skygal3 0 #1 September 22, 2002 this has been bugging me and I hope I can get your opinions on the matter...I hate speculation! Here's the scoop: After my first jump one of the guys that lives and works at the dz asked me for a date. I agreed. We had a great date and he said he wanted to see me again (no sex or anything)...we spoke a few times and then things fizzled...we had another date set and I never heard from him. Finally I waited a week and called him, he chalked it up to being busy. I said I just wanted to keep things clean...ya ya ya...another phone call and we set anothe date...which fell through for other reasons...anyway, saw him again when I started my AFF, he was on the plane and was really sweet to me, really nice that day and made things a lot smoother for me. I think that is why I had such a good jump! Then that night he was wishy washy again...so I was sick of trying to figure out what was going on, sick of waiting for a call so I flat out asked him out and he never responded...(damn voice mail)...as soon as I was ready to write him off I get a message which I could not decipher if he was blowing me off or not...and then never heard back, no new calls in like a week and a half...Girls there have told me that he is not the "player" type, that he is a good guy...I feel almost like a fool seeing him, and this is the one reason I am hesitant to go back...I feel like he blew me off and I feel like a fool...and I cannot figure out what went wrong! I mean, I really like who (I thought) he is as a person, and just want to be friendly with him, but I feel blown off. Seeing as he lives and works there, it is uncomfortable going back...so what do I do now when I have fallen so in love with this sport and crave it on a daily basis??? Ooog...lesson 1...do not mix business with pleasure!!! (so to speak)...Tomorrow i am set to jump again, but being a student I do not need the pressure of feeling like he sees me as a joke or something...oog...ack!!! what do I do? Find a new DZ??? thank you...any insights?<--me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hooknswoop 19 #2 September 22, 2002 This is why (one of the reasons anyway) that instructors shouldn't date students. Hook Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #3 September 22, 2002 Welcome to skydiving! From this point forward things get interesting and frustrating in the air, on the ground, at the bar and behind closed doors. Do NOT date your instructors.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #4 September 22, 2002 ...he is not an instructor... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hooknswoop 19 #5 September 22, 2002 Quote...he is not an instructor... You did make it sound as though he was an instructor, two of us thought so....... Hook Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #6 September 22, 2002 QuoteYou did make it sound as though he was an instructor, two of us thought so....... I assumed he was a packer or something.... Anyway, just be sweet to him just like you are to everyone else, and don't sweat it. It's like when dating someone you work with gets awkward. The situation is only as hellacious as you allow it to get. DON'T gossip about him or what y'all did together -- that means no more asking for reports on what kind of guy he is from the other women on the dz. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #7 September 22, 2002 Ahhhh . . . There is an old axiom in skydiving circles that you may want to be aware of before you get too hung up on a fellow skydiver. Skydivers don't lose their girl(boy)friends, they just lose their turn. The rough translation of this is that DZ relationships are made and broken fairly rapidly -- fortunately, there's another one just around the corner (that will also break up rapidly).quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sar911 0 #8 September 22, 2002 Hence the skydiving term "Catch & Release" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyhi 24 #9 September 22, 2002 You can always tell him you're pregnant and you think it's his. J/k. I'm sure we as a social group are no more dynamic than any other, but it sure as hell seems that way. I've seen instructors, TM, packers, and manifesters move from operation to operation in the blink of an eye. The associated relationships did, too. It happens. I would say, continue to jump, be cordial, and don't pursue this relationship. If a next move is to be made, let him make it. And don't let his inability to commit either way affect you. Keep living your life.Shit happens. And it usually happens because of physics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #10 September 22, 2002 Don't think about him for another second! He had his chance and blew it. Now is the time to have pride and dignity. Besides, you are just a student. You have enough on your mind when you go out to the dz with trying to save your ass in the air. Keep your mind on the prize- being a skydiver! She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kevin922 0 #11 September 22, 2002 Hey come to skydive orange, i'll jump with you Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #12 September 22, 2002 QuoteDon't think about him for another second! He had his chance and blew it Yeah, what she said!! ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VisionAir 0 #13 September 22, 2002 Quote. Besides, you are just a student. reply] "Just a student"??????????????? Huh?!? What cloud?!? Oh that!!! That's just Industrial Haze Alex M. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skygal3 0 #14 September 22, 2002 Just a student!!! Hey, we are all "just students" at some point in time...that just happens to be where I am now... Anyway, thank you for the input...I am on my way to the DZ today. The weather looks crappy but hopefully that will improve...As for my skyboy I'm gonna just have to suck it up, smile and let it go...hopefully the thought that skydivers can't remember anything past 2 days ago will apply here. JK...Wish me luck, blue skies, a perfect canopy and a smooth landing!!! ***Good Evening AFF students...Lesson 1...no socializing with the staff...that means you too Katie..now set him down...*** Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skymama 37 #15 September 22, 2002 Quote "Just a student"??????????????? Sorry, I wrote that before the morning coffee kicked in. I SHOULD have written something like, "since you are currently in student training...". We are all students in skydiving-there's always plenty to learn.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites carbonezone 0 #16 September 22, 2002 <<>> i would REALLY suggest that you dont mess with anyone until you have finished your training. a dzo who turned out to be a very good friend noticed i was getting hit on when i first started training and recommended the same thing to me (dont do it). to put it very blunt "dont let ya fu%king interfer with ya jumping". the last thing you need as a student is to feel uncomfortable at the dz. right now...make tons of new friends and then later pick the one you want to play with blues, tami Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites tigra 0 #17 September 22, 2002 Yeah, what she said! Being the new girl at a dz, you are going to get a lot of attention. Its flattering, but don't get carried away. This is now your home dz, and if your training goes well, you'll be spending a lot of time there with your new extended family of jumpers. So take some time to get to know everyone, make friends and focus on your training. You don't need any wierdness while you are just starting out, and the guys will ALWAYS be there. Also, don't read too much into this guy's behaviour. It could mean anything or nothing at all. Just let it go, be friends with him and if anything develops later, great. If not, you have another new friend, and you can never have too many of those! Bobby Sue TTK #27 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #18 September 22, 2002 Quotethe guys will ALWAYS be there. Jeez....you make us sound like such vultures. Not that we are or anything..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lummy 4 #19 September 22, 2002 [Giving Clay a shove] Go find your OWN space to hover[/end vulture mode]I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkymonkeyONE 4 #20 September 22, 2002 QuoteQuote...he is not an instructor... You did make it sound as though he was an instructor, two of us thought so....... Hook Agreed. You made it sound like he was in the food chain. If he is just Joe Shit the Ragman from the DZ, then why are you sweating it at all? You either want to wrassle the dude or you don't. The only problems I have seen are instances where less-than-honorable tandem bitches or other instructors go hitting on their passengers or students. Want to wrassle an instructor? Wait till you have that A-license and have no real ties with him. Chuck A long-time instructor who doesn't hit on students; ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skygal3 0 #21 September 23, 2002 unfortunately, I heard today he is leaving to go south next week. I left a "goodbye" on his voicemail...he does video and tandems...today was windy, i did not get to jump, but he was pretty busy and I think he saw me but not sure. It's funny, I never knew how much a part of the good vibe of the dz he was for me until I found out of him leaving...I said my piece, and now I will probably never hear from him again......so no jumps today, and the leaving thing...makes a skygal pretty sad tonight... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites nws01 0 #22 September 23, 2002 I personaly think you should have sexual intercourse with everyone (including females) at the dropzone. Screw relationships sex if fun and just use protection. Then after hot sex cook each person a nice meal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #23 September 23, 2002 QuoteThen after hot sex cook each person a nice meal. Bwahahahahahahaahaa....Leave it to Nathan.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skygal3 0 #24 September 23, 2002 ha ha ha...too funny. personally, I am working on my born again virgin status...oh, the looks I get at the dz for that...kind of like only scarier... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skygal3 0 #25 September 23, 2002 nathan...where in NE do you jump??? not that I want to cook for you or anything...if you're nice I may share a snickers with you or something...maybe I will roast you a marshmallow... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 5 6 Next Page 1 of 6 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. 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skygal3 0 #14 September 22, 2002 Just a student!!! Hey, we are all "just students" at some point in time...that just happens to be where I am now... Anyway, thank you for the input...I am on my way to the DZ today. The weather looks crappy but hopefully that will improve...As for my skyboy I'm gonna just have to suck it up, smile and let it go...hopefully the thought that skydivers can't remember anything past 2 days ago will apply here. JK...Wish me luck, blue skies, a perfect canopy and a smooth landing!!! ***Good Evening AFF students...Lesson 1...no socializing with the staff...that means you too Katie..now set him down...*** Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #15 September 22, 2002 Quote "Just a student"??????????????? Sorry, I wrote that before the morning coffee kicked in. I SHOULD have written something like, "since you are currently in student training...". We are all students in skydiving-there's always plenty to learn.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
carbonezone 0 #16 September 22, 2002 <<>> i would REALLY suggest that you dont mess with anyone until you have finished your training. a dzo who turned out to be a very good friend noticed i was getting hit on when i first started training and recommended the same thing to me (dont do it). to put it very blunt "dont let ya fu%king interfer with ya jumping". the last thing you need as a student is to feel uncomfortable at the dz. right now...make tons of new friends and then later pick the one you want to play with blues, tami Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #17 September 22, 2002 Yeah, what she said! Being the new girl at a dz, you are going to get a lot of attention. Its flattering, but don't get carried away. This is now your home dz, and if your training goes well, you'll be spending a lot of time there with your new extended family of jumpers. So take some time to get to know everyone, make friends and focus on your training. You don't need any wierdness while you are just starting out, and the guys will ALWAYS be there. Also, don't read too much into this guy's behaviour. It could mean anything or nothing at all. Just let it go, be friends with him and if anything develops later, great. If not, you have another new friend, and you can never have too many of those! Bobby Sue TTK #27 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #18 September 22, 2002 Quotethe guys will ALWAYS be there. Jeez....you make us sound like such vultures. Not that we are or anything..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #19 September 22, 2002 [Giving Clay a shove] Go find your OWN space to hover[/end vulture mode]I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkymonkeyONE 4 #20 September 22, 2002 QuoteQuote...he is not an instructor... You did make it sound as though he was an instructor, two of us thought so....... Hook Agreed. You made it sound like he was in the food chain. If he is just Joe Shit the Ragman from the DZ, then why are you sweating it at all? You either want to wrassle the dude or you don't. The only problems I have seen are instances where less-than-honorable tandem bitches or other instructors go hitting on their passengers or students. Want to wrassle an instructor? Wait till you have that A-license and have no real ties with him. Chuck A long-time instructor who doesn't hit on students; ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #21 September 23, 2002 unfortunately, I heard today he is leaving to go south next week. I left a "goodbye" on his voicemail...he does video and tandems...today was windy, i did not get to jump, but he was pretty busy and I think he saw me but not sure. It's funny, I never knew how much a part of the good vibe of the dz he was for me until I found out of him leaving...I said my piece, and now I will probably never hear from him again......so no jumps today, and the leaving thing...makes a skygal pretty sad tonight... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #22 September 23, 2002 I personaly think you should have sexual intercourse with everyone (including females) at the dropzone. Screw relationships sex if fun and just use protection. Then after hot sex cook each person a nice meal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #23 September 23, 2002 QuoteThen after hot sex cook each person a nice meal. Bwahahahahahahaahaa....Leave it to Nathan.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #24 September 23, 2002 ha ha ha...too funny. personally, I am working on my born again virgin status...oh, the looks I get at the dz for that...kind of like only scarier... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #25 September 23, 2002 nathan...where in NE do you jump??? not that I want to cook for you or anything...if you're nice I may share a snickers with you or something...maybe I will roast you a marshmallow... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
