yardhippie 0 #51 March 21, 2003 QuoteMost women are going to get a lot more "opportunities" than men. Easily by a factor of 10. How many she takes advantage of, is her business. Most men would be surprised. Most women only tell men what they can handle. The wilder guys don't ask or care. The quieter guys will ask and be told a sanitized answer. and truthfull we dont want to know. I dated a girl who's numbers exceeded my by a factor of 3(trust me a fair sized number) and while the physical nature of our relationship was... lets say... extracalafragelistic.... her past haunted me and was one of about 3 reasons I left her. My wife doesnt really know how many I have been with, and Im fine with believing Im her only one. The mystery is sometimes the greatest part(my opinion) The rest we leave unsaid cuz it would just get in the way... right?Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rdutch 0 #52 March 21, 2003 Quoteok. I have encountered a few men lately that when talking about how many partners they have had, they think.... and then said 9. NOw, I found out that one of the guys definately had more than that, and I suspect the other one did too. Is 9 the magic number for guys who have had a lot of partners but don't want to seem like they have? Ya know, under ten, but still up there. just wonderin... The only magic # I know of for men is whatever they say subtract 2 inches. Ray Small and fast what every girl dreams of! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chopchop 0 #53 March 21, 2003 9 is as far back as I can remember... plus jtval's gf.. but he says she don't count. So.. 9 sounds reasonable. My God, twenty-odd years of random sex.. er.. I mean meaningful relationships is still alot so you just gotta go with the last 9. Every time I have sex with someone new I forget about someone that used to be my first, keeps me at 9. and at my age... 38, my memory is having a hard time with 9 weeks much less 9 uh...relationships so.. I guess I gotta pick up the pace or it's gonna start going down.... hmmm... going down... now that's a whole nother number... Anyone interested in a fairly inexperienced 38 yo freeflier looking to keep his 9? chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lewmonst 0 #54 March 21, 2003 Quote Yea, we're still around ... I'm single that's awesome. I just so appreciate honesty, from everyone about everything. I have an honest guy. Everyone has a history of somesort... As long as you're honest about it you can build from there. if people just want to play the game, then they lie... hopefully the person that is being lied to doesn't put themselves at risk, physical or emotional, before they know the person well enough. but do know, there are those of us out there who appreciate honesty. peacehttp://www.exitshot.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #55 March 21, 2003 Quote or it's gonna start going down.... hmmm... going down... now that's a whole nother number... please don't tell me there are people that would be concerned with that number... can you imagine how that number would be figured out?~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. MaryRose Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #56 March 21, 2003 on no.... that number is figurable... for those that are skilled craftsmen of such a practice Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #57 March 21, 2003 I am so with lew on this one. Honesty is key. I, unfortunately, happened to fall for someone who turned out to be nothing he said or acted like he was. So, now, I expect nothing less than the truth. There are girls that appreciate it!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. MaryRose Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #58 March 21, 2003 QuoteI am so with lew on this one. Honesty is key. I, unfortunately, happened to fall for someone who turned out to be nothing he said or acted like he was. So, now, I expect nothing less than the truth. There are girls that appreciate it! the truth is a wild hairy animal... you must be careful when you let it out. I have been together with my wife for 8 years on and off (only married for one) and a fair number of our fights were where one of us said: "no really tell me". I belive that there is the truth and a thing really close enough to call truth that doesnt hurt as much.Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #59 March 21, 2003 yeah, but truth will usually come out anyway, so why not just buck up and be honest? I think a lot of times lies are told not to make it easier for the person on the receiving end, but for the person telling it.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. MaryRose Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #60 March 21, 2003 Quote 9 is as far back as I can remember... plus jtval's gf.. but he says she don't count. So. reply] LOL apparently she's been busy! My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slim 0 #61 March 21, 2003 is a simple equasion. (X * 4) / (y * 2) + 3 = n x= your true number y= how many more you want in four months n= the number usually nine ie x=12 y=4 there for, n=9 pretty easy! >>> A good friend will bail you outta jail... A true friend will be sitting next to you saying "That was fucking awesome!!!' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #62 March 21, 2003 LOL so thats how it works? oh My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #63 March 21, 2003 I dont buy into that. Because the complete and uninhibited truth is many times more painful that just certain parts. You have to pick your words carfully. The worst is Woman: "Do I look fat in these pants"? What if she does? The truth could be painful for both... but a careful dance around it may allow both to be happy? Im rambling now, damn.Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lewmonst 0 #64 March 21, 2003 nope, still be honest. but you can be nice and say something like, "i think you look better in the other ones" or "those don't fit you right" or "maybe you should get your big butt back in the gym and workout more" hee hee hee no seriously, if she can't take the truth, then she shouldn't ask. if it's all one big fake relationship with fake people, sure, then continue the lies... but it's bound to deteriorate at some point... peacehttp://www.exitshot.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #65 March 21, 2003 Quotenope, still be honest. I completely agree! If I'm starting to look fat and out of shape, I love it when my friends just flat out tell me. I don't think I look much different whenever I look into a mirror, but when other people have noticed that I had gotten fat, it was a good realization for me that I was eating like absolute crap and watching way too much tv. People only help each other if they're honest!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #66 March 21, 2003 friends yes.. but significant other? I have a very good relationship with my wife and sometimes tell her things that are well, difficult to hear. Im backing myself into a corner here, so Im gonna stop. Truthfullness if a key player in a healthy relationship, and trust. We have some key words that we have determined to have great significance if used during a conversaion. It all has to do with the different levels of seriousness that arise in out communication.Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #67 March 21, 2003 I am still gonna have to go with val and lew on this one. honesty is best. If she doesn't want to know the answer to the question, she shouldn't have asked. There are nice ways to say it. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. MaryRose Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #68 March 21, 2003 Quote There are nice ways to say it. Yes, I think the nicest way to tell me I've gotten too fat is, "Wow, you look huge!" Brutal honesty is my friend There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #69 March 21, 2003 Quote I am still gonna have to go with val and lew on this one. honesty is best. If she doesn't want to know the answer to the question, she shouldn't have asked. There are nice ways to say it. The nicest way is "none of your business". I find that both sexes are capable of lying or telling the truth, no gender bias there. Definitely a two-way street. However, women would be more prone to modify the truth because of the impact of their answer, true? The general tone of the thread is that women wouldn't respond with "120 or so" because of some theory that says "nice women don't...". Almost all women and all men like sex. Do the math. A women who is single for 3 years and has sex with a different guy every 3 weeks... 50 guys. What 25 yo woman will tell a guy 50 ? Afraid of the impact. What will he think? Personally, I don't think I've ever asked such a stupid question. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bmcd308 0 #70 March 21, 2003 Sweet! I'm the 69th post in the magic sex number thread! ---------------------------------- www.jumpelvis.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
akaGQ 0 #71 March 21, 2003 hmmm I dont know....I think one or two or maybe a few more than that - GQ ... it was the love of the air and sky and flying, the lure of adventure, the appreciation of beauty ... -Charles Lindberg Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slim 0 #72 March 21, 2003 I usually tell women one of the following a.) 9 or b.) enough to make sure you won't walk away unsatisfied! practice makes perfect! <<<>>> A good friend will bail you outta jail... A true friend will be sitting next to you saying "That was fucking awesome!!!' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
akaGQ 0 #73 March 22, 2003 I like the second one slim but hey women arent totally honest either....they most likely will tell how many boyfriends they have been with however rarely at least the ones I know will they tell about all the one nighters as well so its not just us...hehe - GQ ... it was the love of the air and sky and flying, the lure of adventure, the appreciation of beauty ... -Charles Lindberg Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lewmonst 0 #74 March 22, 2003 Quote Quote I am still gonna have to go with val and lew on this one. honesty is best. If she doesn't want to know the answer to the question, she shouldn't have asked. There are nice ways to say it. The nicest way is "none of your business". I find that both sexes are capable of lying or telling the truth, no gender bias there. Definitely a two-way street. However, women would be more prone to modify the truth because of the impact of their answer, true? The general tone of the thread is that women wouldn't respond with "120 or so" because of some theory that says "nice women don't...". Almost all women and all men like sex. Do the math. A women who is single for 3 years and has sex with a different guy every 3 weeks... 50 guys. What 25 yo woman will tell a guy 50 ? Afraid of the impact. What will he think? Personally, I don't think I've ever asked such a stupid question. Skyrose was refering to the "fat in these pants" question when she siad there are nice ways to say it.... And i definately agree that both genders can be liars. You should expect from someone else that which you expect from yourself. I don't lie, and i expect honesty. and i grew up and stopped asking the how many question many years ago. i'm sorry but you don't "modify the truth". you either tell the truth or you lie. If you think modified truth is okay, then you fall into my category of liars. It is sad that there is a double standard when it comes to what is perceived as okay for men and women. it comes down to being wise, finding someone your comfortable with, as their history has shaped who they are, but doesn't necesarily define whether or not they are a good person now. Besides, "How many?" is not the important question you should be asking when thinking about having sex with someone anyway. how about, "got a condom?" or "been tested since your last partner?"... peacehttp://www.exitshot.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #75 March 22, 2003 Im thinking that no matter how I attempt to make my point; I seem to screw it up (no surpise Im a man) but... I am not condoning lying... only that there are degrees of truth. If you answer "none of your business" that makes it sound like you may (or not) have somthing to hide. Why would one hide something if they were in a meaningful relationship? Im not saying that is how it works everytime, but in a nation where 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce. There is brutal truth and truth that can be handled by both involved. Life is a game(IMHO), to be lived to it fullest. The outcome is uncertain, but damnit Im goin' for the gold. (ok enough of that).Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
