mailin 0 #1 February 11, 2004 My boss told everyone in my group that she accepted a job in NY City (We're in Providence) and that she'll be leaving in one month. This is not a good thing for us. Great thing for her, but not for my group. The politics here are strange, and I'm worried that my job is not secure. She's been my shield to alot of 'static' here, and I'll feel really exposed with out her. I told her this. I really considered her my friend - I enjoyed working for her. I turned down a job offer because I knew she needed me here. I guess that we have a really good relationship becuase she's asked me to go to NY with her. Not right away of course, but eventually. I've never been in this situation before - its exciting and terrifying at the same time. I've never lived in a real urban setting before but the thought of it is pretty cool! I'm young enough (25) that this type of change is ok. I don't have kids and my husband and I are pretty 'unattached' at the moment. It sounds like it could be a good move for us. My husband is in programming, and I know he'll have no trouble finding work. I'm still going for my CS degree, but can always transfer to another school to finish. Anyone made a big move like this before? JenniferArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #2 February 11, 2004 QuoteAnyone made a big move like this before? Kinda... a couple of times... and still.. lol Its really about your confort level with change. Our biggest jump was when we left Toronto and moved outside of London UK. For me, it was a new job in a new industry I had absolutly no prior experience with, in a country I knew was very expensive to live in. BUT, if you have a job with this move, then its a great stepping stone for a new adventure. I dont think I would have had the gonads to move to England without a job. Make sure both you and your hubby are on the same page on this one. It probably will be quite a bit of stress added to your life, so make sure you are both up for it. Me, I say go for it! But I'm a city boy, so there! lolRemster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #3 February 11, 2004 Hey Jennifer As you know I just moved from NY to RI. I did not live in NYC but have been there many times. It is defiantly fun. There is always something to do. Main thing that I would warn you about is the expense. Not just living but every thing make sure you make more money a lot more cause you will need more money to have the same life style in NYC. I have also moved from Iran to the US and back 4 times in my life. It is defiantly going to take at least a year for every thing to seem normal and to find friends and local hang outs. It is funny how important these thing can be when you don’t have them. The good news is your only a 2-3 hour ride away from RI.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,998 #4 February 11, 2004 >This is not a good thing for us. Interesting. I get new 'bosses' all the time and generally I barely notice. >Anyone made a big move like this before? I moved from outside NYC (Oyster Bay) to San Diego for three reasons: -better job -skydiving -getting away from my "old" life Worked out pretty well for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #5 February 11, 2004 Jennifer, some times change is good. I think no matter what you decide to do, things will work out.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #6 February 11, 2004 Hey Darius! Thanks for the reply! There's lots to consider, cost being the most important obviously. I'm looking to make a career move soon, which would make coupling it with a move easier to take. Its exciting - but lots to consider. Still on for the 18th btw? JenniferArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #7 February 11, 2004 Back in July, I moved from Los Angeles (I lived in OC, but I worked in downtown LA), where I had a window office up high in a downtown high rise, to Fresno, raisin capital of the world. The move was big, but my main consideration was, "Why not?" If I had failed in my relationship with my lady (the reason I moved) I still had a job in Fresno. If I utterly failed, personally and professionally, I could still come back to LA no worse than when I left. I see no reason why not to try something new. If you come back in six months, you come back in six months with knowledge about something more valuable than anything - knowledge about yourself. Go for it! My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #8 February 11, 2004 I've lived in 12 different cities in my life. Go for it if the price is right and look at it as a big adventure. You can always move back home if you don't like the big city.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #9 February 11, 2004 QuoteInteresting. I get new 'bosses' all the time and generally I barely notice. well... its a bit different in this aspect. We're in architecture - healthcare architecture which is a VERY small subset. There are very few healthcare strategic planning AIAs (architects) in the US - and becuase of that, the chances are pretty slim that we'd be able to replace her. Alot of what this firm does (all internal work for a set of hospitals in RI) depends on her, and without her we'd have to go outside, and going outside makes us obsolete... Change is inevitable, and this isn't good. JenniferArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #10 February 11, 2004 Moved from Wisconsin to California end of August/beginning of Sep. 2003. Moved from California to Florida end of Sep./beginning of Oct. 2003. Yes, it's a bit nerve wracking starting all over, but it's part of the fun.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
juanesky 0 #11 February 11, 2004 Jennifer, as many people has said here, if you have a job offer, you should consider it with your husband. If you work inside the city, take into consideration you will be paying federal, state and City income tax. My 2 cts. And best wishes in what you decide to do...."According to some of the conservatives here, it sounds like it's fine to beat your wide - as long as she had it coming." -Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
