dropoutdave 0 #1 November 2, 2003 Got this sent to me the other day, kinda cheered me up so thought I would share it..... BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looki! ng for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why yo u're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. ------------------------------------------------------ May Contain Nut traces...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #2 November 2, 2003 Wish I even gave a rip when I was in my 20s! That's great to even contemplate about where you are and where you want to be in the 20s. I wouldn't call it a quarter life crisis..I'd call it someone who woke up early _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
QuickDraw 0 #3 November 2, 2003 Ahh... i remember being that happy, (now 37). "Fuck it... lets skydive" - Henrik Jacobsson. ( a good friend of mine from Sweden) -- Hope you don't die. -- I'm fucking winning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FliegendeWolf 0 #4 November 2, 2003 Dave, Thanks so much for posting this. It really meant a lot to me. A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #5 November 2, 2003 I was just recently called up by one of my ex's from a long time ago... she called to invite me to my high school class reunion and we got to talking. It turns out shes now married with a few kids and was describing the perfect little American life. She was talking about how shes met alot of the goals she set for herself before graduation, but missed a lot of them too. She asked me about my goals and if they changed. 5 years ago I wanted nothing more then to get to college and start all over. 4 years ago I wanted nothing more then to Graduate college and get a real job with real $ 3 years ago I wanted to find myself and what I was ment to do. 2 years ago I graduated and got a real job with real $. 1 year ago I realized that I had almost everything I ever wanted but I was'nt truely happy with myself. Today... today my goals have changed to giving everything up and doing exactly what makes me happy and skydive full time and start my own business some day. I used to enjoy going to keggers (hell, my place threw them once a month, twice during the summer) and getting smashed beyond belief, now... it just does'nt seem like fun anymore. I used to love to do the stupidest, most impulsish things we could think of... now I worry about things like police records and future employment. Growing up sucks... but its worth it too.Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SuperWoman 0 #6 November 2, 2003 How true it all is! Thanks for the post!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #7 November 2, 2003 Ok, not to be insensitive or anything, but "BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING" . . . oh, boo-fuckin-hoo. I'd give my left nut to be 20 again.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #8 November 2, 2003 I want to give you a HUG based on that post! Do ya feel the love?! Vibes to you...>>>>Listen to Okenfold's rendition of "when the Rush Comes" and that'll make you feel like a million bucks! _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moodyskydiver 0 #9 November 2, 2003 Pretty cool.I'm 21 and thats exactly whats going on in my life/how I'm feeling right now. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #10 November 2, 2003 I thought there'd be a "disconnect" between our age groups, but I suppose we have more in common than we think! _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brodes 0 #11 November 2, 2003 ha im not EVEN 20 yet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moodyskydiver 0 #12 November 2, 2003 QuoteI thought there'd be a "disconnect" between our age groups, but I suppose we have more in common than we think! Age it relative.Its just a number, not a state of mind IMHO. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #13 November 2, 2003 Huminah...humminah! _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #14 November 2, 2003 You're right...It's allabout who's self conscious about it.. _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jams 0 #15 November 2, 2003 Dropoutdave you might consider yourself perfect, that everything you have done so far has allowed you to be here now. it is a way to win, and then, there are better choices to persue pleasure...m ~ a temporary reconfiguration of stardust Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dropoutdave 0 #16 November 2, 2003 I consider myself far from perfect! I'm not sure where that comment came from??? What are you trying to say exactly? ------------------------------------------------------ May Contain Nut traces...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dropoutdave 0 #17 November 2, 2003 I ought to point out, Jams, that I didnt write this myself, if you look above it, it was just something that got forwarded to me, made some sense, so I posted it. Read it properly before you pass judgement. ------------------------------------------------------ May Contain Nut traces...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
