freebird 0 #1 September 11, 2002 What would you do if you lost your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend? If they died. I would move away and never return.........it would be too sad to face all of the places we once went. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moodyskydiver 0 #2 September 11, 2002 Man,tough question.I'm not sure just what I'd do. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #3 September 11, 2002 I don't think it is possible to answer that unless it happens to you.. I know that the mental pain would be so bad it would hurt physically. When my x took my son that is what I felt. Sheer terror, helplessness, anger, pain. It would suck beyond belief and I would dedicate my life to killing those that killed my loved one.. Rhino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freebird 0 #4 September 11, 2002 Well most people do not want to think about this and should'nt have to I have to though because my husband is very sick. He is getting a new kidney however that does not mean he will ever be as healthy as a normal person. I hope he bounces back after the transplant......he is only 36 Im 29 and we should have many years ahead of us. I do have to consider the what if though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygeek 0 #5 September 11, 2002 I would quit my job sell everything I own and become a dz bum. Aside from my wife, jumping is the only thing that brings me joy. Sorry to hear of your pain. Best wishes. Good Vides Welcome to the New World Order. Expect no Mercy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kingbunky 3 #6 September 11, 2002 i'm with you, cutaway, then run away... for a little while anyways."Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart." MB4252 TDS699 killing threads since 2001 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #7 September 11, 2002 I apologize in advance if I screw this up. You are clearly in a vulnerable place, and I want to tell you what you need to hear, and I may get lucky, but usually all I have is the truth. I would suffer the pain of hell. I would adopt a mantle of normalcy for my children and pray that I was doing what was right for them. My needs are secondary to theirs. If you have kids, I'd suggest you lose yourself in caring for them. If it was just the two of us, I'd take a long sabbatical, like 6 months, and then I'd either go back to work, or go get my ratings and work a DZ. I honestly don't know. I'd have to create a world without my wife in it, and I won't do that unless I'm forced to. Hang in there. It is always darkest before the dawn. -Cheesy, but pretty true. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #8 September 11, 2002 I would go to the mountain top and cry out of my own selfishness and loss; then I would go jump out of an airplane to celebrate the continued life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rgoper 0 #9 September 12, 2002 QuoteI would go to the mountain top and cry out of my own selfishness and loss; then I would go jump out of an airplane to celebrate the continued life. that's exactly what i'd do.--Richard-- "We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kris 0 #10 September 12, 2002 It is truly ironic that you asked this, Tiff. I lost my Fiance a few years ago to complications from diabetes. We had been together 5 years, living toghether 4 of those. She was awaiting transplant of a kidney and pancreas. She was truly my best friend and the most loving, compassionate, and beautiful woman I have ever known. She had a grace of being that I feel truly blessed to have been a part of, even if for a short time. Her loss was staggering to me. I literally went numb for months. People say then when someone they love passes, a part of them dies too. I never knew the truth until it happened. I had to stop skydiving for a while because I couldn't trust myself. When I started dating a couple of years afterwards, that was another hard part. I felt like I was betraying her and I couldn't keep any of the relationships going because I kept trying to compare them to her. I finally realized that she was probably looking down on me with her famous, "You're a nut, but I luv' ya', keep moving." looks and I know she would probably arrange to find a way to haunt me for the rest of my days if I didn't move on with life. That's just how she was. Tiff, laugh, love and play with your mate every chance that you get. In the end, it's better to have as few regrets as possible. If you're thinking of a vacation together, do it. If you've been wanting to try something together, do it. Just spend *quality* time with each other. I hope everything goes well with his surgery. Kris Donna Ryles 1/15/71 - 7/29/99Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #11 September 12, 2002 I lost my mother to cancer when I was 16. I think that can compare. Words can not describe it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scottbre 0 #12 September 12, 2002 QuoteWhat would you do if you lost your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend? If they died. What wife or girlfriend? "Your mother's full of stupidjuice!" My Art Project Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
prepheckt 0 #13 September 12, 2002 QuoteTiff, laugh, love and play with your mate every chance that you get. In the end, it's better to have as few regrets as possible. If you're thinking of a vacation together, do it. If you've been wanting to try something together, do it. Just spend *quality* time with each other.Quote I agree. And whatever happens, we'll be here for you. Best wishes. I'll keep you two in my prayers. I hope this isn't inappropriate, could you give an address that we can send cards, flowers..etc. It's the best I can do. Best Wishes and blue ones, Israel"Dancing Argentine Tango is like doing calculus with your feet." -9 toes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skydiverchick 0 #14 September 12, 2002 I lost a boyfriend when I was 18 to a drug overdose. It sucked reallly bad and I took up skydiving. I realized through that and the other losses in my life that you can't stop living because someone else does. You have to pick up and move on. Live out your dreams whatever they are and live with no regrets. That is what your loved one would have wanted anyways. I hope you don't have to deal with a loss but even if you do... for every ending there is a begining...no one is alone in this world...and everything happens for a reason...even if you don't know what that reason is!!!! Peace, love and LIFE forever Mother Hen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SniperCJ 0 #15 September 12, 2002 Having been there about 3 years ago, I can tell you the pain is enormous. Lost a girlfriend to a brain aneurysm. You surround yourself with compasionate friends, you let time run its course, and you cry a lot. Little by little the pain lessens (but never goes away) and you get on with your life. Although I have a live in girlfriend, I still visit Bev's burial site on occasion. The gf understands that it is something that I need to do sometimes. JC Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites rgoper 0 #16 September 12, 2002 QuoteDonna Ryles 1/15/71 - 7/29/99 Kris: you have my deepest condolences for your loss. the fact that you "carried on" speaks well of your strength of charachter. take care.--Richard-- "We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freebird 0 #17 September 12, 2002 I would just go far away from here............ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
skydiverchick 0 #14 September 12, 2002 I lost a boyfriend when I was 18 to a drug overdose. It sucked reallly bad and I took up skydiving. I realized through that and the other losses in my life that you can't stop living because someone else does. You have to pick up and move on. Live out your dreams whatever they are and live with no regrets. That is what your loved one would have wanted anyways. I hope you don't have to deal with a loss but even if you do... for every ending there is a begining...no one is alone in this world...and everything happens for a reason...even if you don't know what that reason is!!!! Peace, love and LIFE forever Mother Hen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SniperCJ 0 #15 September 12, 2002 Having been there about 3 years ago, I can tell you the pain is enormous. Lost a girlfriend to a brain aneurysm. You surround yourself with compasionate friends, you let time run its course, and you cry a lot. Little by little the pain lessens (but never goes away) and you get on with your life. Although I have a live in girlfriend, I still visit Bev's burial site on occasion. The gf understands that it is something that I need to do sometimes. JC Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rgoper 0 #16 September 12, 2002 QuoteDonna Ryles 1/15/71 - 7/29/99 Kris: you have my deepest condolences for your loss. the fact that you "carried on" speaks well of your strength of charachter. take care.--Richard-- "We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freebird 0 #17 September 12, 2002 I would just go far away from here............ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
