skybytch 273 #1 September 7, 2002 Teenage boys suck. Especially those 18 year olds who've graduated from high school and think that means they can do whatever the hell they want. I swear, I'm this close to throwing everything my kid owns out in the dirt and changing the locks. He's supposed to pay $100 every payday to help with the rent and bills. Payday was yesterday. Ask him for the money tonight. "I don't have it" Bull shit. He had enough to buy unneeded parts for his truck. Not like I was counting on that money to pay the bills with. Ya think the electric company, gas company and phone company give a shit? Grrr. Friendly advice. Don't have kids. They'll suck you dry, then ask for more. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #2 September 7, 2002 Having a nice day Lisa? Take a deep breath and relax. Just think...one day he will have to pay for your nursing home. You'll get your revenge. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aneblett 0 #3 September 7, 2002 My 20 year old brother pulls the same BS on my parents.... hang tough and skydive lots.... you will feel better... AdrianS.E.X. party #2 ..It is far worse to live with fear, than to die confronting it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbrian 0 #4 September 7, 2002 Sounds like he doesn't have much appreciation for how far $100 will go. A couple steak knives in his tires might help him understand. In a world full of people, only some want to fly... isn't that crazy! --Seal Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #5 September 7, 2002 QuoteA couple steak knives in his tires might help him understand. That's just mean!!! "Dude...I can't go out this weekend. My Mom slashed my tires..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iflyme 0 #6 September 7, 2002 QuoteDon't have kidsHmmm ... may be too late already ... mine are 8 and 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #7 September 7, 2002 My Theory on Child Rearing: When they are born, Put them in an old wooden Barrel and feed them through the Bung Hole. When they hit the Teen Years, Plug the Hole!! (Actually I have a 10 yo Daughter and she is the best thing that ever happened to me. Keeps daddy in line, Something no one else has ever been able to do.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gravitysurf808 0 #8 September 7, 2002 Wow you're a very cool mom!! "I don't have it" was not a possible answer back when I was his age. Actually I was pretty much on my own by mid-senior year of high school. My parents (God bless them) would send me $20 per week for room and board and I came up with the rest. It was a mutual arrangement that worked out well for both of us. If memory serves I started developing a true appreciation for everything my parent(s) had always provided for me around 10 months of being out on my own. Independance was a perfect wake up call. It's a sink or swim kind of thing. I love them more each day. I believe the song goes...."You have to be cruel to be kind". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sar911 0 #9 September 7, 2002 Trust me when I say (from having 4 kids), this is the age that they know evreything and if you don't think so just ask them. When he is about 22 god will give you your kid back. In the meantime set rules with good and bad consequences and stick to it, no exceptions, such as "you have to pay $100 by the 10th of each month", on the 11th lock him out. Don't get into an argument, be calm, you are in control. He will sleep in his truck once and either come up with the money or move out. It may seen harsh but it what us parents call tough love. Two of our kids moved out and two followed the rules. They are adults now and I could not ask for better kids. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jimbo 0 #10 September 7, 2002 Fuck him, goddamn liar. Take his keys and lock him out until pays up. He'll learn quick. - Jim"Like" - The modern day comma Good bye, my friends. You are missed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy 0 #11 September 7, 2002 Amen to this advice. My son is 23 and is finally becoming human again. From 18 to now has been tough. I've had to some "tough love" things. But he's growing up. Get tough, hang in there but get tough. Sassy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moodyskydiver 0 #12 September 7, 2002 Pull the old "live in my house then live by my rules" thing. My parents loved that one. But I cant say much.I'm 20 and live (rent free and restriction free) at my parents house while I'm in college.But I do help out-taking care of the horses,help training, grooming etc. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hooked 0 #13 September 7, 2002 Doesn't make it easier now, but......eventually they do move out! Ah, I remember those years.....I have two grown sons. They both turned out to be great and responsible. You see, their payback will be with their own kids! J -------------------------------------- Sometimes we're just being Humans.....But we're always Human Beings. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #14 September 7, 2002 Hehehe.... does it help that I'm still in this age group? The majority of us kids are just looking for something to put the energy towards... get his ass out to the DZ since he liked his L1 so much....Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
drenaline 0 #15 September 7, 2002 Hey bytch relax, have a cold beer a cold shower and calm down. the double R rule that moody said is a very good one "my Roof my Rules", if he doesn't pays he wont get the privilege (no phone, can't use electric stuff, eat raw cold meal and no bed), he will get the idea of the game and will start playing by your rules or will go away all by himself. HISPA 21 www.panamafreefall.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VivaHeadDown 0 #16 September 7, 2002 Yeah, I tried moving out. Went to college, got edumacated and the lot. Then I was told rocket science isn't hiring right now. Well when they hell will they???? God bless my parents, they have more patience than I would. Sign him up to be a loader at Perris, that's always a good way to make him appreciate a dollar. Or two if he works overtime. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sitflyr 0 #17 September 7, 2002 I know exactly what you mean, Lisa. There was a time when my son had two out-of-state girlfriends at the same time. He called both of them every day; but when the phone bill came, he pulled the "I don't have it" trick. After a few of months of this, we made him get his own phone. (Those girls became far less attractive when HE had to pay his phone bill.) Hang in there! Julie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brianthomas1966 0 #18 September 7, 2002 Jim, Don't hold back, man! Let it out and tell us how you feel. Brian Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #19 September 7, 2002 Lisa: You are a very cool mom. I had a very hot temper when I was growing up and gave my folks lots of grief and anguish. I moved out early before I graduated HS and had to start work very early in life. Luckily, I'm a programmer geek so I managed to earn enough to stay afloat. After several years, _I_ was giving my parents loans (last one was for $5,000 to drill a water well on their property) and I wasn't even at drinking age yet! I'm 25 now and still haven't asked them for a single dime. So far I'm surviving the tech bust and I'm paying my own way, albeit very slow way, through college. They are very proud of me for having working brain cells. Don't discount your son just yet, someday they'll he'll be there to save your ass when you need it. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #20 September 7, 2002 One thought Lisa.... Force your son into being a pack bitch to make up for it. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unutsch 0 #21 September 7, 2002 Well, mrs. skybytch I can understand you 100°%. But on the other hand, I am 21 years old (just a month away from my 22nd birthday), I jump, and live at my parents and have to pay them 20.000 Slovenian tolars (around 86$) a month for expenses. And right now, I owe them 60.000 Slovenian tolars for July, August, and September. I spent all my money on skydiving. And that's why I can understand your son too. Thank god my parents understand my addiction with skydiving (my father made 8 jumps in the 70's with those round canopies) and don't panic about the money, cause they know they'll get it eventualy (I promissed I'll give it them next week). RiGHT oN!!!Quote Check out the site of the Fallen Angels FreeflY Organisation: http://www.padliangeli.org Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites christoofar 0 #22 September 7, 2002 QuoteWell, mrs. skybytch I can understand you 100°%. But on the other hand, I am 21 years old (just a month away from my 22nd birthday), I jump, and live at my parents and have to pay them 20.000 Slovenian tolars (around 86$) a month for expenses. And right now, I owe them 60.000 Slovenian tolars for July, August, and September. I spent all my money on skydiving. And that's why I can understand your son too. Thank god my parents understand my addiction with skydiving (my father made 8 jumps in the 70's with those round canopies) and don't panic about the money, cause they know they'll get it eventualy (I promissed I'll give it them next week). RiGHT oN!!!Quote It must be great to have non-whuffo parents. But then again, non-whuffo parents know _everything_ about skydiving culture and know EXACTLY what you are up to, ALL the time! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites rhino 0 #23 September 7, 2002 Lisa, Kicking him out is EXACTLY what you need to do.. He has to learn not to take his mom and people in general for granted. Hard and Tough love is still love Tell him either he goes to college FULL time, he gets in the military to pay his own way or he gets the hell out. Do not let him take your generosity for granted for a second. He should be thankfull and appreciative for you giving him a place to live.. Hang in there lady Rob Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wmw999 2,485 #24 September 7, 2002 [I swear, I'm this close to throwing everything my kid owns out in the dirt and changing the locks. Do it. I have an 18-year-old (he lives with his dad). He informs me that 18-year-olds DO understand consquences -- they just hope their parents don't. Actually, mine is really cool, but he wasn't born this way... Ya think the electric company, gas company and phone company give a shit? Well, you could remove the door from his room (does he pay extra for privacy?) Grrr. Friendly advice. Don't have kids. They'll suck you dry, then ask for more. That's their job. Don't they do it well? Now go yell at someone else or throw some things, so that you can just be calm with him and tell him it's time to find out what "on my own" really means. Good luck.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mountainman 0 #25 September 7, 2002 As a 22 year old, I can agree with those who say that we "grow up" from about 18 to now. When going through college, I always thought I had it figured out and knew what I needed to know. Well, after I got married (at age 20), I realized more and more that my parents are the smartest people that I know and everything they have ever done for me was for my own good. I wish I would have known this at about age 12. Don't worry, Lisa. He'll come around someday. You just may have to put your foot down and be the mean "bytch" for awhile. Good luck. http://www.brandonandlaura.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
christoofar 0 #22 September 7, 2002 QuoteWell, mrs. skybytch I can understand you 100°%. But on the other hand, I am 21 years old (just a month away from my 22nd birthday), I jump, and live at my parents and have to pay them 20.000 Slovenian tolars (around 86$) a month for expenses. And right now, I owe them 60.000 Slovenian tolars for July, August, and September. I spent all my money on skydiving. And that's why I can understand your son too. Thank god my parents understand my addiction with skydiving (my father made 8 jumps in the 70's with those round canopies) and don't panic about the money, cause they know they'll get it eventualy (I promissed I'll give it them next week). RiGHT oN!!!Quote It must be great to have non-whuffo parents. But then again, non-whuffo parents know _everything_ about skydiving culture and know EXACTLY what you are up to, ALL the time! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites rhino 0 #23 September 7, 2002 Lisa, Kicking him out is EXACTLY what you need to do.. He has to learn not to take his mom and people in general for granted. Hard and Tough love is still love Tell him either he goes to college FULL time, he gets in the military to pay his own way or he gets the hell out. Do not let him take your generosity for granted for a second. He should be thankfull and appreciative for you giving him a place to live.. Hang in there lady Rob Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wmw999 2,485 #24 September 7, 2002 [I swear, I'm this close to throwing everything my kid owns out in the dirt and changing the locks. Do it. I have an 18-year-old (he lives with his dad). He informs me that 18-year-olds DO understand consquences -- they just hope their parents don't. Actually, mine is really cool, but he wasn't born this way... Ya think the electric company, gas company and phone company give a shit? Well, you could remove the door from his room (does he pay extra for privacy?) Grrr. Friendly advice. Don't have kids. They'll suck you dry, then ask for more. That's their job. Don't they do it well? Now go yell at someone else or throw some things, so that you can just be calm with him and tell him it's time to find out what "on my own" really means. Good luck.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mountainman 0 #25 September 7, 2002 As a 22 year old, I can agree with those who say that we "grow up" from about 18 to now. When going through college, I always thought I had it figured out and knew what I needed to know. Well, after I got married (at age 20), I realized more and more that my parents are the smartest people that I know and everything they have ever done for me was for my own good. I wish I would have known this at about age 12. Don't worry, Lisa. He'll come around someday. You just may have to put your foot down and be the mean "bytch" for awhile. Good luck. http://www.brandonandlaura.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
rhino 0 #23 September 7, 2002 Lisa, Kicking him out is EXACTLY what you need to do.. He has to learn not to take his mom and people in general for granted. Hard and Tough love is still love Tell him either he goes to college FULL time, he gets in the military to pay his own way or he gets the hell out. Do not let him take your generosity for granted for a second. He should be thankfull and appreciative for you giving him a place to live.. Hang in there lady Rob Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,485 #24 September 7, 2002 [I swear, I'm this close to throwing everything my kid owns out in the dirt and changing the locks. Do it. I have an 18-year-old (he lives with his dad). He informs me that 18-year-olds DO understand consquences -- they just hope their parents don't. Actually, mine is really cool, but he wasn't born this way... Ya think the electric company, gas company and phone company give a shit? Well, you could remove the door from his room (does he pay extra for privacy?) Grrr. Friendly advice. Don't have kids. They'll suck you dry, then ask for more. That's their job. Don't they do it well? Now go yell at someone else or throw some things, so that you can just be calm with him and tell him it's time to find out what "on my own" really means. Good luck.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mountainman 0 #25 September 7, 2002 As a 22 year old, I can agree with those who say that we "grow up" from about 18 to now. When going through college, I always thought I had it figured out and knew what I needed to know. Well, after I got married (at age 20), I realized more and more that my parents are the smartest people that I know and everything they have ever done for me was for my own good. I wish I would have known this at about age 12. Don't worry, Lisa. He'll come around someday. You just may have to put your foot down and be the mean "bytch" for awhile. Good luck. http://www.brandonandlaura.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
