wendybird 0 #26 February 3, 2004 You have all the best vibes I can muster from here, my friend. We're supposed to bury our parents, not our children. I've always said that I just don't know if I could go on if I lost my girls. I don't even want to *begin* to imagine what you've been through this past week. I'm so relieved that you have this chance to keep loving your child, not your child's memory. And thanks for sharing that with the group. I, at least, needed a little perspective today.Wendy "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #27 February 3, 2004 I wish I knew what to say. I have no children of my own, and cannot possibly fathom the thoughts and feelings you have right now. I have no real advice except to just be the strong, loving father you obviously are, and we are all here for you and your family. For what it's worth, I'm proud of you for your strength. You are clearly being the man, being the father you need to be, showing the world the love you have for your family. These times are hard, I'm sure, but never give up hope. You are strong, and we will do all we can to make you and your family even stronger. Endless vibes and prayers to you and your family. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #28 February 3, 2004 Thank you. Truly though, it was a blessing that God stepped in and brought him back. I'm so glad that I had taken CPR, but it was so many years before that I was way off on compressions to breaths, but alas, it worked. It worked and his heart started. For this I will be forever thankful. Take the class, you never know when you'll need it. Even though I was off on the ratios, if I had never done it, I would of been standing over him crying with no answers.... So at the very least, I was able to compress his chest, and breathe for him. Thanks for your heartfelt wishes. Peace to you, JacIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuvToFly 0 #29 February 3, 2004 QuoteTom, thank you so much. I didn't think I'd get him back. I know what his mother went through when she found him. It is the most frightening thing in the world. I only wish she would've gotten him back as well. I have to believe that she and her husband are completely and totally heartbroken. The pain of this is beyond anything I could've ever imagined and for me this is even after I found out Eric's heart was beating. My heart goes out to them. Jack Jack, Just to give you some level of Phillip's family's pain, the day this happened to them, the very hour, they left their very beautiful newer home, and never went back in. Never. They just all left, the father, the mother and his little sister. That day. They put the house up for sale immediately, and had other people move their stuff out - vowing never again to step foot in what must have been a nightmare for them. I don't think those who have never raised a child will ever understand the loss of this. Those of us who are parents have had this nightmare all our lives as we have taught our kids not to run out in front of cars, and not to play with sharp objects, and so on. I fully understand how such an event would constitute a tremendous nightmare for you and your family. But know that there are those out here that are praying for you, for your son, and for your entire family that this will be a time of healing, for everyone involved - Tom "The helicopter approaches closer than any other to fulfillment of mankind's ancient dreams of a magic carpet" - Igor Sikorsky Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #30 February 3, 2004 ((((((((AMAZON VIBES)))))))))) No parent should ever outlive their child... the thought scares me and forms some of the rationality I use in my life and in my discussion with others. Here is to your child recovering and being whole once again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Perky77 0 #31 February 3, 2004 Thoughts, prayers, and vibes to ya. you all will have a long road ahead, just take it one day at a time. "Sacrifice is a part of life. It is supposed to be. It's not something you regret . It's something to aspire to." Mitch Albom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #32 February 3, 2004 I have so much respect for your post. From all of my accounts, it was more coherient than anything I could have put together at that point. Remember to be strong and being strong includes knowing when to ask for help or to have a good cry.Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #33 February 3, 2004 Thank you Paige. The crying is now down to once an hour. I think of how dark is heart was to have done this. I know how much he loved me, because he told me every day too. He knows how much I loved him. In the end though, it wasn't enough to sustain him. We will survive, he will get stronger. Whether he lives all his days with simply the ability to smile (that which he has now) or he recovers fully, I'll remain his number one fan and beside him till the end, which I hope will be beyond my days. My children (blood and step) are the greatest things I've ever experienced in life. The love they give is beyond what I could ever ask for. I'm thankful he chose to come back for a bit, and I will double my efforts to enjoy his existence. Thank You JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #34 February 3, 2004 You are truly amazing and inspiring. I will remember your grace in handling a crisis and strive to sustain coolness. It's so amazing to hear you talk about your kids and your love for them. Just from how you speak of them, I'm sure they all know that you love them (and that is the best thing ever).Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mjosparky 4 #35 February 3, 2004 Quotealso remember that for every person who posts something here, there are many more who read your post and are thinking of you and your family, but just aren't quite sure what to say. What she said Jack. SparkyMy idea of a fair fight is clubbing baby seals Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #36 February 3, 2004 Vibes and HugsLife is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jayruss 0 #37 February 3, 2004 QuoteI've been a wreck for a week. I've felt every emotion from thankfulness to anger. Understand, this wasn't a wake up call to me. My entire life since my son and daughter has been born has revolved around them. I love them, hug them, kiss them, praise them and take part in every aspect of their lives with all of my being. My son was very very happy the two weeks prior to my trip to CA. He has been under the care of a psychiatrist for over a year and in counseling for some time as well. However, all signs pointed to a strong child, involved in his church, three years a football player, drummer, chess player, Scout, etc..etc... Jack Don’t beat yourself up you’ve got enough emotional crap to go through right now. This event doesn’t in any reflect on your parenting skills. You could have done everything right as a parent and still not be able to battle the demons in your sons head. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, vibes!!!!! Jason __________________________________________________ "Beware how you take away hope from another human being." -Oliver Wendell Holmes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 9 #38 February 3, 2004 I am truly glad that you were able to save your son's life, and stop him from making the biggest mistake possible. My deepest condolences go out to you in this time - I hope that things will look up to you soon enough. <<>>>=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #39 February 3, 2004 Huge vibes, thoughts & prayers go out to you, your son & rest of the family. I can not imagine what it would be like to find your own child dead - but you also brough him back. You are so strong and loving (from what I see here)... gosh, I don't know what to say. This will be tough, but as you said, his coming back to life smile was the most beautiful thing you'd ever seen. Hopefully, you will continue to see that smile, you reached the deepest point of dispair & will now work together to the rest of your life. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cruzit 0 #40 February 3, 2004 {{{{{{{{{VIBES}}}}}}}}}}} Your way. Jack, As I was reminded several weeks ago...take one day at a time. As much as we parents wish we could... we can't fix everything. What we can do is offer love and support. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #41 February 3, 2004 Wow, what a story. Incrdible. My child isn't born yet, but I already feel this incredible love for this being. I can only imagine what heights that love will grow to when the baby is born nd time goes on. Hence, I cannot even come close to understanding what you are going through and feeling. I wish there were words I could write that would make things easier for you. Just know that people all over the world are thinking about you and your family. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #42 February 3, 2004 Jack- you're going to hear this over and over and over, and you're not going to believe it, but keep saying it to yourself until you do believe it, because its the truth: ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. There is nothing you could have done to prevent what happened, so please, try not to look back into the past searching for things you should've noticed, because there is nothing there. All you can do now is thank the powers that be that you were able to help him in time, and concentrate on getting help, not only for him, but for yourself, your daughter, and the rest of your family too. I know you said you were planning on seeing a counselor, and that is one of the best things you can do, for your whole family! Try not to look at what's behind you now, but at what's before you, your future with your son! {{{{{{VIBES FOR A SPEEDY RECOVERY FOR EVERYONE}}}}}} Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eiley 0 #43 February 4, 2004 Quotealso remember that for every person who posts something here, there are many more who read your post and are thinking of you and your family, but just aren't quite sure what to say. That's me. I'm so sorry. All my best. nothing to see here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #44 February 4, 2004 Thanks to everyone of you for the outpouring of love and caring. Eric's MRI came back today and it isn't showing any damage, though, in retrospect, we know there is some due to the issues he is faced with right now. However, it appears right now, and we have nothing to tell us different, that he is capable of a strong, if not full recovery! I'm trying real hard to contain myself, because I know we have a long road ahead, and it will take time to truly see how far back Eric can journey. Please keep him and my family in your thoughts and prayers. Truly, without a doubt, Love does heal all things. With professional help and all the love I can muster, and his family, church, friends, etc.... My hope is his heart will heal as well. He's an incredible boy, I've told him so before, and now, will continue. You all are amazing, warm, loving human beings. I am certainly happy to be amongst each of you. Peace JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #45 February 4, 2004 Hi Jack, That is great news about your sons MRI. I'm happy to hear that You sound like a strong person - and your son will need that in the next few months. When I was 11 years old my mohter (who is bipolar and schitzophrenic (sp?)) slit her wrists in the kitchen when I was home alone with her. This is something I can never forget... there are days (like now for instance) when I go back to that day and see it all over again. But... I compare it to her now, and see a changed woman - a strong woman who's family is the center of her world. Sure, she has her down days, but now we know how to react to them and she will be fine. It takes time (took Mom 7 years), but in the end you and your family will be stronger for it. God bless you and yours, JenniferArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lee03 0 #46 February 4, 2004 I'm sorry remembering in thoughts and prayers. -------- To put your life in danger from time to time ... breeds a saneness in dealing with day-to-day trivialities. --Nevil Shute, Slide Rule Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boxingrrl 0 #47 February 4, 2004 QuoteI wish there were magic words that would heal a heart. I wish it was that easy. I have no idea what to say bro. You're in my thoughts and prayers. VIBES. I hope he makes a full recovery and you can see him smile all the time. Like he, and so many others have said. Do try to take care of yourself through this difficult time. Blessings-- Peace Darius Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flygirl03 0 #48 February 4, 2004 QuoteEric's MRI came back today and it isn't showing any damage, Jack that is wonderful news..... Proof, that prayers are answered † ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ earthbound misfit Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #49 February 4, 2004 Vibes comin' your way, man. I hope for your son's recovery and the recovery of your family as well. ---Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jack that is wonderful news..... Proof, that prayers are answered †
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
earthbound misfit
Share this post
Link to post
Share on other sites