happythoughts 0 #51 January 9, 2004 QuoteI tend to avoid dating psychotic ones. It's not a matter of crazy. It's a matter of degree. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #52 January 9, 2004 Wow mine doesn't seem that bad after reading some here. My Ex of 3 years she had me help her pay the bills paint her new apartment, help her move inn and a day later she said it was over. She had found someone new. It would have been cool if he had done all the work I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
themitchyone 0 #53 January 9, 2004 QuoteMy ex, or she is now anyway, invited me to dinner to meet guy she'd been screwing. I, too, need to add in my two cents here. IMO, this was very cowardly on her part and cruel."If the Bible has taught us nothing else, and it hasn't, it's that girls should stick to girl's sports such as hot oil wrestling and foxy boxing." - Homer Simpson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
my_dog_steve 0 #54 January 9, 2004 Quote I, too, need to add in my two cents here. IMO, this was very cowardly on her part and cruel. I think she was such a fruitcake that she really thought we'd all just have a nice dinner, swill a few beverages, and part ways amicably. My opinion...she wasn't being cruel...she was just fucking crazy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydivinMedic 0 #55 January 9, 2004 I wish that the guys that have cheated on me were at least honest about it!! Would have saved a lot of hard feelings towards them!! Or at least I would've expected it, not that it would've been any easier Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #56 January 9, 2004 You always hear about "nice people" getting taken advantage of. Here is why. Nice people are out there doing things for people and helping them out. Everybody meets crazy people. Most will identify them and then immmediately decide that they don't want them around at the relationship depth. Crazy people are fun to party with because they are so irresponsible. If they are in your life, they throw so much chaos into it that you eventually get rid of them. Realizing that things are impermanent makes them live more "in the moment" and they become more irresponsible. Nice people suffer because they believe that everyone else is essentially like them. That is untrue. Helping solve the problems of others enables them to continue being dysfunctional while tailspinning the lives around them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #57 January 9, 2004 I've brought back-up to a break-up before, but the third party was NEVER someone I was seeing (I've never, ever cheated on anyone!) and knew full well what they were getting into. They offered to come with me out of concern for my safety, and with good reason. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrad 0 #58 January 9, 2004 My Ex wife and I had been trying to work things out for a year. I suggested mariage counciling and she wasn't all that keen but went along for a first appointment. After that they lost our details and didn't get in touch for a while. Eventualy SHE gets in touch with them and arranges for a session. I pitch up and the guy says 'So you know what we offer, but how can we help you?' I look at her and ask if she would like to talk first. She says.........'I want you to mediate the end of our relationship so that it doesn't go as badly as last time!' She'd led me to belive that she wanted to work on things, I had no idea thats why we were there! She had some very real issues. When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bkdice 0 #59 January 9, 2004 QuoteYou always hear about "nice people" getting taken advantage of. There are truly nice people who get screwed over - and there are people that THINK they are nice people and THINK that they are being screwed over. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #60 January 9, 2004 QuoteThere are truly nice people who get screwed over - and there are people that THINK they are nice people and THINK that they are being screwed over. Very true. I see a lot of the latter... Oh wait, I'm probably one of them! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #61 January 9, 2004 QuoteThere are truly nice people who get screwed over - and there are people that THINK they are nice people and THINK that they are being screwed over. That'll never be an issue for me, I refuse to think. Sure, even evil people think they are nice, but just dealing with their circumstances. Hitler probably thought he was a nice person because his dogs liked him. He had German Shepherds (naturally) and they make a person feel great. You walk in and there they are, tails wagging and licking ya. Doesn't a good licking make you feel better? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #62 January 9, 2004 well this seems like a good spot to vent, since i just got a two lovely dull knives in my back.. one from the most amazing redhead i met to date who i'd wanted to be my wife and the other from a guy who was once my best friend..how soap opera is that?? damn why i life like this sometimes.. ah well i suppose i needed an excuse to cut away and this is just a push..... coming soon to a dropzone near you....one tigerstriped wanderer with a hole where his heart used to be.... fuck____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MattM 0 #63 January 9, 2004 QuoteYou always hear about "nice people" getting taken advantage of. Here is why. Nice people are out there doing things for people and helping them out. Everybody meets crazy people. Most will identify them and then immmediately decide that they don't want them around at the relationship depth. Crazy people are fun to party with because they are so irresponsible. If they are in your life, they throw so much chaos into it that you eventually get rid of them. Realizing that things are impermanent makes them live more "in the moment" and they become more irresponsible. Nice people suffer because they believe that everyone else is essentially like them. That is untrue. Helping solve the problems of others enables them to continue being dysfunctional while tailspinning the lives around them. I agree. Matt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JadedLady 0 #64 January 9, 2004 Most of these stories seem to be making women out to be the bad ones! ;) No, I've got one for you guys... You see, I seem to have a knack for getting cheated on. I think this is where my fear of commitment stems from. A large group of my friends were having a gathering but I was not going to be able to attend due to a family function. I was really bummed about it because I was missing a great party with my friends but also because it would have given me a rare opportunity to see my boyfriend, who lived a good distance from me. Well, the family function ended very late and I had a little to drink, but for some reason I really wanted to see my boyfriend. I sped like crazy in rainy weather for about an hour to get to the party only to discover my boyfriend was not there. I discovered in the morning that he had gone home with a girl that he swore to me just the night before that he was just friends with and would never ever even consider cheating on me. I wanted to surprise him... well, surprise!~~~~ Rachel ~~~~~~~~~~~ -Converting the world one whuffo at a time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diverdriver 5 #65 January 9, 2004 There are just more guys on this site so you are going to hear more stories about guys breaking up with girls. Nuthin personal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #66 January 9, 2004 QuoteThere are just more guys on this site so you are going to hear more stories about guys breaking up with girls. Nuthin personal. So lets hear your story..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yoshi 0 #67 January 9, 2004 ill bite... I was dating this girl in college and I had to leave town suddenly to go to my grandmothers funeral...I missed a "date" that we had planned so after being together for over a year she never called me back when I got back home... ahh well her loss:) lets see...I know I have been a dick before.... after dating this girl for about 4 months (which was a very cool relationship since we were both in art school...) I came to a realization that I needed to nit pick. I invited her over to my apartment to have a talk... me: "soooo...whats up?" her: "whats going on...why did you want to talk to me all formally?" me: "well...I dont like your eyebrows...they're too big, so I dont think we should see eachother anymore." thats the gist of it... yeah I have been an ass!_________________________________________ this space for rent. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #68 January 10, 2004 A couple of years ago, I was dating a guy, and about 4 months in to it, I go home to Texas to visit my family for a week or so. He calls me every day saying he misses me, cant wait to see me.. blah blah. Steve McNair (QB for the Titans) was on my flight home, and he starts chatting with me in baggage claim. My guy was a HEWGE fan of his, so I asked if he had a photo to autograph for him. He was traveling with his publicist, so that was no problem. He signed the 8x10 "To (dude), youre a lucky guy to have such a great girl". awww So when I get home, the guy who missed me so much and couldnt wait to see me wouldnt return my calls. Finally I got in touch with him and he told me he had met someone else while I was gone. So I was mad, and I shredded the photo, then gave it to him in shreds when I got my stuff from his house. At the time I thought the shreds were symbolic. Now I just think its funny! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vocii 0 #69 January 10, 2004 I was deeply in love with someone who grew distant overnight. I got into a deep depression during which he ignored me for months. Then my grandpa, who is my example in life in many ways, passed away. I was not able to contact him for weeks regarding the recent loss, and when I was finally able to do so, he dumped me. Talk about getting dumped the worst day of your life. You'd think that I'd get to my senses and leave this bastard behind. But I didn't and stayed around. He was generally cruel and he little to rectify injustices, despite having made promises to do so. Today he still whines about how he's the victim in relationships and with women, when what he's done to me is unconscionable and unforgivable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RippedCord 0 #70 January 12, 2004 QuoteI tend to avoid dating psychotic ones. ...which is to say, you've stopped dating altogether? AMDG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #71 January 12, 2004 I try to keep dating in the frame of mind that it will work out one of two ways, one it will last forever and may not be perfect but hopefully fun and exciting. Or two, it will end and life will move on slowly at first but time will heal. Unfortunately the second happens way more than the first. It's difficult believing that eventually you will meet the right person but never settle. This doesn't mean you will meet someone who is absolutely perfect but you should at the very least be happy. Being single for two years I have become slightly bitter towards dating however I am confident to know everything will work out for the best. HeatherLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #72 January 12, 2004 QuoteIt's difficult believing that eventually you will meet the right person but never settle. Oh....I met an absolutely wonderful girl. Then I looked at reality and thought....Why in the world would she ever date me? I guess I get to settle for having her as a friend. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Push 0 #73 January 12, 2004 Pull up another chair to the bar, brother -- Toggle Whippin' Yahoo Skydiving is easy. All you have to do is relax while plummetting at 120 mph from 10,000' with nothing but some nylon and webbing to save you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #74 January 12, 2004 Did you attempt to date her?Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #75 January 12, 2004 Quote Did you attempt to date her? No.....I haven't really spent much time around her yet. Still getting to know her I guess you could say. Don't really get to see her that often. But like I said.....I look at reality and I can't see why she would ever want to go out with me. I'll just go on enjoying her friendship. She's a REALLY COOL person to be around and I have enjoyed every minute. So....it's not all bad. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
