jceman 1 #26 December 21, 2002 It can be done with a great deal of success; but if it is as one-sided as it seems in the original post, it will never work. A number of dz.commers know that Lynn and I celebrated our 23rd anniversary by getting a divorce. I won't go into details, but it was needed to take care of some underlying problems inour relationship. We remained friends and kept talking and finally were able to reestablish a basis for repairing those underlying problems. We did so, started dating again, and got remarried to celebrate our 24th; that was over 10 years ago. It can work, but I know we are the exception. Unless there is mutual desire to reestablish the relationship and the problems are truly addressed, one would ususally be better advised to try to teach an elephant to play Beethoven on an ocarina than to try to revive a dead relationship. Faster horses, younger women, older whiskey, more money. Why do they call it "Tourist Season" if we can't shoot them? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IMGR2 0 #27 December 25, 2002 I have to agree with the majority here. It takes two. I have been broke up with my girlfriend for three months and it has been miserable. Don't get me wrong I screwed up, I just don't agree with the spoiled milk philosophy, I'm more of a "Don't know what you have till it's gone" I was the one that messed up and I'm here to tell you I would no doubt change my stripes to have her back. Again, it takes two and she has moved on with her life, so its not looking too good for me.WannabeOnyxPilot Bryan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #28 December 25, 2002 Quote Quote But i am a hopeless romantic so a hopelessly romantic virgin...you are a dying breed...careful who you say that to, they may try to kidnap you and do experiments on you like in the movie ET *nervously looks over shoulder* You won't tell anyone will you Kate?I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #29 December 26, 2002 QuoteI was the one that messed up and I'm here to tell you I would no doubt change my stripes to have her back. Again, it takes two and she has moved on with her life, so its not looking too good for me. 'Bout the best we can do is learn from our mistakes & try not to repeat them. And I know it's cliche, but sometimes we think we just screwed our lives up and then something happens later that makes us grateful for the screwup. Doors may open that would otherwise have been shut, you may meet someone who is a really good match... even if the first one was pretty good as well. I'm not a huge believer in fate, but things seem to sort themselves out over time. That said, I'm still dealing with my own "issues". I still kick myself for some of the things I did (or didn't do). And I don't know about other situations, but if my ex came back my response would be abso-f#$%ing-lutely not. I don't think there's anything she could do to get my trust back. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quatorze 1 #30 December 26, 2002 nope, if there was ever a reason to get back,there never would have been an "ex" in the equation. Just my .02 from experience I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #31 December 26, 2002 Quotenope, if there was ever a reason to get back,there never would have been an "ex" in the equation. Just my .02 from experience Ditto...altho I'd love to get back with a certain lady, once things go bad, they seldom are ever right again. FFF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
