EricaH 0 #1 December 12, 2003 Ok, I started jumping in '02, at the end of season I started seeing a dz employee. Well @ the end of season he went back to his home country & I went to visit for a few weeks. we really we're all that serious, pretty much a weekend relationship - in reality other than jumping we didn't have much in common. he decided, or rather couldn't come back last season '03 & i figured he didn't really expect me to wait around for him. So, i met a wonderful, wonderful fun jumper last spring. We started dating & since have gotten rather serious. I really really am crazy about this man. Current s/o was around in '02, but not hanging out so much. So I THINK he's aware of my past relationship, but am not certain.... next season '04, ex is coming back to work @ the dz. what should I do? Everyone involed I believe are rational thinking pretty much adults. I know if he had dated someone (that I didn't know about) & she showed up @ the dz - if he didn't tell me & I found out bout her, I'd wonder why he had hidden it from me & be suspious - till he explained himself. However, if I knew an ex of his was going to be coming to the dz... the concern would kill me. I'd rather be totally oblivious, which in reality is not really that probable. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #2 December 12, 2003 be honest. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #3 December 12, 2003 honesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites noname 0 #4 December 12, 2003 How long until your ex shows back up? I wouldn't tell him right this second, but I would tell him and let him know you don't think its any big deal. Just wait until its a little closer to the time that your ex will actually be there. Things may be a little awkward for a bit but is should all work out just fine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #5 December 12, 2003 Ex shows up in March & is aware of new s/o... has been for a while. I know honest is the the best/only way... but all of my choices are honest. I've never hidden it. He knows I went to my ex's country to visit. I just never said "when I was dating...." I want to tell him, but don't know how/when. I also HATE relationshipy conversations. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Swoopyswoop 0 #6 December 12, 2003 Honesty is for sure the best policy!!!!! I am sure if they are reasonable thinking adults that your ex will understand. Just be up front with him and it will be all good . Wait a minute, what the hell am I doing posting love advice? Jesus I must be losing my mind!! Can you say BOREDOM? LOL "when I die, I want to go like my grandfather while im sleeping, not like the passengers riding in the car with me Swoopster A.S.S. #6 Future T.S.S holder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bendywendy 0 #7 December 12, 2003 I don't see what the problem is unless you were misleading in any way to the either one about your relationships. Basically, unless you've been keeping said ex kind of hanging on via email & phone and he doesn't know about current s.o. and vice versa - or if you deliberately misled current s.o. to cover up prior relationship - what is the problem? Very few people actually marry their first love and stay with them forever. We've all got ex's. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites PhreeZone 20 #8 December 12, 2003 All we need to do is send your current SO a link to this thread and all issues are resolved Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kansasskydiver 0 #9 December 12, 2003 tell him now so he doesn't think something is going to happen when he shows up. it's best that he knows before he comes trust me, i hate it when that happens to me<--- See look, pink dolphins DO exist! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Kat69 0 #10 December 12, 2003 Tell your now BF about the only fling. Tell him that he will be back at your DZ next year. When you two goto the DZ. Intreduce them. BUT!!! do not spend alone time with the other it might make the new BF worried and become distant. All you want to do is show one that the old fling is over and the other that you have moved on.*********************************************** Wine Me, Dine Me, 69 Me Then spank me like a bad puppy dog. Ms_Kitty Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #11 December 12, 2003 Ex knows bout current, current might know bout ex... there was no subterfuge, definately!! I HATE that & am a firm believer in peopless fast ability to lose trust. Current & Ex do know eachother, not best buds, but the have jumped numerous times together in the past. so, y'all think it's better to tell/make things clear now, 3 months in advance? There will be times I'll be alone w/ ex, just cause of friendship. I think current will be ok - he knows I'm absolutely crazy about him... told him in those exact words. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #12 December 12, 2003 Wondering when this would come up. I think S/O2 will be okay with S/O1 being here. In fact I think he already knows. Tell him anyway, it will make things easier on both of you down the road. Since I know all involved I my opinion is to tell S/O2 now so at least he knows you're thinking about him.Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bkdice 0 #13 December 12, 2003 QuoteI want to tell him, but don't know how/when. I also HATE relationshipy conversations. Def be honest. Its in your past and it's no big deal - unless you make it one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AndyMan 7 #14 December 12, 2003 I'd be surprised if current didn't know about ex. We ALL knew about ex.... Just tell him! It's not the big thing you're imagining it is. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #15 December 12, 2003 It IS no big deal... thanks for shoving that into my head!! I think he knows, but am not 100% certain... & that uncertainty drives me crazy. I'm glad you're all being forthright. And thanks Heather & AM for speaking up - since you know everyone. Yes, you all knew about ex (SO1 - I like that Heather), but SO2 didn't hang out as much last year... esp @ the pub where it was most obvious. Speaking of current... I cropped your pic, AM... thank you. Heather, LOVE your sig line. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites smooth 0 #16 December 12, 2003 Quote . . I think he knows, but am not 100% certain... There's one way to make sure he's 100% certain. Tell him!! Get it out of the way before Safety Day and you'll feel much better about it. All concerned should have no problems with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #17 December 12, 2003 Point taken... now just have to find the right time - GREAT!! BTW, Eric, thanks for the compliment on my avitar There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites WrongWay 0 #18 December 12, 2003 Quotehonesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Couldn't have said it better!! Just be honest and tell him that you're happy, and if he ever cared about you (and if he is indeed a mature adult), he will understand. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #19 December 12, 2003 QuoteQuoteQuotehonesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Couldn't have said it better!! Just be honest and tell him that you're happy, and if he ever cared about you (and if he is indeed a mature adult), he will understand. You are so right... thank you. Life IS much easier w/ all out in the open. It's just sometimes tough getting it out there. Thank you for the compliment Weegegirl!! I think so too . There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #20 December 12, 2003 Can you some day help me with the picture? I'm so lost.Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #21 December 12, 2003 Never mind girlie, I figured it out. Yeah me!Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AndyMan 7 #22 December 12, 2003 Just for fun... Here's a few more. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Chute 0 #23 December 12, 2003 If your new man means that much to you then give him some heads up before it blows up in your face. You have the potential to loose them both.Bottomless Beers and Blue Skies! * Brother_Brian * D.S.W.F.S.B. #2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #24 December 12, 2003 Very good point!!! Hopefully this weekend I can force an opportunity. Andy, thanks for the extra pics!! There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #25 December 12, 2003 Thanks Andy!!! I didn't take any pictures that night and promised some to Tanja. I am happy to say they are on their way to SA via email right now. Thanks again! HLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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noname 0 #4 December 12, 2003 How long until your ex shows back up? I wouldn't tell him right this second, but I would tell him and let him know you don't think its any big deal. Just wait until its a little closer to the time that your ex will actually be there. Things may be a little awkward for a bit but is should all work out just fine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #5 December 12, 2003 Ex shows up in March & is aware of new s/o... has been for a while. I know honest is the the best/only way... but all of my choices are honest. I've never hidden it. He knows I went to my ex's country to visit. I just never said "when I was dating...." I want to tell him, but don't know how/when. I also HATE relationshipy conversations. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Swoopyswoop 0 #6 December 12, 2003 Honesty is for sure the best policy!!!!! I am sure if they are reasonable thinking adults that your ex will understand. Just be up front with him and it will be all good . Wait a minute, what the hell am I doing posting love advice? Jesus I must be losing my mind!! Can you say BOREDOM? LOL "when I die, I want to go like my grandfather while im sleeping, not like the passengers riding in the car with me Swoopster A.S.S. #6 Future T.S.S holder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bendywendy 0 #7 December 12, 2003 I don't see what the problem is unless you were misleading in any way to the either one about your relationships. Basically, unless you've been keeping said ex kind of hanging on via email & phone and he doesn't know about current s.o. and vice versa - or if you deliberately misled current s.o. to cover up prior relationship - what is the problem? Very few people actually marry their first love and stay with them forever. We've all got ex's. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #8 December 12, 2003 All we need to do is send your current SO a link to this thread and all issues are resolved Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kansasskydiver 0 #9 December 12, 2003 tell him now so he doesn't think something is going to happen when he shows up. it's best that he knows before he comes trust me, i hate it when that happens to me<--- See look, pink dolphins DO exist! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kat69 0 #10 December 12, 2003 Tell your now BF about the only fling. Tell him that he will be back at your DZ next year. When you two goto the DZ. Intreduce them. BUT!!! do not spend alone time with the other it might make the new BF worried and become distant. All you want to do is show one that the old fling is over and the other that you have moved on.*********************************************** Wine Me, Dine Me, 69 Me Then spank me like a bad puppy dog. Ms_Kitty Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #11 December 12, 2003 Ex knows bout current, current might know bout ex... there was no subterfuge, definately!! I HATE that & am a firm believer in peopless fast ability to lose trust. Current & Ex do know eachother, not best buds, but the have jumped numerous times together in the past. so, y'all think it's better to tell/make things clear now, 3 months in advance? There will be times I'll be alone w/ ex, just cause of friendship. I think current will be ok - he knows I'm absolutely crazy about him... told him in those exact words. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #12 December 12, 2003 Wondering when this would come up. I think S/O2 will be okay with S/O1 being here. In fact I think he already knows. Tell him anyway, it will make things easier on both of you down the road. Since I know all involved I my opinion is to tell S/O2 now so at least he knows you're thinking about him.Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bkdice 0 #13 December 12, 2003 QuoteI want to tell him, but don't know how/when. I also HATE relationshipy conversations. Def be honest. Its in your past and it's no big deal - unless you make it one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AndyMan 7 #14 December 12, 2003 I'd be surprised if current didn't know about ex. We ALL knew about ex.... Just tell him! It's not the big thing you're imagining it is. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #15 December 12, 2003 It IS no big deal... thanks for shoving that into my head!! I think he knows, but am not 100% certain... & that uncertainty drives me crazy. I'm glad you're all being forthright. And thanks Heather & AM for speaking up - since you know everyone. Yes, you all knew about ex (SO1 - I like that Heather), but SO2 didn't hang out as much last year... esp @ the pub where it was most obvious. Speaking of current... I cropped your pic, AM... thank you. Heather, LOVE your sig line. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites smooth 0 #16 December 12, 2003 Quote . . I think he knows, but am not 100% certain... There's one way to make sure he's 100% certain. Tell him!! Get it out of the way before Safety Day and you'll feel much better about it. All concerned should have no problems with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #17 December 12, 2003 Point taken... now just have to find the right time - GREAT!! BTW, Eric, thanks for the compliment on my avitar There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites WrongWay 0 #18 December 12, 2003 Quotehonesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Couldn't have said it better!! Just be honest and tell him that you're happy, and if he ever cared about you (and if he is indeed a mature adult), he will understand. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #19 December 12, 2003 QuoteQuoteQuotehonesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Couldn't have said it better!! Just be honest and tell him that you're happy, and if he ever cared about you (and if he is indeed a mature adult), he will understand. You are so right... thank you. Life IS much easier w/ all out in the open. It's just sometimes tough getting it out there. Thank you for the compliment Weegegirl!! I think so too . There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #20 December 12, 2003 Can you some day help me with the picture? I'm so lost.Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #21 December 12, 2003 Never mind girlie, I figured it out. Yeah me!Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AndyMan 7 #22 December 12, 2003 Just for fun... Here's a few more. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Chute 0 #23 December 12, 2003 If your new man means that much to you then give him some heads up before it blows up in your face. You have the potential to loose them both.Bottomless Beers and Blue Skies! * Brother_Brian * D.S.W.F.S.B. #2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites EricaH 0 #24 December 12, 2003 Very good point!!! Hopefully this weekend I can force an opportunity. Andy, thanks for the extra pics!! There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites hmatousek 0 #25 December 12, 2003 Thanks Andy!!! I didn't take any pictures that night and promised some to Tanja. I am happy to say they are on their way to SA via email right now. Thanks again! HLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! 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AndyMan 7 #14 December 12, 2003 I'd be surprised if current didn't know about ex. We ALL knew about ex.... Just tell him! It's not the big thing you're imagining it is. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #15 December 12, 2003 It IS no big deal... thanks for shoving that into my head!! I think he knows, but am not 100% certain... & that uncertainty drives me crazy. I'm glad you're all being forthright. And thanks Heather & AM for speaking up - since you know everyone. Yes, you all knew about ex (SO1 - I like that Heather), but SO2 didn't hang out as much last year... esp @ the pub where it was most obvious. Speaking of current... I cropped your pic, AM... thank you. Heather, LOVE your sig line. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smooth 0 #16 December 12, 2003 Quote . . I think he knows, but am not 100% certain... There's one way to make sure he's 100% certain. Tell him!! Get it out of the way before Safety Day and you'll feel much better about it. All concerned should have no problems with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #17 December 12, 2003 Point taken... now just have to find the right time - GREAT!! BTW, Eric, thanks for the compliment on my avitar There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #18 December 12, 2003 Quotehonesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Couldn't have said it better!! Just be honest and tell him that you're happy, and if he ever cared about you (and if he is indeed a mature adult), he will understand. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #19 December 12, 2003 QuoteQuoteQuotehonesty is always best. plus, if you tell him, and it's out in the open, you can stop worrying about it and get back to that wonderful relationship you have right now. and i've seen the pictures... you guys are adorable! Couldn't have said it better!! Just be honest and tell him that you're happy, and if he ever cared about you (and if he is indeed a mature adult), he will understand. You are so right... thank you. Life IS much easier w/ all out in the open. It's just sometimes tough getting it out there. Thank you for the compliment Weegegirl!! I think so too . There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #20 December 12, 2003 Can you some day help me with the picture? I'm so lost.Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #21 December 12, 2003 Never mind girlie, I figured it out. Yeah me!Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyMan 7 #22 December 12, 2003 Just for fun... Here's a few more. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chute 0 #23 December 12, 2003 If your new man means that much to you then give him some heads up before it blows up in your face. You have the potential to loose them both.Bottomless Beers and Blue Skies! * Brother_Brian * D.S.W.F.S.B. #2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #24 December 12, 2003 Very good point!!! Hopefully this weekend I can force an opportunity. Andy, thanks for the extra pics!! There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #25 December 12, 2003 Thanks Andy!!! I didn't take any pictures that night and promised some to Tanja. I am happy to say they are on their way to SA via email right now. Thanks again! HLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
