JumpNFly 0 #1 August 16, 2002 Figured we needed a separate post just for this topic... we are working on the female answer, But I think we deserve a bit of an explanation as well... by now, you all know that women are emotional creatures...we thrive on "the way we feel", and also the way MEN, make us feel... Not saying that dictates our lives, but when it comes to many of the conflicts between men and women, this seems to be the root of the problem. we like to talk, you don'twe like to FIGURE OUT WHATS Wrong, you just want to be left alone... A compromise has to be reached somewhere people... SO MEN, START EXPLANIN The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #2 August 16, 2002 ok you lost me...Um what is the question? My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diverdriver 5 #3 August 16, 2002 Quotewe like to talk, you don't We can't get a word in edgewise cuz you won't shut up. Quotewe like to FIGURE OUT WHATS Wrong, you just want to be left alone... We know what's wrong.....YOU screwed up! Meant in total sarcasm and fun.! LOL....oh I'm gonna get kicked for this! Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #4 August 16, 2002 QuoteQuotewe like to talk, you don't We can't get a word in edgewise cuz you won't shut up. Quotewe like to FIGURE OUT WHATS Wrong, you just want to be left alone... We know what's wrong.....YOU screwed up! Meant in total sarcasm and fun.! LOL....oh I'm gonna get kicked for this! Chris HEy , remond the womean YOU ARE THE ONE TAKING THEM TO ALTITUDE...they wont kick you...and they have to show bboies if they want MORE!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #5 August 16, 2002 oh yea...YOU BASTARD!!!!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #6 August 16, 2002 the question... what posses you guys to do the things you do... I Just don't get it... do you mean to hurt us when you say things or do you just not realize that they are going to be hurtful... The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goose491 0 #7 August 16, 2002 Quote we like to talk, too much Quote we like to FIGURE OUT WHATS Wrong, you just want to be left alone... If your boyfriend askes:"what's wrong?" you WILL say "Nothing" for the first say, fifty times... Then, you will finally let us start guessing in a getting warmer... getting colder type of manner, we may just find out "what's wrong". Anyway, I'm with Jvtal.. What's the question? My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #8 August 16, 2002 then again, maybe I really don't know what the question is... I just know that I got my feelings hurt last night and I'm being a brat today.... like I said, I Just don't understand why some men don't think before they say things... UGH frustrating The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #9 August 16, 2002 QuoteQuoteIf your boyfriend askes:"what's wrong?" you WILL say "Nothing" for the first say, fifty times... Then, you will finally let us start guessing in a getting warmer... getting colder type of manner, we may just find out "what's wrong". Anyway, I'm with Jvtal.. What's the question? The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #10 August 16, 2002 Quote do you mean to hurt us when you say things or do you just not realize that they are going to be hurtful... there you go STEREOTYPING us ..haha well I will save this conversation for those who are ready to give you the answer you are looking for. I have no experience in being an asshole to ppl I care about. sure you may think My "penis" gives me roght to passage but your eworng there... P.S. I am totally sarcastic here, fo rthe sake of being sarcastic..(and I am drinking) no hard feeling but I actually Like to think I am not like to stereotypical guy...maybe that MAKES me the steroetypical guy but umm whoa Im confusedMy photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diverdriver 5 #11 August 16, 2002 JumpNFly, everyone says things that make others get their feelings hurt. It has nothing to with guys/girls. It has to do with the fact we are all human and we don't read minds. It goes both ways. Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpy 0 #12 August 16, 2002 Quotedo you just not realize that they are going to be hurtful... i'd have to go with that option....i rarely think about what i say and then i say and go stupid stupid stupid... lol Also! why do you always have to look so deep into things? now that can be annoying Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
narcimund 0 #13 August 16, 2002 You know, with all this talk about women not getting along with men and men getting nowhere with women, you'd start to wonder... Nah, most people aren't that smart! First Class Citizen Twice Over Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shark 0 #14 August 16, 2002 Skydivers or whuffos? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #15 August 16, 2002 I don't always look this deep into things, like I sad he just said something last night that hurt my feelings so I"m being a whiney little brat today.... Guess I do have to give you guys a break... SOrry...you know how it is, I'm just being a woman for the most part I don't think you are all assholes and mean just that you need to think sometimes before you speak... The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scottbre 0 #16 August 16, 2002 There's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. (NOTE: cross-posted from the "so what compels the female" thread) "Your mother's full of stupidjuice!" My Art Project Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kingbunky 3 #17 August 16, 2002 the thing is, when a guy says something and there's a good way to take it, and a bad way to take it, most women will take it the bad way, when we usually meant the good way. "Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart." MB4252 TDS699 killing threads since 2001 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jessefs 0 #18 August 16, 2002 Males and Females are just different, period! We are supposed to be different so that during interaction, things like getting your feelings hurt, falling in love, getting pissed/happy/depressed, etc....happen on purpose. What fun would life be and what experience would you get if you just had one emotion turned on all the time. You can analize one or the other to death if you want to but we are just plain different. This in no way excuses any intentionally inconsiderate or irrational behavior, but if you put yourself in the other shoes or even take this message board for example, words are misunderstood and twisted and sometimes don't come out exactly right. (Pardon my rambling but I just woke up and the 'ol ticker ain't quite up to speed yet) So, sometimes you can't take things quite so personally but Gretchen.....if this is issue is getting to you, you just gotta say fuck it.....i'm jumpin out of a plane this weekend Cheers Jesse <* Spread the Love! *> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #19 August 16, 2002 Quotethat you need to think sometimes before you speak... OK....I remember this one happening a lot when I was married. My Mom does this a lot too. For some reason women like to think that people go out of their way to hurt their feelings. Well.....I can tell you that isn't true. We say things that are the way we feel. Period....if we were deliberately trying to hurt your feelings...trust me.....you'll know! I think women often give men more credit than they are due. We really aren't that sly and are quite direct. IE...If we say....I don't like that hair style..it's well, because we don't like that hair style. If we say "F%$k off bitch".....we're trying to hurt your feelings.....Get it..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
captainquim 0 #20 August 16, 2002 i think that the reason these differences occur is ingrained in our psyches. historically, women need A man to give them kiddies, take care of the kiddies and themselves by finding food and protecting them generally. men want sex - as much as possible to spread their gene pool far and wide. this means that our two genders think in very different ways becasue what is important to the relevant sexes is opposite - meaning that we find each other's behaviour unintelligible and even deplorable. now you can say that this no longer applies in the modern world - equality etc. now i agree with this in principle, but i believe that these attitudes that i have mentioned are inate. we act instinctively just as female penguins indulge in prostitution (they sh@g for rocks to build their nests) - no one told them to do this - they just do it. nevermind. at least we have planes, fuel and parachutes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #21 August 16, 2002 Quotethey sh@g for rocks to build their nests Dirty whores!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #22 August 16, 2002 Give us problems we can fix. I have no idea if I'm typical, but I can be helpful if you let me know where we're going in a conversation. I think there's usually only two. 1. I need your help with something (my boss is screwing with me, so-and-so did something mean to me, how do I get back at her, the faucets dripping) 2. I don't need your help or advice and I want you to agree with everything I am about to say except when I'm down on my own appearance(bitchbitchbitch) I think the guy's name is Paul Gray, who wrote that Mars/Venus stuff. It's an oversimplification but it's a good listen. My wife and I listened to the book on tape on a road trip a few years ago. I recommend it. I know that I get impatient when I don't know what kind of conversation I'm having with a woman. If I'm trying to devise a solution when I'm having a "just listen to me" I'll piss her off. If I'm just listening compassionately when I'm supposed to be finding a fix I'll piss her off. If I ask what kind of conversation we're having a couple minutes in I may piss her off, women's prerogative. I will have been married to this woman for 16 years in September and we lived together for two years before that. I think of conversations as adventures and if I'm good-natured about them, and she is too, odds are I won't end up being called a name. If I do it right she may call me Mountmeestud. I don't mind that at all Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
captainquim 0 #23 August 16, 2002 yeah check it out Prostitute penguins fcuk for rocks Penguins need stones to build their nests. Shortages of the stones have seen female penguins trading sex for stones - the only known instance of prostitution in the animal world. The game birds find an unsuspecting single male, shag him and then run off with his stone. Their partners remain blissfully unaware of their mate's dark sexual secrets. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #24 August 16, 2002 Deuce....I can definately tell that you have been married for 16 years. My parents have been married for somewhere around 35-38. On the surface it seems they can't stand each other. Below that I know they couldn't get along without one another. That's pretty cool..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #25 August 16, 2002 I think one of the reasons we don't like to talk is because women tend to ask loaded questions like "Do I look fat in this dress?". Is there really a correct answer to this question? And Jtval, what is this word? Quoteeworng _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
