falxori 0 #1 February 6, 2004 lets say you love someone deeply, the kind of love you only see in the movies. but sadly, because of things beyond your control (work, studies, etc.) you live far apart and unless you drop everything , you wont be able to be together for about two more years. during this time you'll only be able to meet every few months, which is tough. and even then it will mean taking actions that you wouldnt take normally (quitting a good job, moving to another country and so on...) you both know it will too hard to be apart, but you also know the chances of feeling that way with someone else are slim. i know its pretty simplistic as it is presented, but sometimes its the only way to answer a complicated problem... O "Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #2 February 6, 2004 I'll tell you what-- I'd risk life and limb for love. If I had a choice between living in a mansion for the rest of my life and having a string of meaningless relationships, or living with my true love in a box on the side of the road, I'd pick the latter. So, drop everything and move across the country? In a heartbeat. Kelly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyinghonu 0 #3 February 6, 2004 The long distance thing didn't work for me...but then again, I was in college surrounded by thousands of willing hotties. The distance was just too much (me in AZ; him in MD). However, long distance relationships where it is only a matter of driving a couple hours to see the person... I could definitely do that - IF I really loved that person (and vice-versa). Good luck..sounds like you're having some "deep thoughts." "Excuse me while I kiss the sky..." - Jimi Hendrix Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
falxori 0 #4 February 6, 2004 QuoteGood luck..sounds like you're having some "deep thoughts." yes, but sadly it is not I who lost faith. and it seems luck doesn't live here anymore. i'll survive, i always do "Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bkdice 0 #5 February 6, 2004 the romantic in me says 'drop everything' and make the life change for love. my practical side says that if this is true love, then it will withstand the time apart if it was meant to be. tough choice and i'm glad i don't have to make it. (though more than likely, i would take the risk for love. ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #6 February 6, 2004 Quoteit seems luck doesn't live here anymore. Same here. I hope it works out for you, at least. Kelly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyinghonu 0 #7 February 6, 2004 QuoteQuoteGood luck..sounds like you're having some "deep thoughts." yes, but sadly it is not I who lost faith. and it seems luck doesn't live here anymore. i'll survive, i always do Unfortunately, I too was on the receiving end of that feeling. It TOTALLY sucks . Hang in there "Excuse me while I kiss the sky..." - Jimi Hendrix Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #8 February 6, 2004 I would live in a shack With true love..... Love does not come around all that easily. I think you should choose "Love & Life", not one or the other... The Love makes the Life. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pleifer 0 #9 February 6, 2004 I was faced with a simmilar pridicament, within the last year..... she asked me to drop everything to be with her.... and then dumped me after I did..... I could of had a good job and go to school instead I chose to be with her... be broke.... and go to school. In all it is working out for the best... but My two cents is even though I speak with a broken heart.... You will never regret following your heart..... Nobody on their death bed wishes they worked more. People are unique jobs and schools arn't. If it works out awesome.... If not oh well... you tried enough mindless babbling??? now what was my point??? where am I??? _________________________________________ The Angel of Duh has spoke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casie 0 #10 February 6, 2004 Quotethe romantic in me says 'drop everything' and make the life change for love. my practical side says that if this is true love, then it will withstand the time apart if it was meant to be. tough choice and i'm glad i don't have to make it. (though more than likely, i would take the risk for love. ) couldn't have said it better My thoughts exactly.~Porn Kitty WARNING: Goldschlager causes extreme emotional outbursts! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malfunction 0 #11 February 6, 2004 Funny,I am currently in the same situation. I see my girlfriend maybe once a month if I am lucky. I do get to call her about once a week and emails are a quick way to just drop a note. My circumstances were work and money related. I love her with all my heart, and I would never do anything to lose her. I treat each day like I go home to her. With love, it can work, but it has to be done by both people. I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend to the death your right to say it. - Voltaire Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peachsouthern 0 #12 February 6, 2004 I'm with bkdice. Its like you have the two little people on each shoulder arguing . One is the romantic that says there are few times in life you can find a love that strong and special. Drop everything and run. While the other says you have the rest of your life to be with this person and if its that special, then they will understand you goals in life and support you. Just as you should support them in their dreams. Hey if you can make it through this, you guys will be able to make it through anything!! Good luck! "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." - Albert Einstein Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boxingrrl 0 #13 February 6, 2004 I hate to read too much into this, but you said that you were not the one who has lost faith... Are you sure that the SO isn't just playing the distance card in order to break it to you gently? I hate to be so un-romantic... what kind of reaction would you're picking and moving receive? If it's less than ecstatic, I'd be wary. But, what do I know???? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
falxori 0 #14 February 6, 2004 i would be ok with waiting and flying over as often as we can. but its not a matter of whether to drop everything or wait, its more whether to wait or to give up. she feels living apart for so long will destroy her because it will be to hard. i can understand it. although i dont accept it, but i can understand it. O "Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
falxori 0 #15 February 6, 2004 Quoteyou sure that the SO isn't just playing the distance card in order to break it to you gently? i can't give you the whole story, but no, its not the case. this is a pure matter of risking what you have in life and maybe get what you want in life. i'm not really asking for advice , my story has pretty much ended already, but maybe some of you will learn from it and wont miss once in a life time chances O "Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #16 February 6, 2004 "All together now... All you need is love All you need is love All you need is love, love Love is all you need." Guess you know my answer. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #17 February 7, 2004 Wow, I keep answering right in line with the majority on these things! Um, I said "long distance relationships work, with love" because I believe it. If the two of you feel the way you say you do, it sounds like it's solid except for the distance thing and the difficult circumstances. I think that if you do the "drop everything" thing and get together, eventually the difficulties that will immediately follow will eventually be overcome and forgotten. (i.e. a new job can always be obtained after a bit of possible hardship) If you two are as strongly in love as is implied, there is no reason to let JOBS or whatever stand in the way. Jobs are just what we do so that we can sustain our lives. They are not supposed to trump what we WANT in our lives. (EDIT): WHOOPS! I guess that instead of answering "LDR work" I should have done the "DROP EVERYTHING" answer. That's more what I meant. ---Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sdgregory 0 #18 February 7, 2004 Call me a SAP . . . waiting waiting waiting . . . Anyway. I believe that love is something you sacrifice for. You give up something of yourself when you truly love someone else. You will do things that defy common logic. You will put their needs above your own. If you truly love this person then selfish desires go away and you do whatever you can to make this person happy. I say, drop whatever, relocate and trust that you will be able to continue your life when you get where you are going. Love covers a multitude of errors. Nothing that is done and goes awry cannot be undone when it is done love. Love turns stumbling blocks into stepping stones. All this to say, um do you love this person? Do you gotta hold this person? Do you want to do whatever it takes to fullfill this person's life? Then you gotta get moving! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kmcguffee 0 #19 February 7, 2004 My wife and I dated for 2 1/2 years while I went to college in New York and she went to college in Atlanta. For the first year we dated other people also but we eventually started dating only each other. We both went out with our friends a lot and neither of us were very jealous so it worked out well. We've been married for 11 years now. Long distance relationships can work. "Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do." Ben Franklin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dove 0 #20 February 7, 2004 Hmmmmm.... my head says I'd choose life because I don't necessarily believe there is only one "soul mate" out there. And I'd hate to be in a relationship where one or both of us subconsciously resented the other for making us give up something important. But having been in a similar situation, my heart opts for love. And my heart is infinitely stronger than my head. There's just something about being in love.... makes it all seem worth it. Stupid, stupid love. Fall in dove. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #21 February 7, 2004 QuoteHmmmmm.... my head says I'd choose life because I don't necessarily believe there is only one "soul mate" out there. And I'd hate to be in a relationship where one or both of us subconsciously resented the other for making us give up something important. But having been in a similar situation, my heart opts for love. And my heart is infinitely stronger than my head. There's just something about being in love.... makes it all seem worth it. Stupid, stupid love. Well said."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydivingNurse 0 #22 February 7, 2004 I live in Pittsburgh. The woman I love more than life itself lives in NJ. I wish I could just pick up and leave, but I've got a few things I absolutely have to deal with here. Once things are stable, though, NJ here I come. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #23 February 7, 2004 Quote"All together now... All you need is love All you need is love All you need is love, love Love is all you need." Guess you know my answer. Uhh, just call me love... FFF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #24 February 7, 2004 QuoteQuote"All together now... All you need is love All you need is love All you need is love, love Love is all you need." Guess you know my answer. Uhh, just call me love... FFF LMAO!! You naughty man!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #25 February 7, 2004 I think you can have both. Long distance works if both people are willing to make it work. Life may keep you apart - for the moment - but life has a way of changing when you least expect it. Enjoy the time you do have together, stay in close contact when you aren't together, make plans so that in the future you can be together all the time. Two years is nothin'. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
