freeflygoddess 0 #1 September 5, 2003 Man the past few days have been the most stressful ever. I need to jump so bad this weekend, but it is starting to look like I can not. My exhubby, who btw is in the Army, stopped the allotment for my child support with out telling me, causing me to have no money at all this month. I am trying to move, but now I can't. I have talked to his CO and got him into trouble and he is supposably sending me money, but coming from Iraq is going to take forever and he knows it...So last night my dad gets this call from my ex in laws saying that since I am living with my parents right now, my exhubby is going to try and take my kids away from me. I don't understand that because he has never ever been there for our kids. Oh and get this, if he gets the kids from me he is going to give them to his step sister to take care of them! I need vibes and prayers. I need a lawyer that will take my case for free but like that would ever happen. I better win the Powerball this weekend... Kathryn Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jayruss 0 #2 September 5, 2003 VIBES girl __________________________________________________ "Beware how you take away hope from another human being." -Oliver Wendell Holmes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Push 0 #3 September 5, 2003 That's just stupid. Why is he trying to get the kids? But don't worry, if he's never been there for them and he's gonna give them to his step sister to take care of, no sane judge will agree with him. -- Toggle Whippin' Yahoo Skydiving is easy. All you have to do is relax while plummetting at 120 mph from 10,000' with nothing but some nylon and webbing to save you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Canuck278 0 #4 September 5, 2003 Big vibes and warm hugs hun Steve Therapy is expensive, popping bubble wrap is cheap. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
juanesky 0 #5 September 5, 2003 Go to court, and start filing motions to request child support. You can file your own motions anyday, by yourself. If the allotment has been court ordered, then you can file for a complaint. Vibes to you and the kids....."According to some of the conservatives here, it sounds like it's fine to beat your wide - as long as she had it coming." -Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bkdice 0 #6 September 5, 2003 keep you chin up girly. don't let his threats intimidate you. here is a man who is far away and is not current on child support. no way he could get those kids away from you - unless you are a drug addict or living on the streets. good luck. sending you positive vibes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #7 September 5, 2003 QuoteI need a lawyer that will take my case for free but like that would ever happen. I don't know about Arizona but in California you can get free help with that through the district attorney's office. Check with them. Today. Good luck. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
juanesky 0 #8 September 5, 2003 QuoteQuoteI need a lawyer that will take my case for free but like that would ever happen. I don't know about Arizona but in California you can get free help with that through the district attorney's office. Check with them. Today. Good luck. Or in the family court..."According to some of the conservatives here, it sounds like it's fine to beat your wide - as long as she had it coming." -Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #9 September 5, 2003 Sigh.. ex's can be SUCH A holes...... Chin up girl, it'll get better..I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
firediver 0 #10 September 5, 2003 Unless you're out ho'in' in da streets, the dumbass doesn't have a chance. Strike 1: He's a man Strike 2: He's in the military Strike 3: He's trying to go against the kids mom, who also isn't getting Child Support payments as agreed. Vibes to ya babe, round up the wagons, but he doesn't have a chance in hell. Skydiving isn't scary;...but clowns...CLOWNS are scary! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 221 #11 September 5, 2003 There are still alot of avenues for you to try...like was said before though, start today, the sooner that you get your ball rolling, the harder it should be for him to stop it.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jib 0 #12 September 5, 2003 QuoteI need a lawyer that will take my case for free but like that would ever happen. You can try calling your local bar association for ideas or legal aid society (if you meet their guidelines). Some courthouses also have self-help information available. Good luck. <<>> -------------------------------------------------- the depth of his depravity sickens me. -- Jerry Falwell, People v. Larry Flynt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
juanesky 0 #13 September 5, 2003 Kathryn, He is way too far away right now for him to do something immediate. Calm down and get to your senses. No need to worry that much you will have plenty of time. Family court does not happen overnight if there is no violence or police reports going on, and this does not seem to be your case. He is trying to upset u and doing an excellent job, by the way you express yourself. Seriously, calm down, enjoy the weekend. Then, if you have the time to settle down, start thinking more positive things such as getting a part time, and so on..... You have many of us here who can give you a good advice or 2. Simmer down nah....ok? and cheer up enjoy the great eloy weather, and go jumping by all means......"According to some of the conservatives here, it sounds like it's fine to beat your wide - as long as she had it coming." -Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
katiebear21 0 #14 September 5, 2003 QuoteMy exhubby, who btw is in the Army, stopped the allotment for my child support with out telling me, causing me to have no money at all this month. Please don't take this the wrong way at all but the allottment is to support the child, not you. It's for food, clothes, medical (which should be covered through Tricare anyways), etc. Unless you were married more than 10 years he doesn't have to support you. QuoteI have talked to his CO and got him into trouble and he is supposably sending me money, but coming from Iraq is going to take forever and he knows it... It doesn't matter where he is, military allottments do not take long to initiate. It's a simple form that if processed by the 22nd of the current month takes effect the following month. You shouldn't have to get your own lawyer. Starting with his CO was a good place to start but remember the commander's loyalties are to his soldier. He is also responsible for making sure his soldier "takes care of business" if you will. You should call the JAG office of the base where he's stationed. That phone number can usually be found online. Normally, the base web site is www.(baselocation).mil. PM me if you need me to get you any phone numbers, etc. I wish you luck. Being in Iraq right now he really has no grounds for custody. It doesn't matter that you're living with your parents, as long as you are working and providing your fair share for them you're in the clear. I would be careful about posting pics etc on this site if you're worried about him trying to get the kids. You don't want to give him any fuel for his fire if he does get serious about it. This is probably tough love to ya, dz.com sister, but things you might want to think about. Peace, Katie Katie Get your PMS glass necklace here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yoshi 0 #15 September 5, 2003 ((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))) like has already been said.....no sane judge will allow that. I dont play the powerball, but Ill send some vibes your way for that also! -yoshi_________________________________________ this space for rent. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflygoddess 0 #16 September 5, 2003 Ok, so I talked to his CO about not sending me money this month and supposably my ex had mailed a check for more than what I am suppose to get on the 25th of Aug. So I should be getting it within the next couple of days, since it is coming from Iraq. As far as him trying to take the kids, as long as I am able to move to my own place, which I have been planing on doing so anyways by no later than Nov, he really has no leg to stand on to take the kids from me and send them to his step sister's. I should be starting my new job by the 22nd this month and I should be able to move in October but no later than November, as long as I am still getting support from him. I am just wondering now, that if he does stop sending me money and keeps telling his CO that he mailed a check, which he has to believe and we have to wait for and I can not move then will he still be able to take the kids? If I have no help from him then all the money that I earn working will go to diapers and food and clothes and such for the kids and I wont have enough to pay the bills too or for anything else. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jmpnkramer 0 #17 September 6, 2003 Girlie he cannot take the kids b/c you live with your parents. Who told you that? CHeck your PM'S and call me. I know some things you can do. Also do not worry too much. Things are going to be good for you I am sure. {HUG} KRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!The REAL KRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMER! "HESITATION CAUSES DEATH!!!" "Be Slow to Fall into Friendship; but when Thou Art in, Continue Firm & Constant." - SOCRATES Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #18 September 6, 2003 Please don't take this the wrong way, but don't allow yourself to become a victim. Take control of the situation. I'm sure there are some kind of help lines in your area. Call, visit, talk to them. Do what you need to do to keep your children, if you want them. Fight for them like a mother bear protecting her cubs.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,485 #19 September 6, 2003 The children live with you. The grounds he could develop for taking custody would be tough; they would include neglect & worse, completely irresponsible behavior, and, possibly, alienation of affections. Katie had some good advice; use the system, and let it work. And, take it from a divorced mom, don't get your kids involved in this. One of the best things the vast majority of divorced parents can give their kids is encouragement to love both parents. Being independent is a wonderful step, and child support is to support the children, but the difference in a one-bedroom apartment and a two-bedroom apartment is definitely part of supporting the children. So it's not all about separating out the food bills etc. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyAnt 0 #20 September 6, 2003 But you probably won't need them anyway. As above. Don't be intimidated. It's not like in the movies. Any argument he comes up with has to be brought forward before anything happens anyway. If half of what you have said already is true. He doesn't have a leg to stand on anyway. "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." Edmund Burke (1729-1797) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flygator 0 #21 September 6, 2003 VIBES for you girl...Been there, done that! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Layton 0 #22 September 6, 2003 if he could only do half of what he threatens you would have something to be worried about.like katie said get to the jag office.my ex used to do that to me all the time tell me she could do this and that and the fact is she didnt make the decisions.i had to tell her and the kids once the judge wears the black robe and the judge makes the decisions.it dont sound right that he can just stop an allotment for child support.i paid through court order for years and it worked out in my favor more than once.i had check numbers amounts and when they were cashed.like everyone else has said.relax and take it easy and dont forget to breathe.go jump this weekend even if ya have to pack to pay for em.blues and keep us all posted.***if you are going to be stupid you better be tough Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
