MyOwnWay 0 #1 November 14, 2003 not only did two friends die in car accident two weeks ago, but another friend committed suicide wednesday night. he hung himself in his house. i don't understand what would drive a person to take their own life. life is given to us, but it is NOT ours to take!! i feel so numb right now. too much to deal with in such a short time. too many deaths. take care of each other, please. i need hug! *edit to correct spelling_________________________________________ all good things are wild and free - Henry David Thoreau Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #2 November 14, 2003 {{Hug}}I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #3 November 14, 2003 {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
prepheckt 0 #4 November 14, 2003 Hey Ashley....Major Vibes and a back cracking hug. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. If you need to talk, feel free to PM me. we're with you..and I'm sure dz dots watch out for each other."Dancing Argentine Tango is like doing calculus with your feet." -9 toes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Designer 0 #5 November 14, 2003 It,s always very sad!Lost several friends this way.Wonder why they think there is no "Hope"?With hope is life! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #6 November 14, 2003 Goodness, you've been through hell these last few weeks. We're all pulling for you. I know exactly how you feel. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #7 November 14, 2003 My sincere condolences. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wzettler 0 #8 November 14, 2003 I am SO sorry for all you have gone through. Many hugs and vibes... I think when Jesus said "love your enemy" he probably meant don't kill them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pleifer 0 #9 November 14, 2003 {HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG} {HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG} {HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG} {HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG} There is lots of support out here for you. don't be afraid to seek professional help if you are having a hard time understanding why. _________________________________________ The Angel of Duh has spoke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
n2skdvn 0 #10 November 14, 2003 {{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}if my calculations are correct SLINKY + ESCULATOR = EVERLASTING FUN my site Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Laurel 0 #11 November 14, 2003 Hate to hear this. Suicide is the ultimate selfish act. Be strong and band with your family and friends to get through these travesties. ..................................................................... PMS#28, Pelogrande Rodriguez#1074 My Pink M Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyesspot 0 #12 November 14, 2003 (((((MAJOR VIKING TYPE HUGS))))) I am so sorry for all of your loses.Life is too short. Don't sweat the small stuff. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #13 November 14, 2003 I am truly sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts and prayers, and if you need to talk, please PM me. ((((((((((((((((((VIBES))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #14 November 14, 2003 Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear that... As skydivers, (and just as people), we have to deal with grief and loss quite often, and it always seems to gang up on you when you've had about all you can handle. Try to keep your head above this.. you've got a great support group here.. we're all thinking of you and your friends, and their families. {{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}} Kristi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #15 November 14, 2003 My condolences.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #16 November 14, 2003 Quote Suicide is the ultimate selfish act. Perhaps, if done as a cry for help or attention, but for some folks going through pain and mental anguish, it simply distorts their view of the world so much that it seems like a reasonable solution. It usually never will seem like the right thing to do by those left behind, but know that for the person that simply wants the pain to end, that pain must be unbearable for this to appear to be the only option. I hope I never truly understand it from that perspective.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snowwhite 0 #17 November 14, 2003 Ashley, I am very sorry for all that you are going through right now. You will be in my thoughts and prayers as the days go on. When a friend does such a thing, we spend hours beating ourselves up. Wondering what we could have done, what didn't we see that we should have, how could we have made a difference. Know that if a person has chosen this route, there is NOTHING we could have done, should have seen or known. Unfortunately the demons were not ours to battle. During the Viet Nam era, my husbands best friend chose this route, rather than Viet Nam. He still deals with it, but one of the ways that helped him was to spend time with his buddies mom. Through the years, he helped her, she helped him, just by being buds, and remembering their common bond. I hope that you can find the kind of peace that they both have.skydiveTaylorville.org freefallbeth@yahoo.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JRock 0 #18 November 14, 2003 Hug I am so sorry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skycurlycat 0 #19 November 14, 2003 So sorry to hear about this...sounds like you've had it rough hon... Hang in there and know that you're not alone in this...we all are here for ya. BIG HUGSPMS #113 PMTS #19 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goose491 0 #20 November 14, 2003 I'm so sorry to hear this. Good vibes from Ontario. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Vibes}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Nick My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MyOwnWay 0 #21 November 14, 2003 thank you all for the prayers, hugs, and vibes! it is much appreciated. I don't have anyone I can really talk to here in Manhattan, KS, but I know I can always look to you guys here on dz.com. Thanks for the support._________________________________________ all good things are wild and free - Henry David Thoreau Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marz 0 #22 November 14, 2003 All my synmpathies. I've been through that too and it is a very difficult thing. Hang in there! Martin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Laurel 0 #23 November 14, 2003 Quote Quote Suicide is the ultimate selfish act. Perhaps, if done as a cry for help or attention, but for some folks going through pain and mental anguish, it simply distorts their view of the world so much that it seems like a reasonable solution. It usually never will seem like the right thing to do by those left behind, but know that for the person that simply wants the pain to end, that pain must be unbearable for this to appear to be the only option. I hope I never truly understand it from that perspective. You are right - depression can take on such a strong hold, that others' feelings and the love and support from friends and family seem to be not enough. It is horrific that this person felt so much anguish that he felt it better to leave life. I am sure his friends and family are reeling in pain over his loss and I feel so badly for them...................................................................... PMS#28, Pelogrande Rodriguez#1074 My Pink M Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ripper0289 0 #24 November 14, 2003 {{{{{BigOl'Hugz}}}}} Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
