Daughter has a pierced tongue....Where did I go wrong?

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You do know why girls get their tongue pierced, don't you?

"The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat."

[Sebazz1 2]

Steve I have been lead to believe that women who pierce their toungues, do so because they are waiting for mairage before having sex. Yes yes it is very common. In fact it also indicates a womans desire to work hard, study hard, never drink, stay healthy, have children, marry good men their father approves of, etc, etc... So in all reality you should be quite happy your daughter pierced her tongue!! Yeah dude I fully read this in a magazine somewhere. So relax!




Anyone buying this?

[skydiverbob 0]

Wow, talk about coincidence. My daughter just came home from AIT and has the same piercing. She said she got it cause it was cheaper and less permanent that a tattoo.

Who Dares Wins

[Tasadin 0]

She may have had her tongue pierced and you may not be happy with it but look at it this way... she obviously feels very comfortable communicating and being honest with her father and thats priceless m8 so enjoy.

I aint got kids but I think I'd be happy to have this situation
LOL P.S. which college is she at

"If everything seems under control, you're just not going fast enough."

[billvon 3,063]

I get a kick out of kids who "rebel" against their parents and become non-conformists . . . who do so by conforming to the latest trend.

I think it's a cycle as old as humanity. Kids rebel and want to be different. If your parents were conservative, look for kids with wild hair and piercings. If your parents had purple hair and set off metal detectors, look for a yuppie kid.

[jerm 0]

what's her #?

Seriously though, was she presenting it in a way that seemed like she was trying to get your goat? If so then it sounds like rebellion, if not, sounds like she thinks her dad is pretty cool and wanted to share this with him.... treasure that..

my sister hid yer tongue ring and tattoos from her dad for years.... take solace in knowing that you have a good enough relationship with your daughter that she was able to come to you with this... even if she's being rebellious

what college is that, again?

Landing without injury is not necessarily evidence that you didn't fuck up... it just means you got away with it this time

[leroydb 0]

the next question is what else does she have peirced? i am young enough for her..... do you have a pic... she sounds cute does she skydive?

Leroy


..I knew I was an unwanted baby when I saw my bath toys were a toaster and a radio...

[wildblue 7]

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My tongue is pierced, and I am a well-brought-up, upstanding young citizen. In fact, I credit the excellent rearing my parents provided with giving me the confidence and independence to punch a steel bar through my tongue all those years ago.

OMG! Thanks! I needed a good laugh today! I about fell out of my chair with that one! Did you actually type that with a straight face?!

it's like incest - you're substituting convenience for quality

[steve1 5]

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Steve I have been lead to believe that women who pierce their toungues, do so because they are waiting for mairage before having sex. Yes yes it is very common. In fact it also indicates a womans desire to work hard, study hard, never drink, stay healthy, have children, marry good men their father approves of, etc, etc... So in all reality you should be quite happy your daughter pierced her tongue!! Yeah dude I fully read this in a magazine somewhere. So relax!?

I feel much better now!.....Steve1

[Pammi 0]

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If your parents were conservative, look for kids with wild hair and piercings. If your parents had purple hair and set off metal detectors, look for a yuppie kid.

Oh gawd, I'd be more likely to freak out if my kids came home yuppies then pierced!

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[skyediver 0]

Hi Steve,

I'm only 16, so I definetly can't help you with the parent persepctive...but I have two tattoos already...and my opinion would be to not worry about it too much. I don't think that piercings and tattoos really define who we are...I've had so many reactions where people have said that I'm the last person they would've expected to have a tattoo..but it hasn't changed me at all..i wasn't doing it to freak out my parents, they each took me to get one...they were supportive and my dad checked out several places before allowing me to go...anyways, just thought I'd give you another teenage view ...Being a female, I can also tell you that there are worse places she could have gotten that piercing :) Hope that helps, haha

- Arran

[SkyDolphin 0]

Didn't you ever do anything when you were young that made your parents say "Where did I go wrong?" Maybe then it was as simple as wearing a KISS t-shirt or drinking beer but each generation has it's "thing". It's no big deal. You didn't fail. If her getting a piercing is the worse thing you have to worry about, I'd say you did ok.

I, for one, can't wait to see what my daughter, who is now 11, comes up with. Then again since her mom and dad are pretty unconventional (I have a tongue piercing and a naval piercing and several tatoos) and so on, the only way she will be able to shock us is to become a book warm. "But, Mom I don't want to go to that party tonight. I'd rather stay home and read!" "Honey, she doesn't like to party" "Where did we go wrong."

OK that's a bit of an exaggeration but you get the point.

R

[Iflyme 0]

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If you were a parent in my shoes, what would you do??? I guess things could have been worse.

Steve, although my daughters are a bit younger than yours (mine are 8 and 10), I believe that you should support their choices in such matters (when they are the age of your daughter) ... she needs to know that you think she can navigate her way thru society and make good choices (as long as she ain't hurting herself or anyone else). I know that one day I will be examining things from the position you are in right now ... I figure that if you make it clear to your kids that you DON'T support their choices, then more rebellion is on the horizon...

Good Luck!

[AirMail 0]

One thing we did with our son as he grew up was to give him choices. Usually 2 of the 3 choices were OK with us and the 3rd was one he didn't want. But he felt he was getting to choose. Sometimes he fooled us and chose the 3rd one anyway.

Patrick

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[wmw999 2,517]

My big raise-a-kid secret was to give him information when he didn't actually need it, as much as possible. That way it wasn't advice when he needed it (and might reject it).

It's surprising how much of the "information" he remembered and used.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[Faber 0]

i dont see you did anything wrong,either did your daugther.
At some point parents has to see the fact that their kids aint kids anymore and will make desisions that parents dont agree whith them..
you just need to see the fact that your kid is about to be a adult...
Not meaning that you have nothing to say,but rember to respect her(i hope its a her while it looks stupid at boys)
good luck

Stay safe
Stefan Faber

[rmsmith 1]

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When she stuck her tongue out...

Body piercing and tattoos cause a "one-year" rift with the Red Cross when you are a blood donor. In addition, it also becomes a permanent mark/scar for the authorities to identify you for the rest of your life should you decide to live on the wrong side of the law.

[Iflyme 0]

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In addition, it also becomes a permanent mark/scar for the authorities to identify you for the rest of your life should you decide to live on the wrong side of the law.

Hmmmm... interesting pespective!