freeflir29 0 #26 October 8, 2002 Quote I'm surprised it wasn't Clay you were kissing I don't even know her. I wasn't there. besides....Uuumm...I was gone to the store then. I didn't even get back till later. Nobody saw me...you can't prove anything. She's lieing I tell you!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #27 October 8, 2002 If you are in a relationship where you don't feel that you can be honest, and you are convinced that he will not forive you for a MILD transgression, then what are you worried about saving/losing anyway? -S_____________ I'm not conceited...I'm just realistic about my awesomeness... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sweetgirl 0 #28 October 8, 2002 I understand what you are saying and I always felt the same way you do....until about 6 months ago. I guess when you know it, you know it. Y.O.L.O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #29 October 8, 2002 So does this guy and so know each other....I mean are they great buddys and all???? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #30 October 8, 2002 Quote Would that advice still stand?? Of course not!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aneblett 0 #31 October 8, 2002 Exactly why I say tell... If I heard from her soon after it happened then whatever happened after that there would still be a degree of respect held for her... If I had to hear through the grapevine or rumours...once acertaining with her that they were true, I would terminate the relationship with extreme prejudice. ageS.E.X. party #2 ..It is far worse to live with fear, than to die confronting it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ernokaikkonen 0 #32 October 8, 2002 PCBS. What's the reasoning behind "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" being non-PC? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #33 October 8, 2002 Quote Nobody saw me...you can't prove anything. She's lieing I tell you!!!!! Sounds like you have that down pat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
QuickDraw 0 #34 October 8, 2002 QuoteWhat the hell is a "so"? Isn't it a needle pulling thread ? -- Hope you don't die. -- I'm fucking winning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tadbad 0 #35 October 8, 2002 I have to agree with SweetGirl....there is some underlying reason that it happened. Relationships need to be based on truth and honesty...without that...what is the point? Wouldn't you want to know if he did the same thing? I think you need to look into the underlying reasons this happened....like maybe you are not ready for a serious relationship...or maybe you are purposely sabotaging your relationship so that he will do the dirty work and end it for you. I don't think you need to feel guilty or beat yourself up over this...but learn from it and realize that there is a reason it happened. ----------------------------------------------------- When you're going to extremes...you taste adrenaline!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #36 October 8, 2002 Quote Quote What the hell is a "so"? Secret other Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #37 October 8, 2002 Quote Sounds like you have that down pat The time to practice is BEFORE you need it. If you have to come up with it on the spot you might choke. Besides....I was married once.....of course I have it down pat!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
taraflyer 0 #38 October 8, 2002 no, they don't know each other. I do love my so, and this was a total mistake. Unfortunately, he won't see it as such. I really have no explanation for it other than the fact that I was drinking way too much and the moment took over. I could have taken it farther, but did not. I just don't think this kiss is worth losing a relationship, but the guilt is eating me alive.It's not flying--it's falling with STYLE... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #39 October 8, 2002 Well if they don't know each other let it ride and see if it blows over Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #40 October 8, 2002 I say tell him. If it is eating away at you, you won't be able to enjoy the relationship anyway. You will be too busy worrying if he will find out or even just feeling guilty. and who knows, maybe one night you'd get really drunk and accidently tell him.. Then you would be in double shit because you are then too drunk to explain. I also think there is something to the idea that you did this on purpose because you subconsciencely (sp?) want out. Good luck! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. MaryRose Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
taraflyer 0 #41 October 8, 2002 it's significant other!It's not flying--it's falling with STYLE... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #42 October 8, 2002 Quote I have a question for all the guys that say..don't tell. How would you feel if it was your girlfriend asking this question and people told her not to tell but you found out later?? Would that advice still stand?? Just curious. No one ever tells. If your so (of either sex) does anything, no one will ever tell you. Generally, people go through a learning curve. They get caught and learn how they got caught. They get better at it. Even your best friends will rarely tell you. It's not their business. It shouldn't be. Couples should work things out, not a jury of their peers. Women get bored after a while. No "wow" in their life. No one getting wound up. Married women prowl a surprising amount. Flirting is a harmless way to re-affirm your attractiveness. People have needs. Sometimes, it's some smooching. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #43 October 8, 2002 Quotethe guilt is eating me alive If you feel that bad about it just tell him!!! He'll either get over it or not. Then you can move on either with the relationship or without. Either way you'll be better off. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #44 October 8, 2002 Quote Quote Sounds like you have that down pat The time to practice is BEFORE you need it. If you have to come up with it on the spot you might choke. Besides....I was married once.....of course I have it down pat!!! Dude... do a list. That way if you are too drunk to talk, point to number 8. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #45 October 8, 2002 Well, it's a common thing, and I wouldn't know for sure, since I've never been there, but as a rule, I agree with what sweet girl said: I've never bought the "i was drunk and didn't know" excuse. However, you seem to feel very badly about it so if it's meant to be, he'll forgive you. If you truly care about him, I wouldn't let it happen again. Cheaters suck;-). Not just to taraflyer but to everyone: Have the coutesty to break up with someone if you know you're interested in other people. It's a simple act that will save a LOT of heartbreak. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #46 October 8, 2002 Quote do a list. That way if you are too drunk to talk, point to number 8. Very good idea. I'll take care of that today!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #47 October 8, 2002 A kiss...don't tell. If its not something you are looking forward to doing again and don't plan to, chalk it up as a mistake. Personally, I'd be pissed as hell if I found out, irrationally so most likely. But being removed from the situation on a personal level, I say move on and forget about it. Why ruin an otherwise good relationship (if it is that) over something that happened, meant nothing, and won't happen again. Now if you had sex, I'd say you should tell because you are putting his health at risk. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sweetgirl 0 #48 October 8, 2002 I second that! Look, the thing is you turned to another man--drunk or not. Tell your so now and then you can kiss another (and more if you wish) guilt free! Y.O.L.O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #49 October 8, 2002 Quote Very good idea. I'll take care of that today!!! Ohhhh scary thought Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #50 October 8, 2002 Quote Ohhhh scary thought Becky...will this work with pick up lines too? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
