Getting married - Best man is a girl - she is broke - need advice

[Phlip 0]

Yep, I'm getting married soon:
One wedding in Florida (the real wedding) and one wedding in France for the family there.
My bestman (who is a woman !) will go the Florida, but not France except if I pay for her plane ticket!

Should I? should I not?

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Flip

[PhillyKev 0]

Will the "best man" being joining you and your wife on the honeymoon? If so, hell yeah pay her way.

[Sebazz1 2]

Since I know who it is I am goign to say yes. You must buy her a ticket. Or you , your family and your fiancee's family should all chip in together.

[Pammi 0]

Depends how badly you want her there. I say yes, you buy her ticket. It's a lot to ask for the 'honor' of being in your wedding to spend that kind of money, particularly if you don't have it.

Pammi

[Darius11 12]

I have no idea it all depends.

If you think that she would come and buy the plane ticket if she had the money get her the ticket if you think she is being cheep fuck it.

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[Sebazz1 2]

I'd call her the bestwoman by the way...

[Phlip 0]

well she is not coming because she wants to be out of debt in June... if she comes she will be out of debts in July...

mmm

[Jarcie 0]

Hmmm. I don't know what the etiquette is in France, but in the U.S., the wedding couple has no obligation to pay transportation for anyone else.

So the only question is: Do you want your best person at the wedding in France enough to pay her way? Is it worth it to you and Erika?

One of my favorite books on wedding etiquette is Miss Manners on Weddings.

BTW, hi, Flip!
Jennifer

[Phlip 0]

Hi Jennifer!

Long time no see... Are you going to be around this WE?

I can't believe I haven't jumped in a month!

[Jarcie 0]

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Long time no see... Are you going to be around this WE?

I can't believe I haven't jumped in a month!

That's the plan... although I think it's supposed to rain tomorrow morning. But the rest of the weekend looks great! I've pretty much committed to trying to develop at least some level of skill before I take a break...

Will you be there? It will be good to see you!

Oh, and for anyone who doesn't know, Phlip is a great JM!

[TheBachelor 5]

I had a similar situation -- contemplating an overseas marriage, and some close friends / family couldn't afford to go. Since I could afford to subsidize the travel expenses of everyone (without going into debt), I decided I'd provide whatever assistance was necessary to the people that I really wanted there.

Ultimately, we decided to get married in the States. Still, I'll probably have to buy a few plane tickets.

There are battered women? I've been eating 'em plain all of these years...

[Jarcie 0]

Hmmm... Mr. Bachelor, are you going to change your screen name after you get married?

[Phlip 0]

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Oh, and for anyone who doesn't know, Phlip is a great JM!

Thanks... now I'm blushing...

[SkydiveNFlorida 0]

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Depends how badly you want her there. I say yes, you buy her ticket, unless she has loads of money. It's a lot to ask for the 'honor' of being in your wedding to spend that kind of money, particularly if you don't have it.

Pammi

agreed.

[r2hubert 0]

Remember Phlip this is your wedding with Erika. Do what ever YOU want. If you want her to be here and she can't afford it, but you can ... do it. This is for you!

--
Renaud SMA #9
"Mind is like parachute. It only functions when it's open."

[Darius11 12]

I don't know then.

I would say fuck it unless it really mens a lot to you.

If she can't delay paying of her debt for one month i would not spend the money. Thats just me and my $0.02

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[nightjumps 1]

1. Did you tell her about Florida AND France when you asked her to be your Best Woman?

2. Did you make it clear that you wanted her at both functions at that time and that you were looking for a "Best" to attend both?

3. Did you make it clear when asking, that the "Best" would have to pay for both Florida & France upon acceptance?

4. Did you indicate the wedding would be in Florida and then France came up later?

If 1,2,3 are, "Yes," - she pays.

If 1,2,3, are, "No" - you pay.

If 4; you owe her the "Best" slot at your Florida wedding and have the option of paying for her to go to France or getting another "Best" for France.

[PhillyKev 0]

good call.....

me likey vely much - Krusty the Clown.

[TheAnvil 0]

I'm with Renaud on this one dude.

Vinny the Anvil
Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL
JACKASS POWER!!!!!!

[themitchyone 0]

I don't see how the information about the "best man" being female is necessarily relevant... well, hmmm, but anyway, IMO all people standing up for the bride and groom should be provided the transportation for the far away wedding.

"If the Bible has taught us nothing else, and it hasn't, it's that girls should stick to girl's sports such as hot oil wrestling and foxy boxing." - Homer Simpson

[skydivexxl 0]

Weddings are expensive for a reason!

Who's this "Phlip" guy, anyway?

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[Amanda965 0]

Phlp,
I think it is really up to you and the extent of your friendship with the best woman. is she too broke to go, or is there some underlying reason for her making you pay??

I really wanted to say that I checked out your website and what a beautiful couple! Congrats on the engagement and I hope that the wedding(s) go well. THe church in France is simply amazing!!

Blue skies and SAFE landings!
~Amanda~