile.....

p.s. i dare you to tell the duck joke to your coworkers..........

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[Hipwrddude 0]

Hi Vallerina!
Allow me to go deep on this response. In psychology, when someone feels their world, their emotions are controlled by forces outside them, it is known as having an "external locus of control." To those who have control (since both situations are in your head anyway,) it is known as an "internal locus of control." In Maxwell Maltz's book, "PsychoCybernetics," he ventures into mental programming--essentially visualizing the world and events you want to happen. If you simply do this, in whatever aspect of your life you wish to address, just imagining good things will start to bring the sun out. You have the power to change your world view and make it a reality. Play with this awhile--it can be very powerful--and life changing.
One famous study found that successful people often had influence over events in their lives outside of their control--seemingly by just the attitude they had towards it (i.e., If you never ask, the answer is always "no." So ASK god damnit, and never stop!!)
Also consider the fact that if you can't change your situation at present, simply change how you feel about it. Okay, "Like Hell!" But no, really. Choose to change the way you feel about those things in your life that you think suck. There are studies that show that if you simply act happy, you'll start feeling happy. Example, put your favorite dance music on (or whatever) get down, sing and act like you're a joyful fool and wah la!
Okay, not enough. Rumination or internal dialogue. Life sucks because you tell yourself it sucks. Guess what? Stop talking to yourself in those tones. You're reinforcing bad vibes. When speaker Norman Cousins faced the prognosis of a terminal illness, he surrounded himself with love and humor. He watched 3 stooges cartoons, had clowns come in, friends tell jokes, etc., etc. He recovered. Now dispel negativity and illuminate yourself with love and humor, and use internal dialogue that is positively you--all the time.
The perfect situation is having a lack of "cognitive dissonance." That psychobabble means that your perception of the world is in conflict with how you want it to be. So, another option, change your routines. Exercise is one of the most powerful mood elevators. Take the elevator up with exercise (it also does wonders to self-esteem, appearance, *** drive, etc.)
How's your diet and sleep? Are your energy levels solid throughout the day or do they dip after lunch? Your diet, sleep duration and exercise rates drive your hormone levels so perhaps they are contributing factors.
In Martin Seligman's book, "What You Can Change & What You Can't," he discusses the fact that certain behaviors are so deep you can't change them, but learn to deal with them to your benefit. Dr. Phil talks about the authentic self, essentially casting aside the labels others have placed on you and being free and powerful to pursue your dreams--with adventure and excitement.
Ultimately, look towards a brighter future. In Viktor Frankel's "Man's Search for Meaning," he found that those who perished from faultering will in the Nazi concentration camps did so because they lost faith in their future.
Finally, a little poem from Gail Brooks, "Summer Days to Remember"
I do not ask to walk smooth paths, nor bear an easy load;
I pray for strength and fortitude to climb the rock strewn road;
Give me such courage so I can scale, the highest peaks alone, and transform every stumbling block into a stepping stone.

You're always the starter in your own life!

[Ron 10]

Yes, Ihave had the perfect situation....

Then all hell broke loose.

It has happened before, and it will happen again.

Read Frost's "Nothing Gold can Stay"

"No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334

[Vallerina 2]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. It's not that my life sucks, but there are times where things just aren't going right. I hate having to always put on a happy face in front of everyone, so when things pile up, I just snap! Also, I am doing much better today since my menstrual hormones have settled down a bit!!! (Actually, that's most of my freaking out...)

There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning