shouldispy 0 #1 February 20, 2003 Well, here is my dilemma... I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and I love her very much and so far have had every reason to trust her... Having said that I don't know if I am so sure now...a few weekends ago while I was at the dropzone an old friend of her's called and said that he would like to get together with her while he was in town the next few weeks...apparently they talked for a while and her cell phone battery went dead and continued the conversation by email I am naturally a pretty jealous person and try my hardest to contain my jealousy...the other day my email was not working so I logged in on hers (we both use the same server) well hers worked and I saw an email from the guy that basically said that there would have to be no strings attached and that they should meet. I have been that guy and I know what he is trying to do... I confronted her with that information and she immediatly expressed her guilt from not telling me about the call and emails. I played it off like I did not care if they met but now I am not so sure. she emailed him a reply last night that maybe they can meet while he is here. This could possibly be explained because she said that she does not like to hurt people. My question is this...given that she emailed him back last night, should I confront her and tell her that I would prefer it if she didn't see/talk to him. Should I totally trust her and ignore my jealousy? Or should I put a keystroke log on MY computer and not say anything? Thank you in advance for reading this (if you did) and I appreciate any responses. I normally post here under a different name...pretty obvious, but I just wanted to say that. So do I Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #2 February 20, 2003 Sounds like another Ex trying to see if her hubby is spying on her... Who are you? Where are you from? Be honest!! Remember we can trace your IP... Rhino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aufreefly 0 #3 February 20, 2003 alabama...aufreefly...I don't think that she checks here but I thought I would be safe...oh well Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slim 0 #5 February 20, 2003 give her the boot, you don't need the drama!!!! make a weekend outta it boot and chute! hey, that was pretty good! <<<>>> A good friend will bail you outta jail... A true friend will be sitting next to you saying "That was fucking awesome!!!' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivaSkyChick 0 #6 February 20, 2003 My two cents: ABSOLUTELY NO KEY STROKE RECORDER. horrible. If you have a great relationship, why can't you go along and meet the guy too? If she's totally against it, then tell her you're uncomfortable with it and she's going to have to make a decision with that in mind. See what happens from there. M --- www.facebook.com/mandyhamptonfitch Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aufreefly 0 #7 February 20, 2003 In fact I know that she would'nt check on me...she trusts me and I trust her. But sometimes we all need confirmation. Maybe I'm being a hypocrite since there are people at the dz that I see every weekend that I used to be involved with...but I KNOW that I am not doing anything wrong. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #8 February 20, 2003 I would be worried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slim 0 #9 February 20, 2003 Quote Pee in her butt tonight! now that would solve all the worlds problems. president bush should pee in sadam's butt!!!! >>> A good friend will bail you outta jail... A true friend will be sitting next to you saying "That was fucking awesome!!!' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #10 February 20, 2003 Mike Hunt? As in "Table for Mike Hunt" (listen to the phoenetics) We used to attract cleverer trolls. Where's Shrek when you need him? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #11 February 20, 2003 Mike Hunt has been posting for a while, that's his real name. We actually had a thread about it a while back.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #12 February 20, 2003 You need peace of mind.. My wife meeting with a guy would cause a nuclear explosion.. Hell no.. You have to cover your own ass my friend.. Watch what people do not what they say. If you have to watch her for a short period of time so be it. Just make sure it isn't because you are feeling guilty from something you did or because you have control issues. If you are simply looking for confirmation in your trust for her it's something you have to do. It will spiral downward if you don't KNOW you can trust her. My 2c... Rhino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rgoper 0 #13 February 20, 2003 Quote I am naturally a pretty jealous person first, this is wasted emotion, which equates into wasted energy also equating into wasted time. if anything is going on that you CANNOT deal with tow words will fix it: "Cha-Chink" that's the reason we have a reserve! i wouldn't waste my time investigating, etc...etc...in the end, it is what it is. time for a reserve re-pack? best of luck.--Richard-- "We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aufreefly 0 #14 February 20, 2003 I know that this post sorta makes me look a little psycho...but I am a realist and if she would like to go I would like to know as soon as possible. Life is too short. Given her previous "I didn't want to hurt him" comment I am afraid that she does love me...but maybe not enough to love me forever. I know realationships are work but I know too many divorced people and I don't want to commit a good portion of my life to someone that doesn't really want to be with me over any other. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #15 February 20, 2003 OK, AggieD vouches for you. People don't change. They can, but in general they don't. Marriage is a house you gotta live in forever. There's a difference between one that you can tolerate and one that you really enjoy. And you can't move on once you have more options. That's what divorce it. So find a woman who you like a lot, and love, who you'll like a lot and love the day you die. Buena suerte JP Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rgoper 0 #16 February 20, 2003 QuoteLife is too short. exactly! so don't waste one day of it being unhappy. QuoteGiven her previous "I didn't want to hurt him" comment I am afraid that she does love me...but maybe not enough to love me forever. this "canopy" isn't flying right: "Cha-Chink" get on with your life my brother. life is too short, every day should be as good as it can be. i've been where you are, now i'm just an old man, but i can offer you experienced advice. good luck.--Richard-- "We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bmcd308 0 #17 February 20, 2003 I dated a girl for a very long time. We did not get married for bullsh!t reasons that always seemed important then, but we lived together for four years. I trusted her completely. She screwed me over. I do not think you are crazy at all for wanting to do the "verify" portion of "trust and verify." Some people are very good at hiding their real agenda, no matter how well you think you know them. Brent ---------------------------------- www.jumpelvis.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #18 February 20, 2003 You can always suffocate her with a pillow tonight! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
judyindeskys 0 #19 February 20, 2003 If you are sure that she loves you, then why don't you trust her? Judy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivaSkyChick 0 #20 February 20, 2003 For christs sake! Do you cut away from a canopy just cuz you got a few line twists? You aren't even spinning! Talk to her and tell her how uncomfortable it makes you for her to see him alone. Explain that this is seriously bugging you, that you are sorry you feel this way but it's just how you feel. THEN determine what to do after you get her response. Not wanting to hurt him is valid, not wanting to hurt YOU is MORE valid. Take a deep breath and go speak to her. --- www.facebook.com/mandyhamptonfitch Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #21 February 20, 2003 QuoteIn fact I know that she wouldn't check on me...she trusts me and I trust her. If you trusted her, you wouldn't have checked her email and read it. I do agree, however, that if it makes you uncomfortable for her to meet him, let her know and see if you can go with her. You may find that there is nothing to worry about.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slim 0 #23 February 20, 2003 Quote You can always suffocate her with a pillow tonight! I second that. If there is a question in your mind and it bothers you to the extent that you feel that you might have to "spy" on her. its not worth the effort. >>> A good friend will bail you outta jail... A true friend will be sitting next to you saying "That was fucking awesome!!!' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #24 February 20, 2003 I would be crazy pissed if I had a boyfriend who read my private e-mail and became a jealous freak over my meeting an old friend. She had a life before you, you know. Just because she wants to talk over old times without a bored third party (you) looking at his watch and clearing his throat doesn't mean she wants to fuck this guy.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #25 February 20, 2003 Quote Just because she wants to talk over old times without a bored third party (you) looking at his watch and clearing his throat doesn't mean she wants to fuck this guy. Yeah. She might just want to 69 him! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
