lazyfrog 0 #1 September 24, 2003 in the same serie, consider you are with someone... when do you consider you cheat or have been cheated... in a case I lived, as long as we told everything to the other, it was OK... even exciting sometimes... ---------- Fumer tue, péter pue ------------- ourson #10, Mosquito Uno, CBT 579 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #2 September 24, 2003 Where is the NONE OF THE ABOVE option? __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #3 September 24, 2003 Cheating is going against the agreed terms of the relationship. If you both agree that oral is okay, but penetration is not, the having sex with someone would be cheating.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casie 0 #4 September 24, 2003 I'd consider cheating to be anything where touching is involved with someone else other than your SO!~Porn Kitty WARNING: Goldschlager causes extreme emotional outbursts! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #5 September 24, 2003 As far as I'm concerned, everything from Kissing on up is considered cheating. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunnydee123 0 #6 September 24, 2003 Are you telling before or after it happens? And if after, are you sneaking in order to do "it" and then not telling all the details? This could go SO MANY ways........... I always kinda look at it as..how would I feel if I found out my S.O. had done "***" with someone else.....Kissed, touched, slept with, etc. Dreams become reality, one choice at a time... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazyfrog 0 #7 September 24, 2003 cool definition... Oral is OK for me... sorry Ivan forgot about that possibility...---------- Fumer tue, péter pue ------------- ourson #10, Mosquito Uno, CBT 579 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflybella 0 #8 September 24, 2003 Cheating is LYING! Plain and very simple. On a very personal note: it disgusts me that there is actually any ambiguity on this. Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunnydee123 0 #9 September 24, 2003 Yeah.....if you are with someone - you are with them! If you feel the need to look elsewhere for "satisifaction" of any sorts...then maybe you should rethink being with one person...... Can't have your cake and eat it to people.......plus it would seem to make things awfully complicated - and inevitably is going to fall in with what freeflybella says - lying...which therefore is cheating.... Dreams become reality, one choice at a time... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #10 September 24, 2003 QuoteYeah.....if you are with someone - you are with them! If you feel the need to look elsewhere for "satisifaction" of any sorts...then maybe you should rethink being with one person...... To many people, monogomy just isn't that important. They put many other things in a relationship before monogomy.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #11 September 24, 2003 QuoteThey put many other things in a relationship before monogomy. Yeah, STDs.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chopchop 0 #12 September 24, 2003 sex with feelings! sex without feelings is just recreation.. feelings without action is not acting on them so cheating is sex with feelings! chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,049 #13 September 24, 2003 >Cheating is LYING! >Plain and very simple. What she said. There's nothing wrong with a relationship where you are physically intimate with more than one person - if both people agree and are honest about it. There IS something wrong with a guy who just kisses another girl - then lies about it to his girlfriend/wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dove 0 #14 September 24, 2003 QuoteCheating is LYING! Plain and very simple. What if he has sex with someone else and then tells you right after? I know what you're trying to say, but just being honest about it doesn't take away the cheating part in my opinion. Fall in dove. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cornholio 0 #15 September 24, 2003 Does masturbation mean doing yourself or doing others ? Cause if it's just me, how the hell is that cheating ?? Damn, I've been cheating all this time ?? Butthead: Whoa! Burritos for breakfast! Beavis: Yeah! Yeah! Cool! bellyflier on the dz.com hybrid record jump Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lizzieb 0 #16 September 24, 2003 depends on the situation...and the relationship. would the action hurt the other person? then it is probably cheating...for some people that is simply a kiss, while for others maybe it's sex... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fozchek 0 #17 September 24, 2003 QuoteIf you feel the need to look elsewhere for "satisifaction" of any sorts...then maybe you should rethink being with one person...... Does that include attention of a sexual nature? I fully agree with Bella... there is no room for ambiguity in this matter. Lying is cheating, and that IS a black & white issue. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whocares 0 #18 September 24, 2003 How is masturbation cheating? Unless someone else mausurbates me? I am lost on that one. Does it count if i masturbate with a handful of broken glass? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fozchek 0 #19 September 24, 2003 maybe masturbating in someone else's company? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whocares 0 #20 September 24, 2003 Quotemaybe masturbating in someone else's company? Umm Ok . would that not make the other person a voyer and not a cheater? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflybella 0 #21 September 24, 2003 The words, in my mind, are interchangeable. "What if he cheats/lies, and then tells you about it afterwards?" It's still cheating. It's still lying. Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #22 September 24, 2003 No, I think Dove has a point. If he does it, and then he runs straight to you and tells you about it, that's not lying. That's telling you after the fact, but it's not lying.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,507 #23 September 24, 2003 Depends on the kiss and the circumstances. New Year's Eve? Chaste friends-kiss? I agree with the "whatever goes against the terms of the relationship" answer, unless just having feelings and not overtly acting on them in any way whatsoever is against the terms of the relationship -- that would be going a little far. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #24 September 24, 2003 I agree with you V. I rarely find that there is one static definition of anything that 100 people will agree to. If you are in a relationship, then those people define that term for themselves. Be honest, stay within that definition, and it's all good. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fozchek 0 #25 September 24, 2003 Well, now you are saying that in regards to cheating the reaction is to be taken into consideration more than the action? I disagree. This is becoming a discussion in semantics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
