Daizey 0 #1 December 19, 2002 I'm so sad. Most people are happy to be going home for winter break form school. But with every bag I pack and every friend I say gooodbye to I get even more sad. I really like it here and I am gonna miss it when I am gone....even if it is only for just over a month.... I have heard that going back home is extremely difficult since everyone is used to the freedom that they have at college and going back to living under your parents rules is difficult. Just curious if any of you think this is true. And if so, please share your going experience! *daizey* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #2 December 19, 2002 Yes I understand, that freedom is sort of lost, but it's just for a month, I've been on my own since I was 18, but when you go visit Mom & Dad and stay for even a weekend, looks like you never left home, parents and their rules are forever, you gotta love them __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #3 December 19, 2002 Been there, done that. A long time ago. Now I'm the parent... Remember your parents want to see you just as much as you want to see your friends. The time you volunteer to give them is the easiest time for you, and will seem like meeting them halfway. If you come home and treat it like a hotel, well, they're going to be unhappy. Yes, it's your life. But parents kinda like their kids, and they like to see what kind of adult their kids are turning into. For many years, you have been, to some extent, their life. Yes, they have to make their own. But it's not always easy. All these things go out the window, of course, if your parents really are controlling and overbearing. And if you really can't handle it, well, you can always put yourself through school and visit on your schedule instead of theirs. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freakous 0 #4 December 19, 2002 You just have to train your parent's to learn to live with your rules. It's take some time, but after awhile there just happy your there! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #5 December 19, 2002 BELIEVE ME IT IS TRUE. but youve been going home alot Im not sure youre totally USED to it! My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daizey 0 #6 December 19, 2002 Oh i don't plan on treating it like a hotel. I wanna see my parents too. They are definitely not the controlling overbearing type. My parents are totally cool (just ask JT, he'll tell ya its true ) and I am pretty excited to go see them. I just wonder if its gonna be like high school again, early curfews, not allowed to leave unless my room is clean I am sure once I get back its gonna seem as if I never left....I will still get into trouble for the stupid things i do, i will still fight with my brothers, heheh all the good stuff! I tell y a one thing-I am looking forward to some home cooked meals! *daizey* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #7 December 19, 2002 her parents are totally cool my fav aunt and uncle! My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #8 December 19, 2002 you forget: money food laundry money "The real World is horrible go back with your parents!"-Rodney Dangerfield._______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daizey 0 #9 December 19, 2002 Actually, I haven't been home in a LONG time-not since swimming really started-between meets and all, i haven't had the time-i didn't even get to go visit grandpa and Lucy, JT! Practciing 4-6 hrs/day plus class....no time to go home-oh wait, i made it back for thanksgiving-but that was really the only time i have been home..... *daizey* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #10 December 19, 2002 Quote I just wonder if its gonna be like high school again, early curfews, not allowed to leave unless my room is clean At the risk of sounding like an old fogey... As far as curfews go, I think probably the best thing to do is to tell your parents where you are going and what time you think you will be home, and then ask them if they would like you to call if you're going to be late. That way they know that you are being considerate of their feelings and are trying to be responsible. They're your parents, they are never going to stop being concerned for your welfare so it's better to put them at ease up front. As far as cleaning the room goes, c'mon, you're an adult, college girl now and technically even though you may be staying in your old room, you are a guest in their house now and should treat it accordingly. There is no excuse for you to leave the house with the bedroom or the bathroom being a mess anymore. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #11 December 19, 2002 Quote I just wonder if its gonna be like high school again, early curfews, not allowed to leave unless my room is clean If you can, talk to them up front about it. Not defensively, just matter-of-factly. It's good practice for the future, too -- problems are almost always best met head-on instead of worried about. Take it from someone with years of experience worrying Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #12 December 19, 2002 oh I thought you were there just recently! trust me though it gets harder to go back there! I've been around the world 2ce and I can barely stand it when I'm Home. I get fidgity(SP) I wanna go do things and I gotta wiat for everyone to get thier ass in gear....so I leave w/o them. I wonder why I go back sometimes! oh thats right I am not going back for awhile! My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daizey 0 #13 December 19, 2002 I always call, even if I am not gonna be late-just to let them know whats going on...I am pretty good like that As for messiness...its gonna be fun when I first get home. Since we are moving into new dorms next semester, we have to bring EVERYHTING home. I am still trying to get everything into my car! and right now I am looking around my room thinking, oh geez, where am I gonna PUT all this stuff! Tomorrows gonna be weird. I will be home and i have to wake up early and go back to high school! hehe, I am going back to talk to the high school studentas about my college experience. Then I am gonna get outta there and I am gonn have to head to work-just like old times! hehe, i kinda miss that *daizey* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airborne31582 0 #14 December 19, 2002 I am in the same boat Daizey, I am 20 years old and when I go home I actually have a curfew. I know my parents mean well but I am used to rolling into bed at 4 or 5 am, I have been home for almost a week and I miss my friends, I can't wait to go back to school, but hang tough, it will all be over soon Chris I thought of the odds of me succeeding, versus the odds I was doing something incredibly stupid, and I went ahead anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jessd 0 #15 December 20, 2002 It probably won't be half as bad as you think. I moved out when I was 19 for about 5 years. I just moved home a few months ago. I get along with my parents really well. They don't ask too many questions about where I'm going when I go out etc... I just let them know if I will not be coming home so that they don't worry. It's actually kind of nice being back home again. I can save money. "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DZBone 0 #16 December 20, 2002 Quote going back to living under your parents rules is difficult. Just curious if any of you think this is true. And if so, please share your going experience! Well, it was weird, and they had forgotten to tell me about the "single sex rule", which apparently the made up just after my mom caught me with my g/f. _________________________________________________ If you hadn't read this, would it have made a sound? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
