AggieDave 6 #1 April 11, 2003 hehehe...read below. http://www.kansascity.com/mld/kansascity/living/5587415.htm QuoteThese cursed times: Does the degeneration of our language mean society's doomed or, like Coach Roy, we just don't give a By ELLEN TOMSON Knight Ridder Newspapers What the (expletive) is happening to our everyday language? Well, let's see. What are the first words you think of to fill in the blanks? "This thing is a piece of (blank)." "I don't give a (blank)." "That really (blank)." "Why is he so (blank) off at you? Were those words a normal part of conversation when you were growing up? Did your parents say them in front of you? Did your teachers? Did angry drivers shout them to each other? Were they part of normal exchanges at downtown bus stops? On TV shows? And how about college basketball coaches? Did they use the "s-word" in front of national television cameras as Kansas coach Roy Williams did Monday? Probably not. Consider the f-word, widely regarded as the most vulgar of swear words. It's been around for centuries. Yet, 50 years ago you seldom, if ever, heard it. Now, it's common. So, you might argue the f-word is OK, that swear words don't really mean what they used to mean since they are spoken so often and applied to so many things in so many ways. You could say that swear words have lost their impact. Or, you could argue that our language has become downright coarse, offensive and rude. You might then agree with James O'Connor, who maintains our language is a reflection of ourselves, and we are deteriorating. O'Connor founded the Cuss Control Academy in Lake Forest, Ill. "The language we are using gets worse all the time," says O'Connor, who also wrote Cuss Control, a book on the subject. ("Finally, the cure for the common curse!" the jacket says.) "People say, `Well, they are just words.' But it's much deeper than that," O'Connor says. "Too often, the words are hostile, sour sounding, belligerent and threatening. There are a lot of negative thoughts, expressions and attitudes behind the words." O'Connor graduated from a Jesuit Catholic high school about 40 years ago. "I was trained to be a gentleman, to be polite and aware of how others judge you," he says. "The whole thing really boils down to civility." O'Connor offers classes for adults and delivers talks to high school students. He provides tips on how to change your attitude and cut down on swearing. "I think it's certainly gotten worse over time," says Dan Weakley, principal of Raytown Middle School. "Obviously cable and Internet and movies and PlayStation have contributed to some of that. My guess is they've become desensitized and don't see it as a problem." Not so easily offended When Mary Pat Cumming was in high school, "hell" and "damn" were considered bad swear words. Now it's the f-word, says Cumming, acting principal at Stillwater High School in St. Paul, Minn. Recently she conducted her own experiment. "I listened in the hallway for one day and said nothing," she says. "I did it as kind of a study, and the language I heard was really offensive." She then wrote an article for the school newspaper, asking students to become more aware of their swearing and their comments about race, ethnicity and sexual orientation. Many people no longer think about the original meanings of the swear words they use or about their potential to offend others, according to O'Connor. "The f-word still offends people more than most other swear words," he says. Yet, he notes, you hear the word more now and in places you would not expect, such as a fine restaurant. Swearing is one sign of the ways people have become less formal, O'Connor says. Titles such as Mr. and Mrs. aren't used anymore. Even in the corporate world, first names are used and casual Fridays observed. We live in a litigious society, where accidents don't happen and mistakes can't be made. We blame or sue someone. Our attitude: No one is going to take advantage of me; I'm no sucker. "There is this sense of entitlement we have," O'Connor says. "As individuals, we think we are in a free country and so we can do what we want, say what we want. And that's true. But unfortunately, that sense of personal entitlement seems to take precedent over too many things, including civility." End result: People cuss more. They rely habitually on swear words as collective substitutes for many other words, O'Connor says, but that reliance is lazy and shows we are "dumbing down," he says. By any words necessary Jesse Sheidlower, editor of the North American version of the Oxford English Dictionary, disagrees. "Sometimes you can't be specific or don't want to be," he says. "There is nothing wrong with using vague words. If someone says he feels (blank), it's possible the person just doesn't feel very good. If they say lousy or bad, they are not more specific." Sheidlower edited the 288-page book The F-Word (Random House Reference, 1995). A second edition was published in 1999. The book discusses the word's history, explains its numerous variations and provides examples drawn from thousands of sources, including the works of famous authors, Playboy magazine and the Internet. "The book demonstrates the word is extremely common, very broadly used and has been in favor many centuries," Sheidlower says. Oh. And for additional information, you could add other books to your shelf: English as a Second (Blanking) Language by Sterling Johnson; Swearing: A Social History of Foul Language, Oaths and Profanity in English by Geoffrey Hughes; and Cursing in America by Timothy Jay. Context is important in deciding whether language is appropriate or not, says Jay in his book, published in 1992. For example, would the television character Tony Soprano say "darn it" when crossed by one of his Mafia associates, or would he explode yelling something else? "Usually the dirty language is more expressive," says Jay, a professor at Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts in North Adams. "But when the context changes, it might not be valid anymore, for example, to describe your science project to the class or talk to a teacher. "Maybe the swearing replaces physical aggression, and that's healthy," he adds. "We have this knee-jerk reaction to any offensive stuff when we really should be trying to figure out the context, what it really means and where it is coming from." Attitudes about taboo words will keep changing. Religious profanities long regarded as very offensive aren't seen that way any longer. "Hell" and "damn" are examples. Terms once considered "fighting words" if someone directed them toward someone else today seem innocuous. Racial and ethnic words are becoming more powerful. A politician can be heard saying the f-word and survive. But if a politician utters a racial or ethnic slur, it can mean the end of a career. In the 1970s comedian George Carlin delivered a monologue, citing seven words you could never say on network television. The Supreme Court afterward decided federal regulation of certain foul language is allowable. The seven words are now heard regularly on cable television. Includes reporting by The Star's James A. Fussell Tame your tongue You probably swear because it is easy, fun, candid, emphatic, expressive, breaks rules and somehow partly reduces pain and anger, says James O'Connor, founder of the Cuss Control Academy. But the negatives outweigh the positives, he maintains. You don't really win an argument by swearing, he says. You don't prove you are smart or articulate, and you don't win respect and admiration. Instead of motivating others, you are more likely intimidating them. Also, he cautions, swearing doesn't get you hired, promoted or romantically connected. Here are O'Connor's tips for cuss control (further explanation and information is available at www.cusscontrol.com): • Recognize that swearing does damage. • Start by eliminating casual swearing. • Think positively. • Practice patience. • Cope, don't cuss. • Stop complaining. • Seek alternative words. • Make your point politely. • Think of what you should have said instead. • Work at it. --"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jose 0 #2 April 11, 2003 Here are Jose's tips for cuss enhancement (further explanation and information is available at www.Gofuckyourself.com): • Recognize that swearing relieves stress. No one is listening anyways, so fuck it. • Start by eliminating casual swearing, cuss like a 2-dollar whore. • Think positively and shit will happen. • Practice patience, try relaxing on the toilet while you curl a turd. • Cuss, don't cope. Coping makes you hold all your feelings inside and then you'll go stir-fucking crazy. • Stop complaining. No one give a fucking shit about what you have to say anyways. • Seek alternative words. Instead of "fucker", enhance it with "motherfucking cunt!" • Make your point politely. "Excuse me sir, but would you kindly get the fuck out of my way?" • Think of what you should have said instead, and then remember that you don't give a flying fuck. • Work at it. Cussing isn't as hard as you think fuckstick. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nacmacfeegle 0 #3 April 11, 2003 "Seek alternative words. " Is this ordure for real? Are you pooping me Aggs? -------------------- He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me. Thomas Jefferson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheAnvil 0 #4 April 11, 2003 You should damn well stop that fucking cussing, asswipe! THE ANVILVinny the Anvil Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL JACKASS POWER!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallingILweenie 0 #5 April 11, 2003 Well son of a bitch, it's all so fuckin clear now! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #6 April 11, 2003 QuoteWell son of a bitch, it's all so fuckin clear now! I'm glad it's clear for you. The post was too long so i didn't have the attention span to read it. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #7 April 11, 2003 Swearing (That's cussing to you Aggie) is the crutch of the conversational cripple. Opps. Did I just offend some disabled people?t It's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #8 April 11, 2003 That may be true, however, I do believe you have under estimated this perceived redneck. The article was posted merely as a burlesque. --"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #9 April 11, 2003 A burlesque? I can see us on the path to epistolary intimacy!t It's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RevJim 0 #10 April 11, 2003 QuoteQuoteWell son of a bitch, it's all so fuckin clear now! I'm glad it's clear for you. The post was too long so i didn't have the attention span to read it. I knew there was a reason we got along so well! I made it most of the way through the first article, then scrolled....and scrolled....and scrolled. I finally just said fuck it, I ain't reading this shit anymore. Edit: Damn, must drink Dew before attempting to type in the morning!It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #11 April 11, 2003 Damn, that shit's too fucking long to read. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #12 April 11, 2003 What fucktard posted a mile long thread and expected to get that much attention from skydivers? What an asshat "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #13 April 11, 2003 I seem to hear some assclown whuffo saying something... --"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #14 April 11, 2003 Quote I seem to hear some assclown whuffo saying something... Geenies Greenies!! Personal ATTACK Personal ATTACK!! BAN BAN BAN!! I'm not sayin callin me an assclown is bad it was the "whuffo" part that I take offence too "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #15 April 11, 2003 QuoteI made it most of the wat through the first srticle, then scrolled....and scrolled....and scrolled I scanned it looking for the good parts. But all the good parts were [blank]ed out. WT[blank] is up with that? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DYEVOUT 0 #16 April 11, 2003 QuoteWhat fucktard posted a mile long thread. . . . Fucktard. My new favorite word. ----------------=8^)---------------------- "I think that was the wrong tennis court." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #17 April 11, 2003 IT'S EASY MMMKAY Mr. Mackey, Four Boys, Wendy, Gregory Mr. Mackey: There are times when you get suckered in By drugs and alchohol and sex with women-mmkay But its when you do these things too much That you've become an addict and must get back in touch You can do it Its all up to you-mmkay With a little plan you can change your life today You dont have to spend your life addicted to smack Homeless on the streets giving handjobs for crack Follow my plan and very soon you will say, its easy mmkay Step 1: Instead of ass say buns, like "kiss my buns" or "you're a buns hole" Step 2: Instead of shit say poo, as in "bull poo", "poo head" and this "poo is cold" Step 3: With bitch drop the t cuz bich is latin for generosity Step 4: Dont say fuck any more cuz fuck is the worst word that you can say So just use the word mmkay! Children: We can do it its all up to us-mmkay (mmkay) With a little plan we can change our lives today Mr, Mackey: you can change it today Everyone: We don't have to spend our lives shootin up in the trash Homeless on the streets giving handjobs for cash Follow this plan and very soon you will say Its easy mmkay! Mr. Mackey: Step 1 Children: Instead of ass say buns, like kiss my buns or you're a buns hole Mr. Mackey: Step 2 Children: Instead of shit say poo, as in bull poo, poo head and this poo is cold Mr. Mackey: Step 3 Children: With bitch drop the t cuz bich is latin for generosity Mr. Mackey: Step 4 Children: Dont say fuck any more Everyone: Cuz fuck is the worst word that you can say Children: Fuck is the worst word that you can say We shouldn't say fuck, no we shouldn't say fuck, fuck nooooo!!! Mr. Mackey: Your cured, you can go! Everyone: We don't have to spend our lives shootin up in the trash Homeless on the streets giving handjobs for cash Follow this plan and very soon you will saaay Its easy mmkay! Children: It's easy mmkay! Mr. Mackey: It's easy mmkay! Children: It's easy mmkay! Mr. Mackey: It's easy mmkaaaaaaaayy Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #18 April 11, 2003 Check out this link Aggiedave (or whoever else wants a good laff) Even made it Clicky Or you can listen to it Here "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Merrick 0 #19 April 11, 2003 Quote "The post was too long so i didn't have the attention span to read it. " ROFL - First thing I thought was "DAMN, that's too long to read!" Blues! Merrick Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites