misskriss 0 #1 November 16, 2002 I'm pondering.... is it actual physical contact...is it kissing someone else...is it emotionally depending on someone else? What about "cybersex"..is that cheating? Just curious to see what others view as "crossing the line.." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fasterfaller 0 #2 November 16, 2002 It's only cheating if you get caught Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lagerhead 0 #3 November 16, 2002 Cheating, isn't that what you do to win. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #4 November 16, 2002 oddly enough, we talked about this 6 months ago. Some rather interesting viewpoints... http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?post=160615#160615I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #5 November 16, 2002 6 months ago......I don't think I was on dz.com 6 months ago..sorry to rehash.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #6 November 16, 2002 Quote 6 months ago......I don't think I was on dz.com 6 months ago..sorry to rehash.. miss: you can "cheat" on me whenever you feel like! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyboyblue 0 #7 November 16, 2002 it all depends on the zip code. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lagerhead 0 #8 November 16, 2002 Quote It's only cheating if you get caught I have to agree, and it never happened if it isn't on video. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #9 November 16, 2002 That thread 6 months ago was pretty long. I can't beleive i didn't post to it. Proof that i am not a post whore. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
outofit 0 #10 November 16, 2002 i agree with u. it is only cheating if u get caught! It is better to be dead and cool than alive and uncool! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #11 November 16, 2002 LOL.. almost everything nowadays is a rehash of something or other.... I brought it up because it was an interesting thread, not cause it's been done alreadyI promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quatorze 1 #12 November 16, 2002 Quote it all depends on the zip code. Yeah and if you let the neighbor's dog lick the peanut butter off of your balls, its not really cheating, since its like not your dog I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lagerhead 0 #13 November 16, 2002 that's fine as long as you don't force the dog to do it, any other way is just plain sick. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #14 November 16, 2002 So, if your SO were talking to members of the opposite sex online..and when I say talking.. I mean.."talking..." would that bother you? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest #15 November 16, 2002 QuoteSo, if your SO were talking to members of the opposite sex online..and when I say talking.. I mean.."talking..." would that bother you? I think it would depend upon the nature of the conversation. If it was casual chatting about the weather or skydiving, that wouldn't be a concern. If it was cyber-flirting or cyber you-know-what, that's another matter. If one is concerned, one should get one's SO *directly* involved; make them aware of the conversation. Trouble is, it's easy to be anonymous online, and easy to get dragged into a "relationship" online that doesn't really exist. It's like smoking really. You can enjoy it immensely, but it will take its toll, and in the end, it's better not to have started in the first place. That old remark, "You looked a lot better in the chat room" really isn't very funny when you look at it closely. Be careful. mh"The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #16 November 16, 2002 Hi, Misskriss... Quote So, if your SO were talking to members of the opposite sex online..and when I say talking.. I mean.."talking..." would that bother you? I have two questions here.... 1. What would you do if you found your husband (I hate the term S/O) doing exactly the same thing as you..."talking"...? Would you be fine with it? Would it hurt you? Would it be a violation of your trust inhim? I have often found that imagining swapping places and the results really clarifies what the truth is for me. 2. Do you want others' opinions, or are you just putting this out for general discussion? I asked #2 because if it is for general discussion, I'll give my opinion freely and without reservation...but if it is not rhetorical, then I am not sure I am in a genuine position to do so, because everyone's relationships are different, with different boundaries, expectations, needs, joys and problems. (Edited to be totally honest here, as well...I am not sure my opinion would be impartial, because my ex had an affair, which started on-line...) Whichever, I hope you find the info you're looking for.... Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quatorze 1 #17 November 16, 2002 Wow, no oneliner's here. What is cheating? I read an article on the different views of this based on gender. It seems that if the offer from Indecent Proposal were placed to a married couple, the answers would be very diffferent. The male would mostly not agree to having his wife rented out while the female would be more likely to agree to loan the male to another woman. Why? The article went on to describe that due to evolution, men see sex as the binding force of relationships, couple that with the desire to spread their lineage. While women seem to feel that emotional and physical well bieng of herself and her offspring are the big parts. Proof can be found in how many polygamist ( one husband and numerous wives) societies are around and have been versus the extremely low number of molygamist (sp?) (one wife, numerous husbands) socieities that have ever existed. The P societies seem to do better since the women feel that as long as their feelings and their children are taken care of there is no huge deal with the hubby's physical indiscretions, but the M societies have never really taken off due to the males in it seeing any form of physical emotion shared between the wife and her other husbands as an afront to their alpha male desires, and leads to rather violent reprocussions. So what is cheating, to a man, holding mands with someone else. To a woman, giving your emotions via online or mail to someone. Just a thought, but what do I know, Me cheat on Amy, Me wind up in pool of my own blood I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #18 November 16, 2002 Just curious actually... i've had this discussion many times with others and get all kinds of answers. Quote 1. What would you do if you found your husband (I hate the term S/O) doing exactly the same thing as you..."talking"...? Would you be fine with it? Would it hurt you? Would it be a violation of your trust inhim? I have often found that imagining swapping places and the results really clarifies what the truth is for me. and this isn't necessarily about meeeee... general discussion.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #19 November 16, 2002 not so much "cheating" but "deceiving"...I personally wouldn't do anything to anyone else that I would not want done to me. Personally, it would hurt me if my husband was chatting online that way to other women, for one it may be giving the other woman the wrong impression about his intentions, and two, it is not being very respectful to the relationship that we have...I dunno...I can be friendly-flirtatious while single but if I am even just simply dating someone I stop...just wouldn't want it to be done to me. I experienced something like that with (2) ex's of mine...I just don't get it; it makes me hate the friggin internet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #20 November 16, 2002 Honestly we had been discussing this subject with friends at a party and my husband and I had slightly different views on the subject. I told him I'd post so we could see what others views are...just an interesting topic, I think Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
suz 0 #21 November 16, 2002 ***Yeah and if you let the neighbor's dog lick the peanut butter off of your balls, its not really cheating, since its like not your dog*** That's funny!!! hee hee heeI've been cheated on by an absolute prick. I am definately not over it, and I now find it hard to trust anyone...so I have really strong views when it comes to cheating. Don't bother me, I'm living happily ever after Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #22 November 16, 2002 Is oral sex? Runs and hides from Valerina Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freebird 0 #23 November 16, 2002 The internet is the internet. If you actually meet up with someone and go out on a date it is cheating. Its ok to flirt if your alone but not in front of your mate( no touching in certain places) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freebird 0 #24 November 16, 2002 btw I would very upset if my hubby did Cyber sex Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FliegendeWolf 0 #25 November 16, 2002 I think that what constitutes cheating is a very relationship-specific thing. Every couple sets their own parameters for acceptable and unacceptable behavior (either explicitly or implicitly). Therefore, if a couple (and such couples do exist) has no problem with one partner kissing other people, then that would not constitute cheating. If a couple decides that even a neckrub is considered cheating, then it is.A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
