lawrocket 3 #51 May 7, 2004 Well, Val, it apears that you came upon this information through means which most here would not approve. While it is the fruit of the poisonous tree, it's still fruit, and the issue here still remains "What to do about the cheater?" You rat the asshole out. Cheating nowadays can KILL people. What you have is a situation where the cheating person (who's judgment is already shown to be bad) shags the wrong person and passes whatever he got to your friend. So, what is more important? My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #52 May 7, 2004 Quote I hate script kiddies as well. Hear hear!!!! Yeah it's been a while for me too. It was my knowlege of computer "gaming" that got me my job. Yes, there's a good story. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samurai136 0 #53 May 7, 2004 Quote I don't know of many people who could just sit on their hands if someone they care about is getting hurt. The Princess Bride: Life is pain my dear, anyone who tells you differently is selling something. 1. Your friend is a separate person from you and there will never be anything you can do to keep them from pain. 2. In the adult world I'm familiar with, adults respect the boundaries and privacy of other adults. Application of this rule has tended to keep me from both reading other people's e-mail and becoming entwined in the emotional tides of other people's private relationships. 3. E-mail is bogus. It proves nothing. Having read it, you need to decide if you're going to just forget about it or ask him if he's cheating on your friend. Don't tell him about the e-mail. You had your suspicions before reading it. If you're going to nose around in other people's business go all the way and just ask out right.4. You seem to pride yourself on your honesty and integrity. Just tell your friend you don't like her boyfriend and you have your own suspicions that he's a lousy cheat and then leave the topic alone. Your friend will have to decide for herself what this guy means to her if he is in fact cheating. Blue Skies!Ken"Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #54 May 7, 2004 Quote You had your suspicions before reading it. If you're going to nose around in other people's business go all the way and just ask out right. No, I didn't. Seeing the subject lines on the emails (which I did innocently) is what gave me suspicion.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #55 May 7, 2004 Quote Cheating nowadays can KILL people. That's why I might end up saying something. Quote Stick to your guns, chic. It will all come out in the wash! Thanks! I really just don't know of many people where if they read something like that happening to someone they love they could just say, "Oh well!" Reading the emails the first time was completely innocent on my part. The computer was handed over to me with it open. It's almost impossible not to read what's on a computer screen that you are using.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gjhdiver 0 #56 May 7, 2004 Quote What do you do when someone you dislike is cheating on someone that you care about? I'd mind my own damn business. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #57 May 7, 2004 I once had a friend send me an email with the title of "I'm Cumming!", it was'nt a nasty email... but it was an email that she was coming home for a while and wanted to see a lot of people again. But just looking at the subject could give people the wrong impression.. expecially when it got sent to my work address by accident. But did the subject of an email give work (who owns the assets, owns the data and owns me) the right to open up any other emails or suspect me of doing something wrong? Nope... Its easier to stay out of others private lives and not play "detective" unless they specifically tell you details about their life. Reading emails is not specifically telling you things, thats betraying their trust and invading their privacy.Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #58 May 7, 2004 Once again, you don't know the whole story. No, I am not comfortable with sharing it online. My guess is that many people put in my position would've done the same thing. Actually, at first I thought what I saw may have been Spam. I got a look at the sender and everything, and I just kinda remembered it. Pretty much, I saw something that gave me suspicion months ago. I didn't actively seek it out, but I was "watching." I don't think that's odd. If it would've been Spam, or if it was harmless like you had mentioned it could be, then when I glanced at the screen while he was iming, I'm sure nothing bad would've been there. However, that's not what happened. I glanced at the screen, and there was plenty "wrong" to read in just that one second. Once again, if it's bad of me to not let it go when someone is hurting someone I love, then I'll gladly be a jerk for it. When something causes suspicion, I will watch out for those that I care about.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
