Tasadin 0 #1 April 8, 2003 So since the gf and I split I have pretty much sorted my head out and it appears we could be great mates, but I want to know if anyone has lived in the same house as their ex, did it work and for how long?? "If everything seems under control, you're just not going fast enough." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trigger 0 #2 April 8, 2003 Bad idea,V.bad idea,cutaway,cutaway now.Hope this helps..CHOP WOOD COLLECT WATER. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FliegendeWolf 0 #3 April 8, 2003 Well, last year my ex and I lived together, and we broke up in January (02) but she couldn't leave until March, so we lived together (slept in the same bed, actually) for two months after breaking up. It wasn't awful, but it wasn't wonderful either... I guess that depends on the state of the relationship and the breakup. But I'm guessing that you are planning on rooming with the ex on a semi-permanent basis, which isn't really what I'm talking about...A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jmpnkramer 0 #4 April 8, 2003 Yeah I would have to agree and say VERY BAD IDEA!!!!! It will be strange seeing either of ya'll with other people. I would think that it would be very uncomfortable. Just my thought. LatersThe REAL KRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMER! "HESITATION CAUSES DEATH!!!" "Be Slow to Fall into Friendship; but when Thou Art in, Continue Firm & Constant." - SOCRATES Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymedic 0 #5 April 8, 2003 Stay far far away from that dude.....WAY FAR AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Marc otherwise known as Mr.Fallinwoman.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peppermint 0 #6 April 8, 2003 You need to ask yourself a couple of questions: 1. How will you feel if she brings home another man and you hear some love going on? 2. How will she feel if you bring someone home? If you can answer those and be okay with the other one moving on, I see no harm in it. It may be easy to slip into your old habits, which means it may not be so easy to move on. The flowing wave returns not, nor does the passing hour. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tasadin 0 #7 April 8, 2003 Thanks guys, its been difficult cos the house was joint bought , Ive offered to buy her out and she wont have it. Says we got the place the way we want it together thus if she moves out so do I, but being in the Navy if I move out it means moving back on base... which really does not appeal. She doesnt seem happy about having to move out back to her Dad's either, given she's 28. Peppermint your questions were exactly the ones I was thinking cos the walls aint that thick!! "If everything seems under control, you're just not going fast enough." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #8 April 8, 2003 QuoteSo since the gf and I split I have pretty much sorted my head out and it appears we could be great mates, but I want to know if anyone has lived in the same house as their ex, did it work and for how long?? How bad could it be. I can't think of anything unpleasant about that situation. Of course I like rubbing ground sand across my eyeballs and then pouring rubbing alcohol in them, but that's just me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FliegendeWolf 0 #9 April 8, 2003 QuoteIve offered to buy her out and she wont have it. Says we got the place the way we want it together thus if she moves out so do I This part concerns me a bit. It sounds like some passive-aggressive hostility. Why does she care if you stay in the house? What does the fact that you "got the place the way we want together" have anything to do with anything? If you are no longer together, then there is no reason why she should insist that you either stay together or leave together. This sounds pretty ominous to me...Is she insisting that you two still live together even though you've broken up? Who broke up with whom?A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tasadin 0 #10 April 8, 2003 It was a mutual decision because things were going from bad to worse, and we werent getting on asa couple and we decided together after a muchos long talk to call it quits before things got nasty and one or the other of us did something we might have regretted and fubar the whole situation. As it is atm all the accounts have been split again and the only money in the joint account is whats enough to pay all the bils and utilities and we split that 50/50. "If everything seems under control, you're just not going fast enough." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flypunk 0 #11 April 8, 2003 run dude, run while you can.... ... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BBKid 0 #12 April 8, 2003 Quote run dude, run while you can.... Like he said, run like the wind. Imagine the uncomforatble conversation in the morning when you bump into some guy wearing her robe - ouch! Nick --------------------------- "I've pierced my foot on a spike!!!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jose 0 #13 April 9, 2003 Quote Imagine the uncomforatble conversation in the morning when you bump into some guy wearing her robe - ouch! That she hasn't washed since last time you were wearing it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoShitThereIWas 0 #14 April 9, 2003 Been there, tried that and I have 4 words of advice for you: BAD BAD ALL BADRoy Bacon: "Elvises, light your fires." Sting: "Be yourself no matter what they say." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zeemax 0 #15 April 9, 2003 QuoteBad idea,V.bad idea,cutaway,cutaway now.Hope this helps. dont say cut away around simon... tee hee hee...Phoenix Fly - High performance wingsuits for skydiving and BASE Performance Designs - Simply brilliant canopies Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #16 April 9, 2003 Run, now. Fast. Go on, get out.... It's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bluepill 0 #17 April 9, 2003 Agree - very very bad Idea. Did it myself once, same situation, bought house together then broke up etc and decided to live it out for a while.... It dident work out, worse still, eventually everything she did irritated me more and more, so I went out with her sister In the property market today its probably a good idea to hold on to what you got. Maybe you can use the house as an joint investment and lease/rent it out so it pays for itself? (probably need some contract drawn up) Other than that, move out and move on. You've just started jumping, so moving back to base my not be so bad knowing that you can fly and your friendly sky is always there. Mike Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mujie96 0 #18 April 9, 2003 It worked for about 12 seconds. Just keep swimming...just keep swimming.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,537 #19 April 9, 2003 It's possible. It's also possible to bounce and live. But the odds in each case are against you. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tasadin 0 #20 April 9, 2003 HMMMM well i took everything you all said and considered it carefully, and we talked again today. As it transpires she now admits she cant afford it and wants to go bacck to her dads... go figure!! So I'm now trying to find a way to keep the place on myself so I dont have to move back to base (given its a hole). My family has rallied and is trying to help until I get back to sea again in January and have the real cash to take on the mortgage myself. However, if i find the house is a gold mine then I may sell given the current market prices and just bite the bullet on living onboard.... only thing is I cant bring anyone home there should the opportunity ever arise. Think I might try and buy her out and get a solicitors letter which then says she no longer has a stake in the property although her name is on the mortgage, as |I dont think the bank would let me go alone on the mortgage atm until my pay goes up. hmmm decisions decisions, cos if we sell I then gotta pay storage for my stuff, Ill lose net access cos there isnt any on base in the cabins :(. Urgggggggggh and I have to dress for dinner blahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! OOOOOH dont suppose theres any professional non smoking females want to lodge just outside Glasgow?? (couldnt deal sharing with another bloke would drive me up the wall) "If everything seems under control, you're just not going fast enough." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
