cbain 0 #1 October 31, 2002 Out of curosity, what do you guys think happens more often, either in long distance relationships, or when one partner is gone for an extended amount of time, for whatever reason? Christina Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #2 October 31, 2002 hmmm...never tried it...personally, I don't think it would work for me...I like to snuggle too much!edited to say...if it wasn't too far away, maybe a once a weekend thing...wouldn't be too bad...??? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,998 #3 October 31, 2002 Well, Amy and I have been together for seven years now, and have only been in the same state for 3 of those years. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #4 October 31, 2002 Quote Well, Amy and I have been together for seven years now, and have only been in the same state for 3 of those years. Is it getting tough for her to find new places now? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #5 October 31, 2002 Quote Is it getting tough for her to find new places now? Heheheheheheee.....that Billvon must be like a blood hound. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,998 #6 October 31, 2002 >Is it getting tough for her to find new places now? No, I'm just getting to be a better stalker . . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #7 October 31, 2002 I find long distance relationships to be a very good thing. Remember...it's not REALLY considered cheating if you are in differen't zip codes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #8 October 31, 2002 Quote I find long distance relationships to be a very good thing. Remember...it's not REALLY considered cheating if you are in differen't zip codes. So that's why Stacy wanted to come visit you? If she's just sleeping with you, should I consider that cheating? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #9 October 31, 2002 Quote If she's just sleeping with you, should I consider that cheating? Nahhh...she only slept NEAR me.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rgoper 0 #10 October 31, 2002 Quotewhat do you guys think happens more often, either in long distance relationships, or when one partner is gone for an extended amount of time, for whatever reason? i can relate my personal experiences with you, but i have no speculation. my work takes me all around the globe, as most of you know by now. the longest i've been away from home without seeing my wife, children, house, etc...180 days. i'd say "abscence makes the heart grow fonder" but, again, my work also caused a divorce in 1986, i was, and had been working offshore a very long time, and my ex knew what i did before we married, but after about 5 years...here comes the ultimatum.."quit your job, or i'll leave" i actually thought she was just being hateful, but sure enough, i came home from fourchon city in louisiana one night at 02:30 hours, and the house looked as if it had just been built, because there wasn't anything in it, everything was gone but my clothes, and she threw gasoline on them, but oddly enough didn't ignite them. --Richard-- "We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallinWoman 1 #11 October 31, 2002 Interesting question....I have done the long distance thing with two different guys...(not at the same time!) First time around the distance led to us breaking up. This time around, I go crazy everytime I have to leave Marc or he has to leave me...I hate being away from him...but I don't think that the absence is making me any fonder of him. So I voted for they are both BS...I am a firm believer in things happen for a reason. If Mr. Long Distance #1 hadn't broken up with me, I would never have learned to stand on my own two feet. I would never have discovered my own strength. I would never had the balls to jump out of an airplane. I now know that there is nothing that I can't do! Anne ~Anne I'm a Doll!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #12 November 1, 2002 I have a girlfriend (hi Jessica!!!) in Texas... the distance thing is a killer but its making us stronger together for the 1300 miles between us. We only get to spend a weekend together every 4-6 weeks (plus a week at WFFC), but I miss her like crazy in between. All she wants to do is kill my best friends at the DZ when she visits, but I'll forgiver her on that one...Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #13 November 1, 2002 I think the success of long-distance relationships depends entirely on the people involved. I've never met anyone besides Phree for whom I'd put up with a cross-country distance. But I'd rather have him thousands of miles away than anyone else close by. Even if he does have lousy taste in friends. I think another key is a plan to shorten the distance, at least eventually. No one could do this forever. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverchick 0 #14 November 1, 2002 QuoteAll she wants to do is kill my best friends at the DZ when she visits, but I'll forgiver her on that one... Jess do you really want to kill us...We love you and Seth is, well Seth is Seth what more can I say Mother Hen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #15 November 1, 2002 Plus Cross country romances are a good way to build up frequent flyer miles. Another 10000 and its a free first class upgrade for me Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #16 November 1, 2002 Long distance? POOH! I did that.... it sucked. Ended up ruining the relationship I had with the man I planned to marry. I was transferred to Michigan for my job and he had to stay in Massachusetts for at least six months. We saw eachother probably every 4 to 6 weeks. I would die inside every time he left. SOOOOOOOOO... he tells me to go get a hobbie and make some friends and he'd be out soon. Well... there I was.... skydiving.... with all my friends telling me everynight... red, silver. He moved out to be with me and two weeks later we broke up. He couldn't stand me being at the dropzone 24/7 and only talking about skydiving. Guess it was a good thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #17 November 1, 2002 QuoteJess do you really want to kill us...We love you and Seth is, well Seth is Seth what more can I say Not you, just Seth. He is an unspeakable abomination and mockery of humanity.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #18 November 1, 2002 My ex gf told me the day after christmas 2 years ago (she was a freshman and I was a soph in high school) that she couldn't handle the long distance thing (400 miles). Now she's single again and is practically beggin me to visit "OH" FACE Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jceman 1 #19 November 1, 2002 Can only speak for myself, of course, but from Feb '93 to May '95 my job had me in Detroit, then Temple TX then Jacksonville, Fl while Lynn was still in Montgomery, AL. Part of the deal was one long weekend amonth, our choice of location, with airfare provided. We had a blast; yes, we missed each other, but we kept busy, talked daily and really enjoyed each other when we were together. You can read anything you want into that last statement, you'll be right.Both kind of hated to see it end when Lynn moved down her to JAX. Yes, we'd do it again, in a heartbeat! Of course I think it helped that we had avery strong foundation beforehand and trust each other completely. Faster horses, younger women, older whiskey, more money. Why do they call it "Tourist Season" if we can't shoot them? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildblue 7 #20 November 1, 2002 Quote Not you, just Seth. He is an unspeakable abomination and mockery of humanity. I love you too sweetie! it's like incest - you're substituting convenience for quality Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #21 November 1, 2002 ive got lots of distance, who wants a relationship?____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dove 0 #22 November 1, 2002 I think it can work if you already know each other and then move apart. Otherwise, you only know the "I'm so happy to see you" part of the other person and when and if you move closer you realize you don't really know the other person that well at all. Fall in dove. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #23 November 1, 2002 true i think establishing it initally is the biggest hurdle..since ive been doing this travel thing ive had like 3 semi-serious relationships but they seemed to fade if i was gone for more than 3 weeks or so...i would get statements like "youve been gone for a month and we are supposed to pick up right where we left it?" i always thought "of course what has changed between us since?" but... maybe its just me, but for people that really care about each other what does time or distance matter?____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #24 November 1, 2002 Quote...but for people that really care about each other what does time or distance matter? Thank you! There are no rules for this stuff.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quatorze 1 #25 November 1, 2002 QuoteI think it can work if you already know each other and then move apart let's see,Amy and I were friends for over 4 years before we even started dating and the distance was only three hours or so, but after we had been togehter awhile (2 years) and she agreed to marry me ([bugs bunny voice] what a moron, what a baffoon[/end bugs voive]) we barely saw each other more than once a month, until last September, when we took an extended vacation togther and what did we learn? We can't stand to be away from one another for long. She has since moved a little closer and now I will drive 2+ hours to just sleep in the same bed with her for one night during the week and then every weekend we are togther. We will consolidate homes in December and that is going to be awesome. So does absence make the heart grow fonder? Only if the heart is really involved. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
