VanillaSkyGirl 6 #26 February 22, 2004 Quote8) Working on me. No, not "working on me"...that is not what they meant really. They said "concentrating on me". I think that is very different than working on yourself. 8. "Alone and happy" is a much better choice. Personally, I have been head over heels in love and very, very happy and I have been alone and very, very happy, too. A person's happiness and self-esteem shouldn't be determined by whom they date or are married to, right? I think that in life we should strive for our own personal happiness and fulfillment. Being in love is just a bonus. However, sometimes, being alone and able to really connect with various people and devote much time to your relationships with your friends and family, etc., not just on a romantic scale, is a very, very beautiful thing. Therefore, sometimes, being alone is a bonus. "Working on me" implies that something is wrong and that something is missing. "Concentrating on me" means taking care of yourself, your needs and enjoyment first...because you can. It means going out with friends, pursuing adventures, travel, time alone pampering yourself, etc. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites shunkka 0 #27 February 22, 2004 i cant be with the one who i love and love me it`s sad but true dont ask me the reasons ------------------------- "jump, have fun, pull" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rainbo 0 #28 February 22, 2004 Quote Looks like there needs to be another choice? 8) Working on me. Geesh. That's the last time I put together a poll when I'm listening to sappy Chicago tunes ... Need anyone to sing them tunes to ya? RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Tinkerbelle 5 #29 February 22, 2004 I love the one I love and am repulsed by any other. It makes my skin crawl if someone else tries to even touch me! Unfortunately due to my Daddy's recent death I have to be in CA. with my Mommy and can't be there in DeLand with the one I love. I will be there for my B-day at end of March and his in April. Geography is getting in the way, but my love for him has not waned one bit! I just hope he still feels the same way. He is gorgeous and popular, and has lots of women after him all the time! I am cute too, but don't want anyone but him! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dzdiva 7 #30 February 22, 2004 Quotei cant be with the one who i love and love me it`s sad but true dont ask me the reasons Won't ask the reasons...will just offer ((HUGS)). It's sad when you can't be with the one you love. You never know though, things might work out."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites diverdriver 6 #31 February 22, 2004 QuoteI'll choose other, alone and not looking for love. QuoteThis year, I'm concentrating on me Hey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dzdiva 7 #32 February 22, 2004 QuoteHey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! You mean I got the job? I figured since you couldn't check my references, you found someone else for the position!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Muenkel 0 #33 February 22, 2004 QuoteDamn, there goes my chance... Sunny, you know I love you and I am definitely a headcase. Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites elfanie 0 #34 February 22, 2004 QuoteBe honest and 'fess up. Anyone happy out there? Deliriously happy..married for 11+ years to my absolute dream person.... God in Heaven only knows what I ever did so right to deserve someone like him.... -------------------------------------------- Elfanie My Skydiving Page Fly Safe - Soft Landings Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites shunkka 0 #35 February 22, 2004 dzdiva u r always so sweet and optimist? thanks for hugs ------------------------- "jump, have fun, pull" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wendybird 0 #36 February 22, 2004 QuoteQuote Geesh. That's the last time I put together a poll when I'm listening to sappy Chicago tunes ... Need anyone to sing them tunes to ya? Rainbo Have you had enough tequila?Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wendybird 0 #37 February 22, 2004 Quote Hey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! If you figure it out, let me know. I've always wanted my own personal stalker.Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites diverdriver 6 #38 February 22, 2004 QuoteQuoteHey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! You mean I got the job? I figured since you couldn't check my references, you found someone else for the position! A true good stalker doesn't let little obstacles stand in her way. I guess you just weren't up for the job. Oh well. NEXT! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpergirl 0 #39 February 23, 2004 Lovin' the one I love and LOVIN' IT (and him)!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites eeneR 3 #40 February 23, 2004 Well I am another happy to be with me! I truly enjoy when im single....no one to worry about but myself (and my doggies) Dont get me wrong, I love having a partner in crime, someone to go skiing with, or skydiving, or take road trips with, wake up in the morning and snuggle with. There is nothing in the world like having someone to share your days with, to love and cherish, thru good and bad. But it is not needed...just a bonus.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites CrazyIvan 0 #41 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus Exactly...I agree with you 100%__________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wendybird 0 #42 February 23, 2004 QuoteWell I am another happy to be with me! reply] Oh? Who's the other happy to be with you? Snowdog and Showdog? (You should know by now you need to be careful how you word things I'll be reading!)Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bobsled92 0 #43 February 23, 2004 Quotedzdiva u r always so sweet and optimist? thanks for hugs Diva/Laurie is such an optimist that I saw her cheer herself up on the way to alititude once (between 9,000 & 13,000) _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dzdiva 7 #44 February 23, 2004 Awww...thanks Grant!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bobsled92 0 #45 February 23, 2004 _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AggieDave 6 #46 February 23, 2004 Me, happy? Holy crap are you kidding? I don't think I've ever been this happy in my life! I have a beautiful fiance that actually loves me as much as I love her, as crazy as it sounds that someone could love a goofy country boy like myself.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #47 February 23, 2004 QuoteBe honest and 'fess up. Anyone happy out there? Absolutely ecstatic in this department. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rainbo 0 #48 February 23, 2004 Quote Have you had enough tequila? Let me check...nope only half an empty bottle...you know I don't get in tune until at least 3/4 of a bottle...let me see what I can do RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites flyangel2 2 #49 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus. Right on!May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites peacefuljeffrey 0 #50 February 23, 2004 Alone and lookin' for the one I love. It gets tough sometimes... Edit follows (I guess I had more to say): I've been feeling conflicted. As I stood around and watched all my close friends from high school and college get married and have kids, I began to feel like I am the only one who didn't do that. I pretty much am the only one. I love being in love. I love having someone to give my affection to, and receive affection from. I love sex and lovemaking. I love to treasure the other person, body and soul. I just have not connected with a long-termer. Add to that the fact that I tend to be a little underconfident (picking up girls and dating tends to be the only thing I lack confidence in), and the fact that I don't get out much lately, and don't work in a job where I meet a whole lot of women, and there you have me, pretty lonely. But like many others here, loneliness does not mean for me that I am not having fun and enjoying my life. It's just that lack of love does leave a big gaping hole that I am ever-conscious of. At the same time, I'm conflicted. I like my freedom, and unattachedness. I can sleep all day if I want, do the dishes when I feel like it, spend my time however I want to, as well as my money. I didn't have to compromise on what kind of car I bought, or how much I spend on golf frisbees and skydiving gear and food and drink, or even the cat I picked out at the animal shelter. I can arrive home at whatever time I want (or whatever day). I can watch whatever I want on t.v. I get the whole bed to myself (except for wherever the cat is lying), and I can stretch out all over it. The bathroom is entirely mine, and I don't have to work around someone else's stuff, anywhere in my house. All these things are great aspects of freedom. But I don't pretend that I would not change some of them in order to have love. I'm open to it, receptive to it, even eager for it -- but it just hasn't found me. The big bummer of it is that all the time spent without it leaves the mind idle to wonder and conjecture about what it should feel like or will feel like, or even if it's a realistic possibility. When I see others walking around who are obviously couples in love, I stop and try to get into their heads and think about how it is for them, and see if my mind works in that configuration. I sure hope that it does when the right girl comes my way. I am very happy with the person I am, and I feel relatively complete (or at least complete while knowing I can always grow more and learn more). If that's happiness, then yes I'm happy, but love is the last item on the list remaining to be checked off. --Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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shunkka 0 #27 February 22, 2004 i cant be with the one who i love and love me it`s sad but true dont ask me the reasons ------------------------- "jump, have fun, pull" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #28 February 22, 2004 Quote Looks like there needs to be another choice? 8) Working on me. Geesh. That's the last time I put together a poll when I'm listening to sappy Chicago tunes ... Need anyone to sing them tunes to ya? RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tinkerbelle 5 #29 February 22, 2004 I love the one I love and am repulsed by any other. It makes my skin crawl if someone else tries to even touch me! Unfortunately due to my Daddy's recent death I have to be in CA. with my Mommy and can't be there in DeLand with the one I love. I will be there for my B-day at end of March and his in April. Geography is getting in the way, but my love for him has not waned one bit! I just hope he still feels the same way. He is gorgeous and popular, and has lots of women after him all the time! I am cute too, but don't want anyone but him! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #30 February 22, 2004 Quotei cant be with the one who i love and love me it`s sad but true dont ask me the reasons Won't ask the reasons...will just offer ((HUGS)). It's sad when you can't be with the one you love. You never know though, things might work out."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diverdriver 6 #31 February 22, 2004 QuoteI'll choose other, alone and not looking for love. QuoteThis year, I'm concentrating on me Hey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #32 February 22, 2004 QuoteHey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! You mean I got the job? I figured since you couldn't check my references, you found someone else for the position!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #33 February 22, 2004 QuoteDamn, there goes my chance... Sunny, you know I love you and I am definitely a headcase. Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
elfanie 0 #34 February 22, 2004 QuoteBe honest and 'fess up. Anyone happy out there? Deliriously happy..married for 11+ years to my absolute dream person.... God in Heaven only knows what I ever did so right to deserve someone like him.... -------------------------------------------- Elfanie My Skydiving Page Fly Safe - Soft Landings Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shunkka 0 #35 February 22, 2004 dzdiva u r always so sweet and optimist? thanks for hugs ------------------------- "jump, have fun, pull" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wendybird 0 #36 February 22, 2004 QuoteQuote Geesh. That's the last time I put together a poll when I'm listening to sappy Chicago tunes ... Need anyone to sing them tunes to ya? Rainbo Have you had enough tequila?Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wendybird 0 #37 February 22, 2004 Quote Hey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! If you figure it out, let me know. I've always wanted my own personal stalker.Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diverdriver 6 #38 February 22, 2004 QuoteQuoteHey, I thought you were stalking me now? Man, I can't even hang on to a stalker! You mean I got the job? I figured since you couldn't check my references, you found someone else for the position! A true good stalker doesn't let little obstacles stand in her way. I guess you just weren't up for the job. Oh well. NEXT! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #39 February 23, 2004 Lovin' the one I love and LOVIN' IT (and him)!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites eeneR 3 #40 February 23, 2004 Well I am another happy to be with me! I truly enjoy when im single....no one to worry about but myself (and my doggies) Dont get me wrong, I love having a partner in crime, someone to go skiing with, or skydiving, or take road trips with, wake up in the morning and snuggle with. There is nothing in the world like having someone to share your days with, to love and cherish, thru good and bad. But it is not needed...just a bonus.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites CrazyIvan 0 #41 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus Exactly...I agree with you 100%__________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wendybird 0 #42 February 23, 2004 QuoteWell I am another happy to be with me! reply] Oh? Who's the other happy to be with you? Snowdog and Showdog? (You should know by now you need to be careful how you word things I'll be reading!)Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bobsled92 0 #43 February 23, 2004 Quotedzdiva u r always so sweet and optimist? thanks for hugs Diva/Laurie is such an optimist that I saw her cheer herself up on the way to alititude once (between 9,000 & 13,000) _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dzdiva 7 #44 February 23, 2004 Awww...thanks Grant!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bobsled92 0 #45 February 23, 2004 _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AggieDave 6 #46 February 23, 2004 Me, happy? Holy crap are you kidding? I don't think I've ever been this happy in my life! I have a beautiful fiance that actually loves me as much as I love her, as crazy as it sounds that someone could love a goofy country boy like myself.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #47 February 23, 2004 QuoteBe honest and 'fess up. Anyone happy out there? Absolutely ecstatic in this department. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rainbo 0 #48 February 23, 2004 Quote Have you had enough tequila? Let me check...nope only half an empty bottle...you know I don't get in tune until at least 3/4 of a bottle...let me see what I can do RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites flyangel2 2 #49 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus. Right on!May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites peacefuljeffrey 0 #50 February 23, 2004 Alone and lookin' for the one I love. It gets tough sometimes... Edit follows (I guess I had more to say): I've been feeling conflicted. As I stood around and watched all my close friends from high school and college get married and have kids, I began to feel like I am the only one who didn't do that. I pretty much am the only one. I love being in love. I love having someone to give my affection to, and receive affection from. I love sex and lovemaking. I love to treasure the other person, body and soul. I just have not connected with a long-termer. Add to that the fact that I tend to be a little underconfident (picking up girls and dating tends to be the only thing I lack confidence in), and the fact that I don't get out much lately, and don't work in a job where I meet a whole lot of women, and there you have me, pretty lonely. But like many others here, loneliness does not mean for me that I am not having fun and enjoying my life. It's just that lack of love does leave a big gaping hole that I am ever-conscious of. At the same time, I'm conflicted. I like my freedom, and unattachedness. I can sleep all day if I want, do the dishes when I feel like it, spend my time however I want to, as well as my money. I didn't have to compromise on what kind of car I bought, or how much I spend on golf frisbees and skydiving gear and food and drink, or even the cat I picked out at the animal shelter. I can arrive home at whatever time I want (or whatever day). I can watch whatever I want on t.v. I get the whole bed to myself (except for wherever the cat is lying), and I can stretch out all over it. The bathroom is entirely mine, and I don't have to work around someone else's stuff, anywhere in my house. All these things are great aspects of freedom. But I don't pretend that I would not change some of them in order to have love. I'm open to it, receptive to it, even eager for it -- but it just hasn't found me. The big bummer of it is that all the time spent without it leaves the mind idle to wonder and conjecture about what it should feel like or will feel like, or even if it's a realistic possibility. When I see others walking around who are obviously couples in love, I stop and try to get into their heads and think about how it is for them, and see if my mind works in that configuration. I sure hope that it does when the right girl comes my way. I am very happy with the person I am, and I feel relatively complete (or at least complete while knowing I can always grow more and learn more). If that's happiness, then yes I'm happy, but love is the last item on the list remaining to be checked off. --Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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eeneR 3 #40 February 23, 2004 Well I am another happy to be with me! I truly enjoy when im single....no one to worry about but myself (and my doggies) Dont get me wrong, I love having a partner in crime, someone to go skiing with, or skydiving, or take road trips with, wake up in the morning and snuggle with. There is nothing in the world like having someone to share your days with, to love and cherish, thru good and bad. But it is not needed...just a bonus.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #41 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus Exactly...I agree with you 100%__________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wendybird 0 #42 February 23, 2004 QuoteWell I am another happy to be with me! reply] Oh? Who's the other happy to be with you? Snowdog and Showdog? (You should know by now you need to be careful how you word things I'll be reading!)Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bobsled92 0 #43 February 23, 2004 Quotedzdiva u r always so sweet and optimist? thanks for hugs Diva/Laurie is such an optimist that I saw her cheer herself up on the way to alititude once (between 9,000 & 13,000) _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dzdiva 7 #44 February 23, 2004 Awww...thanks Grant!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bobsled92 0 #45 February 23, 2004 _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AggieDave 6 #46 February 23, 2004 Me, happy? Holy crap are you kidding? I don't think I've ever been this happy in my life! I have a beautiful fiance that actually loves me as much as I love her, as crazy as it sounds that someone could love a goofy country boy like myself.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #47 February 23, 2004 QuoteBe honest and 'fess up. Anyone happy out there? Absolutely ecstatic in this department. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rainbo 0 #48 February 23, 2004 Quote Have you had enough tequila? Let me check...nope only half an empty bottle...you know I don't get in tune until at least 3/4 of a bottle...let me see what I can do RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites flyangel2 2 #49 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus. Right on!May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites peacefuljeffrey 0 #50 February 23, 2004 Alone and lookin' for the one I love. It gets tough sometimes... Edit follows (I guess I had more to say): I've been feeling conflicted. As I stood around and watched all my close friends from high school and college get married and have kids, I began to feel like I am the only one who didn't do that. I pretty much am the only one. I love being in love. I love having someone to give my affection to, and receive affection from. I love sex and lovemaking. I love to treasure the other person, body and soul. I just have not connected with a long-termer. Add to that the fact that I tend to be a little underconfident (picking up girls and dating tends to be the only thing I lack confidence in), and the fact that I don't get out much lately, and don't work in a job where I meet a whole lot of women, and there you have me, pretty lonely. But like many others here, loneliness does not mean for me that I am not having fun and enjoying my life. It's just that lack of love does leave a big gaping hole that I am ever-conscious of. At the same time, I'm conflicted. I like my freedom, and unattachedness. I can sleep all day if I want, do the dishes when I feel like it, spend my time however I want to, as well as my money. I didn't have to compromise on what kind of car I bought, or how much I spend on golf frisbees and skydiving gear and food and drink, or even the cat I picked out at the animal shelter. I can arrive home at whatever time I want (or whatever day). I can watch whatever I want on t.v. I get the whole bed to myself (except for wherever the cat is lying), and I can stretch out all over it. The bathroom is entirely mine, and I don't have to work around someone else's stuff, anywhere in my house. All these things are great aspects of freedom. But I don't pretend that I would not change some of them in order to have love. I'm open to it, receptive to it, even eager for it -- but it just hasn't found me. The big bummer of it is that all the time spent without it leaves the mind idle to wonder and conjecture about what it should feel like or will feel like, or even if it's a realistic possibility. When I see others walking around who are obviously couples in love, I stop and try to get into their heads and think about how it is for them, and see if my mind works in that configuration. I sure hope that it does when the right girl comes my way. I am very happy with the person I am, and I feel relatively complete (or at least complete while knowing I can always grow more and learn more). If that's happiness, then yes I'm happy, but love is the last item on the list remaining to be checked off. --Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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bobsled92 0 #43 February 23, 2004 Quotedzdiva u r always so sweet and optimist? thanks for hugs Diva/Laurie is such an optimist that I saw her cheer herself up on the way to alititude once (between 9,000 & 13,000) _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #44 February 23, 2004 Awww...thanks Grant!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #45 February 23, 2004 _______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #46 February 23, 2004 Me, happy? Holy crap are you kidding? I don't think I've ever been this happy in my life! I have a beautiful fiance that actually loves me as much as I love her, as crazy as it sounds that someone could love a goofy country boy like myself.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #47 February 23, 2004 QuoteBe honest and 'fess up. Anyone happy out there? Absolutely ecstatic in this department. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #48 February 23, 2004 Quote Have you had enough tequila? Let me check...nope only half an empty bottle...you know I don't get in tune until at least 3/4 of a bottle...let me see what I can do RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #49 February 23, 2004 QuoteBut it is not needed...just a bonus. Right on!May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #50 February 23, 2004 Alone and lookin' for the one I love. It gets tough sometimes... Edit follows (I guess I had more to say): I've been feeling conflicted. As I stood around and watched all my close friends from high school and college get married and have kids, I began to feel like I am the only one who didn't do that. I pretty much am the only one. I love being in love. I love having someone to give my affection to, and receive affection from. I love sex and lovemaking. I love to treasure the other person, body and soul. I just have not connected with a long-termer. Add to that the fact that I tend to be a little underconfident (picking up girls and dating tends to be the only thing I lack confidence in), and the fact that I don't get out much lately, and don't work in a job where I meet a whole lot of women, and there you have me, pretty lonely. But like many others here, loneliness does not mean for me that I am not having fun and enjoying my life. It's just that lack of love does leave a big gaping hole that I am ever-conscious of. At the same time, I'm conflicted. I like my freedom, and unattachedness. I can sleep all day if I want, do the dishes when I feel like it, spend my time however I want to, as well as my money. I didn't have to compromise on what kind of car I bought, or how much I spend on golf frisbees and skydiving gear and food and drink, or even the cat I picked out at the animal shelter. I can arrive home at whatever time I want (or whatever day). I can watch whatever I want on t.v. I get the whole bed to myself (except for wherever the cat is lying), and I can stretch out all over it. The bathroom is entirely mine, and I don't have to work around someone else's stuff, anywhere in my house. All these things are great aspects of freedom. But I don't pretend that I would not change some of them in order to have love. I'm open to it, receptive to it, even eager for it -- but it just hasn't found me. The big bummer of it is that all the time spent without it leaves the mind idle to wonder and conjecture about what it should feel like or will feel like, or even if it's a realistic possibility. When I see others walking around who are obviously couples in love, I stop and try to get into their heads and think about how it is for them, and see if my mind works in that configuration. I sure hope that it does when the right girl comes my way. I am very happy with the person I am, and I feel relatively complete (or at least complete while knowing I can always grow more and learn more). If that's happiness, then yes I'm happy, but love is the last item on the list remaining to be checked off. --Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
