cloudseeker2001 0 #51 June 17, 2002 my girlfriend wants to quit the sport after 2 years and 200 or so jumps. i have talked to her about it and it is the usual fear kinda stuff. she needs is a little more trainning. she was a great student and i mean great! to look at her student videos you might think it was a pro-made trainner! but, i had a plan and took her out to spaceland this weekend for the 120 record and her interest has sparked up a little!"remember when we were in africa" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #52 June 17, 2002 QuoteWell a year later I've moved to a new town thinking things would be better, well they are worse, since I'm the new person no one wants to jump with me, I can't even get on a 2 way. *shrug* It has nothing to do with my flying abilities or any safety issues, it's all about clics and unfortunately I don't fit in.Hmm... I moved to Perris from a small dz almost six years ago. Talk about not fitting in! I did plenty of solos, believe me! But today I can walk on the dz any weekend and get hugs and invites on loads from a wide variety of people... just took time and a lot of hanging out and jumping.Don't let a bunch of people who don't even know you make you quit jumping - why did you start in the first place? Bet it wasn't because you wanted to "fit in." Give it time and check out the other dz's in the area (even if it means driving a couple hours - or flying to a dz where you already know people, say, Perris? Eloy? ). pull & flare,lisa"Try not. Do or do not. There is no try." - Yoda sez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skycat 0 #53 June 17, 2002 Thanks alot everyone, it really does mean alot to me.I think Pammi hit the nail on the head, I'm under so much stress in every other part of my life that being at the DZ and getting stressed out to the point that I go home crying is the last straw. Also, it's the only stress that I can avoid, like someone said in another post about fear, but switch it to stress. You have to live with the fear (stress) in some parts of your life, you have no choice like work, but skydiving you can quit you don't have to put up with it, your life will go on just fine without it. Every weekend since I've been here I've gone out for the weekend, hung out after hours and tried to get to know people. I mean it should have been easy, they loved Derek the weekend he was up, quite a few of you know me, I'm really laid back and friendly and usually have no problem getting to know people. Instead I pretty much getting ignored, and if I'm not ignored it's cause someone feels that I should know thier opinion on my canopy.I know I should check out the other DZ that is 2 hrs away, but it's hard to get motivated to drive that far when I know I'm going to have to listen to the "you jump a what?" comments. I mean it was cute at first but now it hurts my feelings, cause they have seen me land perfectly fine for weeks now. It's not things like you cut someone off or you are flying dangerously or anything like that it's stuff like well if you aren't going to hook turn it you shouldn't be on it, and why even bother at that wingloading, it's not ment to be flown that light, you should get a spectre or something like that cause you aren't flying that thing to it's potential. So the stress is too much and it's not worth it, I'd rather sit at home alone all weekend stareing at the walls than spending another weekend crying and feeling sorry for myself. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #54 June 17, 2002 Quoteskydiving you can quit you don't have to put up with it, your life will go on just fine without itHuh? "Here I come to save the BOOBIES!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jimbo 0 #55 June 17, 2002 QuoteIt's not things like you cut someone off or you are flying dangerously or anything like that it's stuff like well if you aren't going to hook turn it you shouldn't be on it, and why even bother at that wingloading, it's not ment to be flown that light, you should get a spectre or something like that cause you aren't flying that thing to it's potential. Bah.Tell them to fuck off.-Jim Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #56 June 17, 2002 Kat,can I tell you what I think? from afar?!you dont want to quit...thats a given but you just dont want to deal with the bullshit...thats a given. we all want that.(this is kinda gonna go on 4ever so I am gonna stop short and try to make it simple which may sound VERY Vague. sorry . But I am goin thruogh the SAME thing at work. I am torn between two side of the pendulum.....dont let yourself fall victim to the weaker side. YOU KNOW WILL WILL JUST HATE YOUR SELF 4 IT!dont let those fools make you walk away from some thing you love. you know it is only a temporary thing and you know THEY are full of shit! dont let them CHANGE YOUR life. that is all I am gonna say b/c there isWAY TOO MUCH that need to be SAID not typed. if you want I will PM you but I feel like I may be forcing my opinion b/c of similar thing going on in my life....if you want my opinion PM or email me....Either way DO NOT leave your (selceted ) Family behind....you choose to come here and found a comfort zone. you know damn well we all want you to stay. i am sorry that your local dz isnt as loving but THIS is your home DZ!Have fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scottbre 0 #57 June 17, 2002 Man! What's wrong with those people? I am by no means super experienced (110 jumps), but if a cute girl started frequenting my dropzone and needed someone to jump with, I'd be more than happy to jump with her(you).I know what not having someone to jump with is like, and it's not fun. In fact I did more sitting around yesterday than jumping because I was wanting to get some 2 way sits in with someone who knows what they are doing in the freefly arena, and those 3 or 4 guys spent most of the day jumping together.If you're ever in Indianapolis I'll be more than happy to jump with you. The 4th paperclip didn't say much, but I could tell that it was still the smartass of the bunch... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #58 June 17, 2002 AMEN scottbre,even though you have an ulterior motif you didnt let us know...wait a second! yes you did!but KAT as you can see...not everyone are snobs! please stay with us( i will beg all day long.....)Have fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trfenwyd 0 #59 June 17, 2002 I am a pilot and still get tense during takeoff if I'm not the one at the controls.alas fair maiden, have no fear,for we went out and bought more beer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,989 #60 June 17, 2002 >So today I finally make the decision, I'm quiting the sport . . . I almost did that about three years ago. I was sick of tandems and AFF all the time, but since we were losing our experienced jumpers to Perris and Elsinore, there generally wasn't anyone else to jump with. Going to Perris and just hanging out wasn't too much fun, since most of the people I knew were up jumpers who were always training with teams. I would do a lot of coach dives, but there are only so many 4 point 2 and 3 ways you can do before you go a little stir crazy.What finally got me over it was making an effort to collect people to jump with. I'd bug Jan Meyer, and Kate, and Tony, and get on their stuff. I'd go up to Perris with Molly and Keith and we'd jump together. I'd make time to go to WFFC or the Byron boogie. It started to become less like work and more like fun, and that made a big difference - at least to me.-bill von Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gothsnake 0 #61 October 31, 2003 How can you tell if someone is made for it or not ??? What types of people would you discourage or encourage to skydive ??? Just curious Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
