Deuce 1 #1 September 26, 2002 OK so there's this show on a couple nights ago, Dr. Phil, and couples are hashing out their malfunctions on national TV. (credit for wrong book edited) The husband is whining that he only has sex once a month or less, and the wife says he's really considerate, good in bed, whatever, but that she's just tired and not in the mood. Dr. Phil drops this bomb. According to somebody's research, 40% of women have little or no sex drive. ! That explains the popular acceptance a couple years ago that "all men cheat". Ladies, if the bed is cold, don't you just expect him to go find one that is warm? This may explain all the guys looking for arguments on the internet... 24 HOURS TO LOAD ONE OF THE BYRON BOOGIE! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Galen 0 #2 September 26, 2002 So it's not me. It's them. I should have known all along. I'm just too handsome - NOT. Respect the Dolphin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #3 September 26, 2002 "Dr. Phil...This is the guy who wrote the Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus books" Nope. John Gray wrote the MMWV crap. Dr. Phil isn't really all that bad. He doesn't take a side. One set of rules of both sexes. He will call anybody on the carpet. He has a good book out. Real stuff, not smarmy crap. John Gray apologizes for being male. He was married to Barbara DiAngelis (the Love Doctor show). He was one of her 5 husbands. Both of them are like televangelists except without that smidgeon of decency. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #4 September 26, 2002 QuoteDr. Phil drops this bomb. According to somebody's research, 40% of women have little or no sex drive. Whew!!!! I must be due then, I was beginning to think it was me ;)I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy 0 #5 September 26, 2002 So glad I'm not in the 40%, not any more. But yeah I do believe that number. Most women don't have any sex drive because they are too freakin tired from doing everything around the house with very little or no help. And they have to live with very little or no affection. Being turned on and ready to go starts with little every displays of affection. Not many men understand that. Umm...ok...I'll stop now. I could get ranting on this one. It just simply is not all the women's fault...nope, no way, no howSassy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #6 September 26, 2002 "are too freakin tired from doing everything " It's that way for both sexes. Mental energy. It is hard to show interest in anything or anyone. People let their responsibilities drag them down. My personal solution. Make time. Draw a boundary to other intrusions. Instead of marriage/relationship counseling, sit down with your old photo albums and figure out what you used to do for fun. Then plan to do those things again. If you don't make the effort, you deserve what you get. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WFFC 1 #7 September 26, 2002 QuoteJohn Gray apologizes for being male. He was married to Barbara DiAngelis (the Love Doctor show). He was one of her 5 husbands. Side note to this, John Gray wrote Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus after his divorce from Barbary DiAngelis. I think one of her books was about how to have a successful marriage...----- ~~~Michael Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TequilaGirl 0 #8 September 26, 2002 It is not always our fault.....I used to come home to a drunk boyfriend most every day - and after working a 16-hour day - the last thing I wanted to do was have sex......not to mention the housekeeper would have shown up that week and you wouldn't even be able to tell........I am done ranting - who is next....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #9 September 26, 2002 QuoteBeing turned on and ready to go starts with little every displays of affection. Not many men understand that. Is it that they don't understand or that they just don't care?! ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TequilaGirl 0 #10 September 26, 2002 I am guessing they just don't care....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jraf 0 #11 September 26, 2002 Sass, you will hate me for this one, but I heard it from my ex. The only problem was that we had both a nanny and a maid! Of course I suppose the other dude never heard it, so now hee's stuck with her (hahaha)jraf Me Jungleman! Me have large Babalui. Muff #3275 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #12 September 26, 2002 It's sorta like a car... when it's cold, you should start it up and let it idle for a little to warm it up BEFORE jumping on the freeway and driving like a bat outta hell. Course in my case, the car battery was usually dead and she'd call the mechanic to come jump start itI promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #13 September 26, 2002 Quotesit down with your old photo albums and figure out what you used to do for fun. In the BK era (before kids), there would be no photos of that I was just surprised that the number was that high. Half? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #14 September 26, 2002 "Barbary DiAngelis. I think one of her books was about how to have a successful marriage... " She should know. After 5 bad marriages, she knows the mistakes. I'd just hate to have taken her advice between marriages 2 and 3. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #15 September 26, 2002 just so long as you all remember that there are 60% of us NOT IN THAT CATEGORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #16 September 26, 2002 "just so long as you all remember that there are 60% of us NOT IN THAT CATEGORY" I have always been a contributor. I'm out there trying to drop that 40% figure. Distributor of big smiles. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #17 September 26, 2002 You want to turn you woman on? I'll tell you what to do. Wash the dishes, do the laundry, vacuum the floor, empty the little trash can in the bathroom...do something, anything, and here's the clincher.....DO IT WITHOUT BEING ASKED! That goes for helping in taking care of the kids too.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #18 September 26, 2002 "You want to turn you woman on? I'll tell you what to do. Wash the dishes, do the laundry, vacuum the floor, empty the little trash can in the bathroom...do something, anything, and here's the clincher.....DO IT WITHOUT BEING ASKED! That goes for helping in taking care of the kids too. " Welllll, I may not want to that bad. I stick to the traditional "buy them beers til I'm good looking" method. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dida 0 #19 September 26, 2002 Quote"just so long as you all remember that there are 60% of us NOT IN THAT CATEGORY" yes! i second this!...where's the percentage of women who want sex more than their man does??? spiral out...keep going... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #20 September 26, 2002 Quoteyes! i second this!...where's the percentage of women who want sex more than their man does??? Yeah! Where's Mrs. Roper and Peg Bundy in the REAL world. Skymama's right though. I could NEVER figure out why my wife gets all huggy when I'm cooking dinner. Ended up with lots of bad meals at the expense of good relations. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #21 September 26, 2002 For some women, there is also a biological element as well. Testosterone, even in women, is partially responsible for the sex drive as well. Women who have abnormally low testosterone levels often complain of having no libido. Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #22 September 26, 2002 Spoken like a true scientist, Speedy! What's love got to do with it, eh? She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites