airborne31582 0 #1 July 31, 2002 I just broke up withmy girlfrend of one year, it seems that she feels I don't pay any attention to her, she didn't like that I spent my weekends at the dropzone. Te funnies thing is I looked into my wallet andI actually have money, can't wait to spend it this wekend Chris I thought of the odds of me succeeding, versus the odds I was doing something incredibly stupid, and I went ahead anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hobbes4star 0 #2 July 31, 2002 good for you....now you will have even more time to jump..if fun were easy it wouldn't be worth having, right? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wlie 0 #3 July 31, 2002 Buy me jumps. Or beer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TEB6363 0 #4 August 1, 2002 More jump money, more time to jump. Heck there are women out there who will be very supportive of you jumping, keep looking. Once the plane takes off, you're gonna have to land - Might as well jump out!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #5 August 1, 2002 If it's any consolation, my on again, off again, on again marriage looks like it's off again. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #6 August 2, 2002 chris, maybe you were better off w/o her . find a skyDIVA. zennie, sorry to hear it. If I am not mistaken your marriage had years behind it, that is why it may seem I contradict myself here when I say; I hope everything works out for ya. what ever happens at least you got a neutral ear (us) to talk to.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SAMPLEKSample 0 #7 August 2, 2002 I think there are few people who can share life without directly sharing the passion behind skydiving... some make it b/c there is a level of respect... then so many pretend or try... not everyone was meant to fly...but ones who do...its difficult to push away something so strong when you were always meant to skydive! Independence is such a quality among us...its tough, but so beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #8 August 2, 2002 QuoteIf I am not mistaken your marriage had years behind it 6 years married. 4 years dating before that. A lot of good and hard times shared together in that time. Not to get into the gory details, but I just can't continue to put emotional energy into a one-sided relationship. It just hurts too much. Maybe she'll come around, but I really doubt it. In any event, I moved back out of the house so she has plenty of time & space to think about what she wants. Well, not too much time. You can only be indecisive for so long before the decision is made for you. Anyway, thanks for the encouragement. It's friends like y'all who have made this much more bearable. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #9 August 2, 2002 good luck Zennie, that a long time for her to just give up. cant give any advice there. Take it one day at a time and dont dwell on it. thats about all I can offer.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #10 August 2, 2002 QuoteTake it one day at a time and dont dwell on it. thats about all I can offer Yeah, and that's about all one can do. You can't make someone love you. You can't control other people's decisions. You can just do your best on your end. If that doesn't get you anywhere... well ... you did your best. And I'm satisfied with the effort I've put in on my end. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyD 0 #11 August 2, 2002 I think you should hook up with Viking. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #12 August 2, 2002 well at least you did what you needed too. have a good weekend .(i wont be jumping but I wont be around a computer either) so tell me about the jumps on monday!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blinky 0 #13 August 2, 2002 Life is all about being as happy as you can be. If your're happy being single and jumping, cool. If your other half isn't willing to give you the time to do something you have such a passion for then she clearly doesn't want what's best for you. My ex said she thought it was sad that I'd rather go jumping and be single than be married and not jump. I don't think she understood how happy jumping makes you (she was a whuffo) - and that's what's really sad. Blue skies Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyhi 24 #14 August 2, 2002 Quoteshe feels I don't pay any attention to her, "She broke up with me. Said something about I didn't listen to her, or something. I wasn't really paying attention." Badly misquoted from "Dumb and Dumber".Shit happens. And it usually happens because of physics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #15 August 2, 2002 Zennie... I have been where you are (10 yrs married and 2 dating), and like you I finally had to say "I count too" and filed for divorce. It was the best thing I ever did. My girls and I are all much happier and I am enjoying life. I took up skydiving after the divorce so that was not an issue... my sense of self worth was the only issue we had. I guess with all that rambling (it's early for me as today is my seocnd day back at work and I used to sleeping until 10 and hanging by the pool)my point not so eloquently (sp) stated is.... don't let it go on to the point that you start doubting yourself and wind up getting hurt even more. Either you two come to an agreement or cutaway. Feel free to PM me if you need an ear. Lisa -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dida 0 #16 August 2, 2002 for me it was five years married after two years of dating...when we realized we both wanted completely different things out of life. we had grown in opposite directions and our lifestyles were no longer compatible. we decided to split, which was an agonizing decision because we still cared for each other, but knew that if we stayed together, no matter what we did, one of us would be unhappy. as difficult as it was at the time, it turned out for the better in the end: he is remarried and very happy. i started traveling and skydiving and met my boyfriend at the dz! the moral of this story (good god) is that it is so important to be true to yourself. in the end the heartache will make you stronger and wiser. and you will ALWAYS have the love and support of your skydiving family!!! (big hug) spiral out...keep going... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #17 August 3, 2002 Don't be too hard on yourself Zennie. I'm there with ya....but after reading all those long stories about divorce here's one you can appreciate. My ex-wife is just a stupid, evil, slut. It didn't work out....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #18 August 3, 2002 QuoteDon't be too hard on yourself Zennie. I'm there with ya....but after reading all those long stories about divorce here's one you can appreciate. My ex-wife is just a stupid, evil, slut. It didn't work out....... HAHHA I think I met her Clay. she was the one with the boobies right? and she had the hair. and she would constantly breathe in and out ,right.? Yea I know who youre talking about. either that or we have dated the same TYPE of women!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #19 August 3, 2002 QuoteI think I met her Clay One of these days...when my law suits are settled and I no longer have an attorney on retainer I'll post some really nice pics of her...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #20 August 3, 2002 QuoteMy ex-wife is just a stupid, evil, slut To be honest I'm not sure exactly what my wife is right now. Sure as hell isn't the person I married. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #21 August 3, 2002 QuoteSure as hell isn't the person I married Yeah she is....it just took this long for her to stop pretending.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #22 August 5, 2002 Don't listen to Clay. Honestly....to hear you guys we are all terrible. If that is the case then please stop begging to see our boobies. Oh and JT, at least I haven't tied to kill you like you did me (A year ago this weekend). -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #23 August 5, 2002 Its already been a year huh. wow how time FLIES.(pun intended) actually Lisa, I was aiming for Jon. HHA you just had too good a grip on him. I still feel bad about it though. but its nice for you to remind me.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #24 August 5, 2002 Clay, if your lawsuits are like mine you'll never post her picture! As for the guy with money, go have fun and don't let it get you down if its meant to be you will be back with her. If your at a relief ......Don't bother. Don't go back to something that makes you unhappy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
megscott73 0 #25 August 5, 2002 hey, I think I can add to this thread. Ok, technically I guess I'm not a skydiver yet with only one jump, but I just got dumped tonight. It sucks.======================= "What I want is what I've not got ,but what I need is all around me"-DMB Meghan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
