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Dagny 0
Now it's been some time since I've been in a relationship...and I know you claim personal reasons for not wanting to visit her, but I've got to wonder why? (rhetorical...not necessary for you to answer) It seems that in a relationship of only three months you and she would want to be together as often as possible. Your decision to stand your ground and stay home instead makes me think that you are losing interest in her and/or the relationship for some reason? Perhaps she is sensing your reluctance to spend time with her despite her efforts and feels she is losing you. She may be resorting to manipulation as an attempt to keep you from slipping away. I'm just thinking that the fear of the relationship breaking up would be enough to make her try a new method of keeping the you both together...even if it isn't a good choice of technique.
I could be totally off base here, but I think that if she were to sense a growing distance occuring between you two that she might become manipulative in an attempt to avoid a break-up. Kind of a "if he's close to me, he will want me and love me and never leave me" thing. Just a thought...
I could be totally off base here, but I think that if she were to sense a growing distance occuring between you two that she might become manipulative in an attempt to avoid a break-up. Kind of a "if he's close to me, he will want me and love me and never leave me" thing. Just a thought...
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n2skdvn 0
dude not trying to be blunt but RUN!!!!!
have abrother the same way with the family. will pay this and that to help you out but expects you to bow to him when your around them.
just my thought ...take it fo what you want.
have abrother the same way with the family. will pay this and that to help you out but expects you to bow to him when your around them.
just my thought ...take it fo what you want.
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rocket 0
Actually I do have "deep" feelings for her. But thanks for the 'reality check'. I actually am concerned, I have given her no reason for acting this way. She was here last weekend, and everything was fine. Then she went home, and she changed completely from whom I have gotten to know thus far.
Also, I am not 'stringing her along', I was raised the old fashioned way, and treat her like a gentleman. I try to talk to her about it, but all she can see is her side, and wants to change my beliefs. I am sorry to say this is a boundary of mine, and have made that clear to her, yet she still persists.
But thanks, I appreciate your opinion
"Make your plans dark and as inpenetrable as night, and when you move, fall like a thunderbolt" -Sun Tsu
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Also, I am not 'stringing her along', I was raised the old fashioned way, and treat her like a gentleman. I try to talk to her about it, but all she can see is her side, and wants to change my beliefs. I am sorry to say this is a boundary of mine, and have made that clear to her, yet she still persists.
But thanks, I appreciate your opinion
"Make your plans dark and as inpenetrable as night, and when you move, fall like a thunderbolt" -Sun Tsu
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QuoteRocket:
It's pretty clear you don't have very deep feelings for her. Quit stringing her along and just end the relationship.
I agree. Besides, if you feel that someone is manipulating you, the reason isn't important why, really. Is it? The question is if you are going to allow yourself to be manipulated.
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AnnieB 0
I think you already know the answer. Don't go, don't call...run, run far and fast!
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Through blue skies and clouds above
Whispering my name
A sweet sound descends
Through blue skies and clouds above
Whispering my name
Having done a long distance relationship for over two years, goin' back and forth. Let me say, if you are having problems already, it does not get easier after you meet - which a lot of people think it will. It only gets harder and harder. I honestly, don't recommend a long distance relationship and I'd never do one again.
Tonto 1
Just go and see her, unless you don't want to go and see her. 300 miles is nothing. Be nice. She likes you.
If you don't WANT to see her -
Crrr (Sound of velcro peeling) zzzip (sound of teflon cable sliding through hard housing) Kechink! (Sound of rings releasing)
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If you don't WANT to see her -
Crrr (Sound of velcro peeling) zzzip (sound of teflon cable sliding through hard housing) Kechink! (Sound of rings releasing)
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2fat2fly 0
QuoteDISCUSS your feelings.. chicks dig it.
Back when I was dating I noticed how much chicks dug it when I discussed feeling like spending lots of money on them...
I am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried
go see her if you want to see her. it doesn't matter who's paying. If she foots the bill this time, make sure that when she comes to visit you, you pay her travel expenses.
if you don't want to go see her, ask yourself why. once you know why, either deal with it, and go see her, or deal with it and break up.
if you don't want to go see her, ask yourself why. once you know why, either deal with it, and go see her, or deal with it and break up.
Faber 0
why dont you ask her to visit you instead then?
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turtlespeed 221
Let her come to you.
Or Run very far and very fast.
Or Run very far and very fast.
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Luv2Fall 0
Dude.....you're in a tough spot. My wife use to do that crap to me.......I "endured" it for a pretty good while. I eventually gave her an ultimatum "ms?", she went crazy (liked I predicated)....I've never in my life.....but, to her credit, reality sat in and she quit doing that - in every aspect. Best of luck.
WrongWay 0
Dude, I hate to say this, but if you think she's trying to manipulate you, cut away before it gets worse. Better to hurt her now than 6 months down the road. ![[:/]](/uploads/emoticons/dry.png "[:/]")
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skymama 37
Go visit her and see how it feels to be around her now that you're feeling manipulated. It might help you decide whether she's worth staying in the relationship with or not.
She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon
It's pretty clear you don't have very deep feelings for her. Quit stringing her along and just end the relationship.
If she was worth it to you, sh'd be worth the trip. She isn't worth the trip, so just be honest.
My wife is hotter than your wife.
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